Tinder : Story Time – Week of August 26, 2019
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I got a match last week, someone I went to school with,
I (34m) took a 35f out tonight after work after matching and chatting for a couple days. We had a few drinks at the first bar – everything seemed to be going well. She was flirty and laughs were shared as were light touches.
She said she could go for some wings so we left and walked over to another bar close by. Same deal, a couple more drinks. Some wings.
It’s starting to get to be the end of the evening so I excuse myself to use the bathroom. When I come back, the date took a turn that led to it becoming one of my most amusing tinder dates in memory. She had her phone out and was getting the number of the guy who had been sitting behind me!
As I was returning he was saying ‘…if it doesn’t work out give me a call’ to which she replied ‘Okay!’.
I was stunned and I basically sat there grinning silently. She asked if I was ready to go. « Yep! ». So we walk out and she tries to weave a tale and save face: ‘Turns out that guy who was sitting behind you actually went to the same school as me. Small world!’ … to which I replied cheerily « Yea and when it doesn’t work out between us you can call him! ».
At that point I made a beeline across the street to my parking garage and didn’t look back. About 15 minutes later she was blowing up my phone with apologies, and ‘I feel like such an asshole’, and so forth. As if I would actually brush it off and give her any more of my time.
She had asked me earlier ‘whats the worst tinder date you have been on?’ « THIS ONE! »
8 dates ended up in 5 first date hook ups. Not a bad ratio!
After a looong time of relative inactivity, sent a few messages.
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One lady said it has been ages; the conversation continues.
There were some mutual un-matches. (which is actually not bad, but good)
(really, there would be no point)
How often do you guys typically get actual matches that are interested? I’ve only had 3 matches (been on here like 2 weeks), two of whom responded, neither of which ended up going anywhere (they stopped responding after like a few messages). It feels pretty frustrating so far
M/25
So I’ve got myself a bit of a pickle. I’ve been seeing this poorer girl for a while. Strictly hooking up. We were supposed to have an all day play session today. But when I messaged her this morning to confirm she was a bit upset because she can’t make her rent this month. She asked if I would pay for the sex. I felt pretty terrible because obviously she’s attracted to me and loves sex, so she’s gotta be hard up against it. I hate that she has to start prostituting herself, and I also don’t pay for sex. Not against it per se, just not for me. I like being desired. It also feels weird just handing over money when I’m a bit tight myself. I suggest to her that I’m working from home tomorrow and the house could use some love. Maybe we could play today, and she could help me get the place in order tomorrow. Fair work, fair money and the nature of our sexual relationship doesn’t change. She was super keen on the idea, till just before she was going to come over. Then she ghosted for a bit before suggesting we try and sell some videos. Sounds hot, not against it. Then it just seems like she’s had a breakdown, close to if not crying.
So what do?
EDIT:
After a bit of introspection. I realize the « maid » solution is worse than the problem. It turns our sexual dom/sub relationship into an employee/er relationship. Which is the difference between a kinky relationship and an abusive one. So I guess it’s charity or goodbyes. Thanks for corresponding r/tinder.
I made a post about this, but thought it fits here better. My experience with a camgirl/verification code scam.
I did vaguely recall that verification code scams were a thing, but not until after I had fell for it. I just wanted to share my experience here and help others avoid getting scammed.
I got in touch with someone that asked for dms on instagram. The scammer went into the usual camgirl spiel and I said no. The scammer then said she wanted to call/text me. I asked her to say something to verify she’s not a bot and gave her my number after she did.
She asked me to forward a code back to her so she would know that phone number is mine. I got a code from Skout, having never heard of it, I thought it was a phone number verification service she was using and forwarded it to her. I then got another one from Tinder and she said the first code I gave her was wrong, so I gave her the Tinder code as well. I was surprised that Tinder did a phone number verification service and I couldn’t have been more wrong.
I was driving at the time and exchanged that information at stoplights, so I wasn’t thinking too much. I realized it too late and have reached out to Tinder and Skout support about it. Now waiting to hear back.
I decided to login to Tinder with that phone number and to my horror, there were 99+ likes and a couple of matches in a matter of minutes from when I sent the scammer the code. The profile on that phone number was the typical girl with a seductive bio and an instagram handle to get in touch. I deleted the account and under the feedback section mentioned what happened and also that I reported this to the support team separately.
I tried to do the same for Skout, but Skout needs an email or Skout ID to login. So, I have my hands tied until Skout support responds. Until then, I hope not too many people get scammed.
I believe the goal to get my number and verification code was just to have another account to increase traffic for their camgirl spam. Correct me if I’m incorrect here. It’s relatively benign for me, since it wasn’t an email or bank account verification code scam, which I would have been more wary of. Since I probably wouldn’t think my bank or email provides such phone number verification services.
I’m new to Tinder and am quickly learning that most people that ask for dms are bots, scammers, camgirls or instagram models that won’t respond. The instagram models only want followers and the former 3 want your credit card info. Unfortunately, since the camgirls are real people trying to do business, scammers and bots replicate their business model. Of course, there are predatory camgirls as well. This is just one of my lessons learned from using Tinder. Good luck out there everyone and think hard (with your other head) about whether it’s a scam or not.
I’m always like the dog who caught his tail. I never know what to do with it once I have it.
Got a cousin of mine to take some great pictures of me, and I’m getting good matches. Side story, I actually made one my profile pic on Facebook and this chick from high school liked it and messaged me « hey, how are you? », so that was a nice ego boost.
I even matched with this girl who seems 100% my type. Big into the same games as me, a lot of the same interests judging by her profile. I got her in-game name, which led to me getting her discord, and then talking over voice. Was a little awkward at first, but I recovered and we chatted for a while about some common interests. I really digged her vibe, so I (again awkwardly) asked her out to the movies. We’re going on Friday. Signs seem promising this won’t be another flake. She gave me her number and even messaged me unprompted this morning. So fingers crossed on that.
Still, I don’t fucking know why I always have to act like this around women. I had a girlfriend for over 6 years, and yet I still act like a giddy teenage boy when a girl shows the slightest interest in me. I imagine the nerves will fade with experience, but damn do I say the stupidest shit when flustered.
> Me: I guess I’m supposed to ask you on a date now?
> Her: Well I mean you can do whatever you want, you don’t have to do anything
> Me: I want to ask you out on a date
Pure cringe, lmao. I don’t know how anyone ever puts up with my shit.
I finally had a fear of mine happen. 40 minutes into drinks she gets a “sudden call”. Her friend’s kid is throwing up and needs to go helps. Shit.
The weird part was A) The date seemed to be going well and B) She then proceeded to hang out with me for another 30 minutes before I basically said she could leave. She said she had fun and wanted to keep meeting.
Then ghosted. I was date aborted. This app is a bummer sometimes.
Guy1 and I messaged almost all day yesterday about pretty much nothing. I like those days. Just off and on all throughout the day when an odd thought pops in our head.
He eventually asked if i was going to stop down and read between work again, so I gladly did. Just basically bullshitted the entire time I was there. It was nice because it shows we’re able to hang out sober and without any sex and can still have fun.
I told him to feel free to do something else on Saturday, that i felt bad hogging all his Saturdays. He reassured me that’s not the case and that he wanted to hang out. He suggested doing something fun this time instead of just drinking which I’m totally down for. I told him it was his turn to pick since I chose the amusement park which ended up being a fail.
He said he had a few ideas in mind. Exciting but makes me nervous because he has money and I do not. He goes to nice places that require nice clothes and i don’t have dressy type clothes or money for them right now. Eeeeesh. Maybe I’ll see what the thrift store has.
We decided I’m gonna try seafood for the first time this weekend, particularly sushi! Yikes. I’m excited though. Getting out of my 20yr relationship is giving me a new lease on life and I’m SO ready to try all kinds of new things.
Side note, there was a message exchange where we were talking about how I wanted to give him money for gas and he refused. Said anyone who takes gas money doesn’t want to be there (implying he enjoys my company) and if I ever tried to give him cash he’d have to correct our relationship and laughed. Not sure what that meant but I find it cute that we have SOME SORT of relationship for him to correct lol.
Ahhh I wanna ask him so bad where we stand but totally not gonna. Don’t want to rock the boat at all, just letting everything be and what happens will happen.
**Losing my virginity at 29 through Tinder**
(Throwaway account here)
So on Monday night, I finally put my penis inside a vagina. Although, it wasn’t for very long and wasn’t much different from my last attempt at sex, so what counts? I guess it’s all pretty arbitrary.
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Quick sex life story: prior to 2015, I’d never made any romantic moves ever and had a Forever Alone attitude. Then I downloaded Tinder and began to get quite a few matches (for a guy). Yay, I guess I’m attractive? I proceeded to have an on/off pattern of going on a date, things not going that well and I wouldn’t meet anyone for months or even a year at a time (for complicated reasons). I had my first kiss in September 2016 (with a girl who’d come over to hook up, but it turned out we were both virgins. She walked out). In December 2016, I attempted to have sex with a somewhat older woman, which went pretty terribly (ended up with a near panic attack). I made no attempts at dating at all in 2017 (though I’d still use Tinder, mostly just for ego-boosting). In February 2018, I tried to have sex with a girl, which went better (she orgasmed easily, and I managed to as well, but I didn’t get it in). In October 2018, I realised one reason for my lack of enjoyment (particularly with blowjobs) was phimosis (tight foreskin) and began stretching exercises.
Throughout this time I’ve had a decent number of matches who were overtly interested in sex, but it didn’t eventuate for whatever reason (e.g. one of them lost interest when I admitted I was a virgin, another I sexted with for some time before she suddenly ghosted me, another lost interest after meeting me for coffee).
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This past weekend, I visited another city for a conference, staying four nights in total. For the first few days I was using Tinder (and Bumble), but busyness due to the conference and being tired meant I wasn’t putting as much effort in at first.
On Monday, I was messaging “Jen”. After a few messages, she asked if I was doing anything tonight, I said I had nothing planned, then asked if she wanted to get a drink. She said maybe, but she was tired, so what were my thoughts on one night stands? I said that was the obvious subtext of our conversation, so we agreed to meet up to drink wine at my hotel room. I was quite nervous and was about to admit everything before she said she’d already ordered her Uber.
She arrived and I managed to stay fairly composed. We drank wine and chatted for a bit, before we got down to business. I brought her to orgasm via fingering. Similar to my previous two times, I had the issue of not being able to stay very hard (the wine probably didn’t help). Unlike those times, her blowjob wasn’t painful (thanks to my foreskin stretching exercises), but it wasn’t really pleasurable either. I put a condom on and she guided my penis in, I thrusted for a bit and she seemed to like it, but I wasn’t feeling anything and I soon lost my full erection and withdrew. Like my previous time, I managed to finish over her boobs.
She left on good terms. I then messaged her to say she’d technically taken my virginity, which she was unhappy with not being told about earlier, but I proceeded to tell her roughly the story above and she seemed to understand.
After she’d left, I noticed I’d got a few replies from other girls on Tinder, which made me think it’d make for an amazing anecdote if I got another girl in bed the night I’d lost my virginity. But there was no way I was actually up for that.
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What are my thoughts?
On the plus side, it’s nice to see I’m getting more confident. “Jen” thought I was composed and didn’t seem to suspect anything about my inexperience. It’s always nice to feel validated, to be called attractive, be desired and be able to bring a girl to orgasm. And as much as labels are arbitrary, being able to definitively discard the “virgin” card is somewhat liberating.
On the down side… it wasn’t really physically pleasurable at all (as were my other experiences). That’s kind of meant to be the whole point. I’m unsure if pleasure will come with more experience, or if it indicates that I should try to find sex in another way (like with a girlfriend? Crazy talk!), or maybe even something medical like low testosterone. (One thing I’ve noticed is that other guys on Reddit seem to report being horny a lot more than seems to be the case for me).
I’m not sure what I should be trying to do in the future. There’s a part of me that fantasises that I could have sex with a large number of women. (After all, a good number have expressed unsolicited interest, and I’m sure more would have been with some effort). But I’m unsure to what extent this would actually be a desirable thing to do, and how much of it would be an unnecessary ego-stroking/braggable exercise.
(Oh, and uh, should I get STD tested, and if so, when? I haven’t done anything especially unsafe, but I have had unprotected oral sex at least with three presumably promiscuous women, albeit over a long time period).
This is more of a question than a story, but I didn’t want to make a whole post for it, but would it be weird to message a match you made from a few months ago? I often match with people and don’t message them (I know kind of terrible) but sometimes I go through old matches with the intent to unmatch and make a second decision on them but sometimes I see someone that I don’t want to risk not matching with again, so would it be weird if I messaged them? If someone messaged you after a few months would you find it weird, or would you even notice?
Okay I’m newly single. Matched with a girl and she wants me to insta. Her bio said shes in town for a few days and wants to have fun and hook up.
She told me to slide into her DMs and I did. Things are heating up, but now I’m wondering if she is 1) not a bot 2) FBI or some shit 3) using me for internet attention.
So advice is welcome. How do I look up scams? It starting to seem scamming.
Am I allowed to post her insta? In this thread?
Been awhile since I had an update I had an amazing relationship that recently ended so got back on the apps after taking some time to heal. Honestly I just needed a distraction since I was just alone and sad. Anyway the following dates all happened in the last 4 weeks or so.
Date #1 – 40 year old psychologist:
Started off cool enough we both discussed that we just wanted a fwb situation and I was all for that. However after 40 minutes of small talk she started analyzing me. I’m an open book and she asked all the right questions and got into my past and what happened with my ex. At the end of the date I was just thinking I want to try to work things out with my ex.
« Date » #2 – 26 year old Armenian chick:
I was supposed to meet up with this one before date #1 but she has been living with her ex boyfriend for the last 7 months or so. He moved out this month so she figured she could date now. On the day of our date he came by to pick up some stuff and she got in her feelings. I just told her lets be friends because after date #1 screwed my mind up I thought it be nice to just have someone to kick it and vent with. We hung out and had fun but haven’t reconnected since
Date #2.5 – 26 year old hotel manager:
On the day of our date she told me her grandma caught cancer so I told her to focus on family. A few days later she was updating her profile
Date #3 – 26 year old asian chick:
For some context this date happened 3 weeks after my 1st date. I’ve been upfront with all the women that I’ve asked out that I’m not looking for a relationship. She never goes out to downtown even though she lives there so we hit up 5 different spots throughout the night. Date was great and we both appeared to be having an awesome time. However throughout the date some of her comments made it seem like she wanted a relationship. She didn’t even consider this meet up a date instead she said referred to is as hanging out. We ended up holding hands, grinding in the club, and in general felt pretty comfortable around each other. She asked me multiple times if I would walk her home so I figured good things might happen later on. Around 12:30am we called it a night where I proceeded to drive her home. Had a small accident which was my fault and I felt super awkward about it. Went for a kiss earlier in the club and got rejected and then got rejected again when I said goodnight to her. I received a huge instead and she told me let’s do this again sometime but got the vibe I screwed up. She replied to my text about setting up another date and we agreed on something but then she told me something came up. Trying to reschedule now and have yet to receive a text back.
This was longest update because it has affected me the most because I realized I still take rejection too personal. I don’t want to feel needy and the goal is to be fine regardless of whether things work out or not. I only lasted 2 weeks actively talking to women on the apps so have no clue how you all can do this for months at a time, my mental health has already taken a hit smh. I feel like I always have that same pattern now 1. go on a lot of date 2. get burnt out 3. take a break then I go back to step 1. Not sure if I’m running from the pain of rejection when I take these breaks or maybe it’s just that online dating isn’t for me.
Taking some time to work on myself now and maybe reach out to my ex to see if we can work things out. Things didn’t go my way this time around but I know I’ll figure out this whole dating thing eventually.
Lessons learned:
I need to truly love myself instead of seeking validation through women
I need to get out of my head and live in the moment
I need to adapt an abundance mentality and realize there are millions of women out here
I need to truly be myself part of me still tries too hard when there is a woman I really want. All the girls I won’t I never get and the girls I get I don’t care about
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TLDR:
0/4 in my first dates back in the app, this reminds me of my golden days.
[To continue](https://reddit.com/r/Tinder/comments/caqxt0/_/etmvy30/?context=1)
So it has sadly finally happened, I’ve had my first ghost. Me and this girl went out 6 times(slept over twice), each of our dates you’d think we were clicking perfectly – our shortest date lasted ~5 hours(longest entire day almost) and we were vibing quite well.
Unfortunately no “contact” in a week, I reached out and received a vague one word reply and my follow up to that was ignored. Idk what happened but she’s clearly not busy as she’s still out partying.
Anyhow the associated feeling with being ghosted sucks even though I’m talking to plenty of other women. I guess this is just one of those things you have to experience at least once.
Talking to two girls. One girl I matched with on tinder and we have been talking every day for a month. Problem is, she was only visiting and she lives states away. We said we would visit each other soon but since college started, her responses have been getting worse but I understand that she is busy. We sent each others nudes yesterday but I get nervous.
I matched with another girl from hinge. She was responding perfectly to me: sending emojis, asking questions, sending long messages..etc. Too bad she is in another state for 2 weeks. I’m trying so hard not to mess up with her but her replies have become smaller lately.
She said « I wish I was coming back early » and I replied « so you can see me sooner? Aw 😛 » and no reply.
I unmatched my final Hinge match for the foreseeable future (got a fwb so told myself if this didn’t work out I’d be done with dating for now and just focus on the fwb). Less than a minute later I get a text from her breaking things off. Spooky.
I already lost interest (hence the unmatch) because of her slow replies so I’m not fussed. A few days back we were flirting and one of her replies to me was « Objectify me all you like 😉 » I said « I plan to, you feel free to do the same. 😉 » Then she changes the subject to a show we’re both watching. We exchange two messages about that then after more than a day’s silence sends me a message saying we should ends things here cause she’s not feeling a romantic connection. How does one go from « Objectify me 😉 » to « Not feeling it » in the space of two messages?
My most romantic date actually came from a bumble match
It sounds like a shitty fanfic lol
I was studying in Italy and matched with a crazy tall Canadian (I am American). We hit it off through messages and met up on a Friday night in Sorrento. The weather was perfect, and we started the night with some lemon gelato. After the gelato, we strolled by the beach and talked. We eventually walked up an incline to a vantage point overlooking the entire city with the lights gleaming off of the water. He was the BEST kisser. We met up the next night to drink wine on the roof of his hotel in the pool overlooking the city and got a little hot and heavy. We both left the next day.
No idea how such a cold country made a man that HOT!!
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Just reinstalled Tinder and saw my ex’s profile is updated. I wonder why he hasn’t unmatched me. We broke up in a good term a month ago, and we only haven’t talked for like a week. I kinda want to text him on Tinder, to see his reaction, but I’m kinda worried that it will ruin our « good term » now. So…. should I text him or not?
Just wanted to share this from probably 2 months ago. I matched with this girl and we talked within the app for awhile then she asked for my snap. We had just casual conversation here and there. Then kind of just fizzled out.
Then one night I’m bartending and don’t get home until 3:30 and she messages me to come over. It was clear on her snap story she was very well drunk and been drinking at a party of some sort. She kept asking me to come over wherever she was and I was half awake and exhausted.
After this and I went to bed it was pretty much never brought up again. I think she was embarrassed or something.
Okay, so this is not really about tinder anymore, but we met on tinder – kind of a success story and all that I guess?
I (23F) came back “home” a week ago on Sunday and have been staying at the [Scottish guy](https://www.reddit.com/r/Tinder/comments/c805fu/story_time_week_of_july_01_2019/eslllc7/?context=3)’s (27M) place since then. It has been great so far, even better than before I left two months ago. We definitely get along exceptionally well and it just feels so easy to be around him. Conversation is never forced, it doesn’t ever feel like I am being judged and I never refrain from sharing a thought because I’m afraid that it might come across as daft. A lot of laughing, teasing, talking about anything and intimacy (and the amount of sex you have after a two month break lol). I’d never have thought that, but I am now the person making out in the back of a bar and kissing on public transport. We spend most of our time together but give each other enough space for it not to be too much. I read my old comments on here again and it is striking how much more open he is now – and I most likely am too. He’s much more vocal, telling me what he likes about me, that he’s glad to have me back, how he enjoys waking up next to me and so on. We have not defined what exactly this relationship is, but we are on the same page: We both really like each other and have no desire to see other people. He told his friends about me, I told mine, we’ve got pictures of each other as our phone backgrounds… (Sounds much cornier than it is. Or maybe it really is that cheesy.) This is without a doubt the most healthy and supporting relationship I’ve been in and he is absolutely wonderful.
I’ll leave the second week of September and spend the year abroad until June, with a couple of possible brief breaks in between. Currently trying not to think of that and just to enjoy the moment. Maybe I should head to r/longdistance soon.
Still talking to guy 1.
We went to the amusement park over the weekend but it was sooooo overly crowded we literally just bought a couple overpriced beers and left. Didn’t ride anything at all because the lines were outrageously long. Ended up just going back to his place and ordering pizza and having drinks.
It was an odd visit. Definitely not one of my favorites, that’s for sure. Alcohol wasn’t doing him any favors but once he sobered up a bit things were fine.
Asked if I wanted to go for breakfast in the morning but I had to head home. We talked over text a lot of Sunday and it was nice conversation.
I had a gap in my work yesterday and had a almost 2hrs to kill, so i asked what he was up to. It was late though and he warned me he was tired and full and boring but i was more than welcome to use his couch instead of the restaurant I was gonna sit at. So I just read my book and snuggled his dog until it was time to leave.
Not the greatest of updates. Might take a break from seeing him this weekend, I feel like I’m hogging up all his Saturday nights and I feel bad. I’m just gonna wait and see if he says anything about hanging out and if not I’ll just do something else.
I’ve just accidentally insulted a girl thanks to autocorrect and she still gave me her number so I’m either one lucky idiot or she must really find me attractive.
Just went out with “Mother Nature” girl for our 5th date. Took her to a fair in the city, and I almost fucked it up pretty bad. I decided to bring a joint for us to smoke, and she got RIPPED. Like super damn high.
Instantly thought, well there goes my chance to hook up tonight. I thought, how the hell did she get so stupid high off of like 1/3 of the joint?! This was until the joint hit me and I didn’t think it was gonna hit me as hard as it did. We both started to get a really intense body high (no fucking clue wth I smoked but it was that government weed lol).
Anyways, we take the train back to my car and her place is like a block away. So I try and make the hand on her thigh move on the drive back and she shakes it off saying “I’m ticklish”. At this point I’m like thaaaaats definitely just a nice way to tell me to not do that. Anyways, we get back to her place and to my surprise I get the “want to come up for a bit?” I go freshen myself up a bit in her bathroom and when I come back this sensual af music is playing and I’m like wtf Is going on, why is she setting this weird romantic vibe. But, yeah because I got such an intense body high I lasted only like 3 minutes and essentially played myself.
I still wanted her to finish so I continued on her until she finished up as well and then we just sat in bed for a while and got into some deeper conversation.
So, I really have no clue what’s going on here. It started casual but I’m starting to get a not so “casual” vibe anymore… I also don’t want to bring anything up since we both went into this “not looking for anything serious.” Tough situation, and it really seems like she’s starting to see this as a serious thing, which like I said in previous posts that I wouldn’t be opposed to.
Someone just asked my sign, and immediately dropped me when I told her. I know I dodged a bullet, but… damn girl…
I got to college on Wednesday, got Tinder on Friday to try and find a relationship. Got Gold for the month because I’m impatient and wanted to see who was liking me, ended up with four matches and one conversation by Saturday, when I matched with a really cute girl that shares a TON of my interests. We had our first date today, in which we sorted/read my box and a half of comics, went to Panera, then went back to her suite/dorm and watched about half of the Dark Knight before she got a call that her sister is in the hospital for something. Doesn’t sound that serious, and we’re gonna finish the movie tomorrow, but still, not a great way to end the evening.
We’re an official couple now though so that’s pretty nice.
I [wrote](https://www.reddit.com/r/Tinder/comments/cjhfeu/story_time_week_of_july_29_2019/evdxeqx/) about a guy I met little less than a month ago right before I moved out of state. We talked literally every day after that, a lot, and it made me so happy. We acknowledged how much we missed each other, and I couldn’t take it anymore so I bought a plane ticket to see him. I’m between jobs so it was good timing. I just got back from that. Every day we counted down the days left; we texted so much. I spent 5 nights and 4 days with him. It was amazing. I like him so much. It sucks. There was a rough patch in the middle because he was a little mushier and stuff over text and so in person I felt like wasn’t giving me enough attention, lol, considering how little time I had to be with him. But he was acting he same he had when we met the first time, basically. HE said I was reading him so wrong. I was being corny and PMS-ing, I think. But yeah. I was putting too much pressure on it to be « perfect, » you know? But we got past it. Yesterday he said that he « hated » when we fought (lol loose usage) the day before. I thought that was sweet. I’ve been telling him about my job search and how I just lost one I wanted, and he asked me if anyone else had contacted me, and I told him my dream job did but it was late on a Friday so I was a teeny bit stressed about confirming. This morning the interviewer confirmed with me, and he asked me about it before I could even tell him, all sleepy and shit in the morning. I can’t believe he cared enough to remember/ask about things like that.
I’ve never been as intimate with anyone as I have with him, and I’ve never had sex with the same person that many times. We took a shower together every day. And aside from the first and last time, we didn’t even kiss or anything in it. And never had sex in it. We just did it and washed each other’s backs, lol. It was so natural and easy. I’ve never had someone see me naked standing up or walking around, let alone that many times, and he saw every inch of me and still liked me. I’ve always been insecure about my body, so it was kind of scary but with him it got easy. I never thought I could be like that with anybody any time soon.
He was really eager to introduce me to his friends, and kept wanting to bring me around them (they live close). He said they said a ~lot of nice things about me, lmao. One day we went to the beach with his friends, and I had so much fun. Today he kept saying how much he wanted to do it again and wished we could. Same; it was a great time. Ugh.
When we met I told him about this guy I had met who asked me to be his girlfriend the second day we knew each other. Yesterday he randomly asked again how soon after meeting the guy asked me that. No idea why. Hmm.
I cried when we said goodbye; no shame in that. I’m a true pisces. I texted him saying I hope it didn’t freak him out, and he said no and that he got « a little teary eyed » when he got back to his car. So now I feel better, lol.
I know I was setting myself up to be heartbroken or sad or miss him. But I couldn’t help it. I’ve never had someone be that open with me about liking me, and I can’t believe he didn’t just hump and dump me, when it was so easy to since we weren’t even in the same place.
I’m sad and crying again. He doesn’t know where he’ll be in a couple of months, and neither do I. He kept emphasizing that the next few weeks would be especially crazy for him. I don’t know if that means he wants me to leave him alone or not, idk. I could see him again, I just don’t know if he’ll sustain interest, or how soon I can. A $250 flight here and there is nothing to me, for that. And now that we don’t have a set date to look forward to, I can’t see us talking or texting as much, which makes me sad. He said I can’t bore him, like I always say I’m afraid of, but still. I’m so sad but so happy at the same time.
About my own personal [« oh my god they were roommates »](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4ZuydxEUpFM), had a date set up for tomorrow night with the second guy, but I haven’t heard from him since saturday (minus a snapchat add) and I shot him a funny cute text today and he hasn’t answered, so I guess not. Kinda bummed, he seemed promising.
So, **Married Model** (she’s in an open marriage) is my girlfriend, still. I’m not seeing anyone else, and I’m not on the apps.
There’s a part of me that feels like I’m settling, but there’s another part that feels like this is exactly what I need. I’ve been pretty unapproving of poly lifestyles up to now. I never was able to understand them, and they don’t mesh well with my idea of a relationship.
I will say, however, that stepping into a relationship with clearly established boundaries and rules is really healthy for me. My girlfriend has a husband. That means we won’t get married, won’t have kids, grow old together, etc. It also means I’m not operating on someone else’s clock. At my age I meet so many women that are dying to get married and have kids as soon as possible. I’ve already been married and I have a great kid. I checked those boxes.
My girlfriend feels the same way. All we do together is go out, have fun, and have a lot of really hot sex. A lot of it. A whole goddamn lot of it.
So I’m good. You?
I just shared a profile to a friend through WhatsApp and I got a notification through Tinder that he opened the profile and then was able to start messaging me in Tinder…
I share stuff with him fairly often so this must be some new feature.
Anyone find news about it? It’s creepy that it did it without asking. Although it’s creepy that I share a lot of profiles, haha.
Had a serious online dating dry spell for a few months whilst dealing with other life drama but finally got back on it a few weeks ago and I’ve just got home from the BEST DATE. Met at 3pm, it’s now midnight and I’ve just got home. One drink turned into a whole evening + dinner. Barely had a break in the conversation to even go pee, can’t think of much we really have in common (honestly I have no idea what we talked about for 9 hours and yet it flew by) but our personalities just instantly meshed. Perfect gentleman in every way too, although there was still plenty of physical chemistry. Kinda discussed a second date as he dropped me home but I’m a nervous wreck and have had too many dating disasters to believe it until it’s officially arranged. Can’t stop thinking about him and I’m too excited to sleep. Just really really really hope this doesn’t fall through.