Tinder : Why do the conversations derail to sexual themes quickly within a match?

Tinder : Why do the conversations derail to sexual themes quickly within a match?

Hello!

I’ve been searching around on the internet for some sort of similar answer, but didn’t find anything. I should state that I am 30 years old and a female. I definitely made it clear that I’m looking for a serious relationship. Not a hookup or anything of that sort. So I personally feel like the conversations should be getting to know each other. I like trying to have an engaging conversation. I always try my best to send a message within a few minutes of a match. Reread the profile, gauge pictures, and open up with something about my match that could lead onto a conversation.

But my main frustrations with my matches is that it typically goes great at first. Might get to talk a bit about each other for a bit. What jobs we have and so on. However, it eventually starts to shift into a more sexual theme. And while, I have no qualms against sex. It’s great. It’s a part of life and of course, I want to know about my match’s perferences and all that fun stuff. Just not on the first day of talking. I’ve tried the route of just going with it and hoping that maybe once they get it off their chest, we can go back to a legitimate conversation. Other times, it just gets so overwhelming for me that I just have to check out.

I just want to have a nice conversation and get to know each other. Get a vibe from someone before I can gauge on what type of person they are.

Does this happen a lot? Is there anything that I can do to try remedy this? Is it something I’m doing wrong on my part? I am willing to take suggestions. Also would love to hear if anyone else has this issue from both sides. Thank you for your time.

Edit: I also wanted to add that I feel sex is important in a relationship. But I also feel like there is more to sex than a relationship. And that there could be a million other things to talk about before we begin even talking about sex.

By. FiraGurlie