Tinder : A Tinder message that made me feel bad and good at the same time. Wholesome AF
A Tinder message that made me feel bad and good at the same time. Wholesome AF
By. joshnoua
in Tinder
Tinder : A Tinder message that made me feel bad and good at the same time. Wholesome AF
Damn, best way to be let down, eloquently
This is what every „no“ should be like.
Goddamn this was well worded
I almost always write people a nice message after I’ve met them, whether we are going to continue to hang out or not. I feel like it is a very small thing that I can do that can actually make someone feel good about themselves. I always include a compliment about their dick, because I think that usually has the most impact of any type of compliment and I can *always* find something nice to say about a dick.
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You shouldn’t have worn the fedora dude.
Wtf is this a job rejection? Because that whole essay that I skim sound like he failed a relationship interview
I sent something like this to a guy I wasnt interested in pursuing anything with after our date and he went crazy over it, flooded me with a bunch of « whys » and then hateful texts, had to block his number. So, good for you for not escalating it to that.
She was honest and cool with you. That’s something some couples can’t even say they have, so you were doing something right. You’ll find that someone! ⭐️
His reply: K
Do you tenderly care for people josh?
Great post OP. Reading this in r/all I couldn’t help but feel sad that you guys didn’t connect but also really impressed by the classy and straight up way your date laid it down. Good luck to you.
Was recently in a similar situation. Nice girl, attractive, good conversations on our first date, but I just didn’t feel like pursuing it.
Didn’t know what to do and my friends suggested ghosting her and that a message like this would just hurt her feelings. Better to say nothing. But it just didn’t feel right and I know *I* would have wanted a message instead of ghosting.
So I wrote her a reasonably short message telling her that I thought the date was nice, reassured her that a compliment I gave her during the date was sincere, but I don’t feel like pursuing this further.
She responded that she was disappointed, because she enjoyed the date, but that she was really glad and thinks it’s « 1000 times better » I let her know instead of just ghosting her.
Sending the message actually hurt, it’s hard to tell someone off that might have different expectations, but I’m still convinced it’s just the right thing to do and will continue to do so.
That’s really thoughtful. I’ve been a bit of a dick in the past when it came to ending things with girls tbh. I ought to be more like this in the future.
OPs response is cut out cause it was something like:
* »What the fuck did you just fucking say about me, you little bitch? I’ll have you know I graduated top of my class in the Navy Seals, and I’ve been involved in numerous secret raids on Al-Quaeda, and I have over 300 confirmed kills. I am trained in gorilla warfare and I’m the top sniper in the entire US armed forces. You are nothing to me but just another target. I will wipe you the fuck out with precision the likes of which has never been seen before on this Earth, mark my fucking words. You think you can get away with saying that shit to me over the Internet? Think again, fucker. As we speak I am contacting my secret network of spies across the USA and your IP is being traced right now so you better prepare for the storm, maggot. The storm that wipes out the pathetic little thing you call your life. You’re fucking dead, kid. I can be anywhere, anytime, and I can kill you in over seven hundred ways, and that’s just with my bare hands. Not only am I extensively trained in unarmed combat, but I have access to the entire arsenal of the United States Marine Corps and I will use it to its full extent to wipe your miserable ass off the face of the continent, you little shit. If only you could have known what unholy retribution your little « clever » comment was about to bring down upon you, maybe you would have held your fucking tongue. But you couldn’t, you didn’t, and now you’re paying the price, you goddamn idiot. I will shit fury all over you and you will drown in it. You’re fucking dead, kiddo. »*
You get the idea of what I was going for.
Total restecp
Honestly, I’d rather be ghosted.
Did she say why?
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The willfulness of trying not to ghost is so mature, and really admirable. Very kudos to her.
Sounds like the tinder version of getting a job rejection
so no head?
Aw, this is nice.
I’m real sorry this didn’t work out for you, but at the same time, she’s put a lot of time and effort into crafting this. If she usually ghosts, this is a significant time investment for someone like her. Heck, this’d be a significant time investment for *me* and I’m wordy as fuck.
You’ve certainly got several right things goin’, just not a particular fit with this one gal. But this, at least to me not knowing either of you, shows that you actually honestly pursue people – which is a rarity in life, let alone on Tinder. Keep it goin’, man, I’m sure you’ll find your girl. :3
Still stabs the heart a bit though. Props to her for being so kind about it tho. Good luck buddy!
If only everyone did this. Ghosting is the thing I hate the most.
I ALWAYS appreciate a message like this instead of being ghosted. Although I am curious…. since she goes on about how great you were…. why she ended up rejecting you.
Sucks to get this but yeah, she’s actually really courteous and brave to send this message to be fair.
Did you go through ?
Honestly I peer good old ghosting
Someone make it into a copy pasta
Better than my job rejections
Honestly… I’d rather be ghosted. Lol
Ghosting makes people feel much worse than hearing the truth anyway.
Perfect fit lol
She took the standard « You are nice, I had a great time but I’m leaving the country » message and made it into three paragraphs. Amazing.
At least you know you’re a decent dude !
Imagine she made this as a copypasta to send to every guy she meets…
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Had you banged?
I don’t know.. I personally would have rather gotten ghosted. I’d want a message like this after a second or third date but after the first nothing is really set in stone or expected.
I once got a message like this from someone before meeting up with her. “You’re a great guy but this isn’t going to work out. I want a man who’s confident and knows what he wants, etc.” we hadn’t even talked much and just exchanged a couple of snaps but she didn’t appreciate my humor so I was already not interested anyway. Turns out she was in a relationship and was either just trying to get validation or trying to cheat while the dude was gone.
I’m convinced that this girl I went out on a blind date with also wanted to say this. Only problem is, she didn’t end the paragraph with a « I don’t think we’ll work out » even though the first half was similar in structure to this. Instead we continued texting; had a few exchanges before she left me on seen.
I’ll admit I held out some hope at the start cause she always replies late, but it’s been 2 weeks and I still haven’t gotten a response from her. So, I guess she wasn’t feeling it.
This is the best way to be rejected. You can move on without worrying about her anymore. Perfection.
For me its same as ghosting..
Read “no more mister nice guy” then hit her back up to fuck
Bla Bla Bla… Vomit… If you receive such msgs, you should read « No More Mr. Nice Guy » ASAP. You will thank me later mate!
How bad did you fuck up op. Honesty and Vunerability……
We need more females like this
Nice guy meets nice girl
This. This is what we need more of.