6 signs he won’t leave his wife
Are you having an affair with a married man?
Does he promise you that he will leave his wife for you, and then constantly delay his departure?
Are you worried that he will never leave his wife – and that he will leave you first?
If so, read on. The guide below reveals the telltale signs that your man has no plans to leave his wife.
Once I learned how it works, my relationships quickly became much deeper and more meaningful. Instead of being seen as a « passing fad », men quickly became WATCHERS towards me (read my personal story to find out more).
What’s crazy is that so few people seem to know about this psychological tick. It really is a secret shortcut to a man’s heart.
If you’re tired of not being treated as a priority by the man in your life, I invite you to learn more about how hero instinct works.
The guide below will show you the signs that you are not a priority for your married lover.
The main signs that show that he will not leave his wife for you
1. He says so
You want to believe he’s going to leave his wife for you, but if he really said he won’t, he probably won’t. Most married men want their girlfriends to believe that they are going to leave their wives; if he honestly said he won’t, you should listen to those words.
At the end of the day, he wants to be honest with you, so he doesn’t feel bad for leading you out, which doesn’t make him a bigger man; he just feels less guilty. I mean, if he’s not going to end with you, why is he with you?
Unless you are looking for a purely sexual relationship, you should go. He feels better being honest; now is the time for you to be honest with yourself.
2. He talks a lot about his family
Does your man like the sound of his own voice? Most men love to talk, and they talk about their interests, their passions, and what they think about most. So, what’s on your mind about your married man?
If you find that your loved one can’t shut up about his family, it probably means he cares a lot about them – maybe more than you think. You are not the first priority in his life, they are. Of course, he may feel overwhelmed and have many complaints about his marriage; that does not mean that he is going to leave his wife.
It also doesn’t mean that he is saving himself for you or that he would be a better husband to you. Consider writing a letter to your wife to let her know how you feel, but don’t send it; just use it as a way to put your thoughts and feelings on paper. It is a very beneficial therapeutic exercise.
3. He seems only interested in sex
What was the basis of your first connection? Sex, isn’t it? Does the relationship have more substance? When he’s with you, if he doesn’t seem very interested in the day-to-day happenings that are going on in your world, the sad truth is, he might not be.
If he sees you as a comfortable sexual arrangement, he may just be looking for sex. But it usually takes more than sex for a man to leave his wife. You may just be a nice “vacation” for his family, not something he sees as a permanent destination.
Are you asking a lot of questions? Does he really care about your hopes, dreams and aspirations in life? If he just wants to undress you, he probably isn’t interested in anything other than your body. Flattering? Yes, but this is not the recipe for a lasting relationship!
4. He still acts as a groom
Does he always go on vacation with his family? Does he continue to lead the life of a « married man », that is, to come home every evening, to tuck his children in bed or to attend family reunions? Does he sound like a comfortable married man – at least on the outside?
If you answered yes to these questions, he’s probably staying with his wife. He is still invested in his marriage, and he doesn’t seem to be making an effort to sever ties with his family in order to be with you.
Does he take you in public? Are you an official couple? What is your role in his life? If he isn’t actually taking action to make you a priority in his life, you should start looking for a man who will.
5. He doesn’t keep his promises
Does your man say he’s ready to leave his wife, but doesn’t? Did he promise he would file for divorce, but hasn’t done so yet? Does he swear he’ll take you on a fancy date, but never kept his promise?
Women love fairy tales, and men know it. We believe our men when they promise us the moon. Men know exactly what to say to keep us going. Do you remember the song that I recommended to you? Listen to the lyrics. Can you identify yourself?
Look at the most relevant lines of this song: “You always wanna hold on to me”, “You just keep me hooked”, “You don’t really care”, “You don’t really love me”, “You are just using me” and “Free me!” If he doesn’t keep his promise to leave, you must act and break free!
6. He always has an excuse
Is there still a reason he can’t leave his wife? Was his wife too sick, too unstable, or was there a death in the family? Has his wife just lost her job or has a family member or friend fallen very ill? In other words, is there still a reason he can’t leave her?
Many married women do not want their husbands to leave them, even if they have been unfaithful. And women know what excuses work on their men. So while these excuses are valid, remember that there will always be an excuse why he cannot leave his wife. How long do you want to wait for it?
After all, he may never leave his wife, which means you’ll remain an unmarried woman he keeps away. Is this really what you want? I know we can’t choose who we fall in love with, but we can choose who we want to spend the rest of our lives with. Do you want to spend your time waiting for a married man who doesn’t want to leave his wife?
What does that mean ?
Women who date a married man want to believe what he says. He said he would leave his wife, so he will, right? In fact, we should pay attention to his actions rather than his words; but don’t blame yourself for falling in love. Too many women are hopeless romantics and want to believe in the fairy tale. I know I am!
Women fall in love too easily! How not to do it when the thought of living happily ever after is present in every romantic movie we watch? The truth is, men fall in love faster, but women tend to stay in love longer. This is often the reason why a woman has a harder time letting go.
It doesn’t have to be that way. You can take concrete steps now to improve your situation. Here is what you can do right now to move forward in your life and be happy!
What to do next ?
Break up with him
Give your married man an ultimatum. Tell him he needs to tell his wife about you today. Then set a short deadline for her to end the marriage. Explain to him that he has a choice: he can leave his wife, or you will end the relationship. Then keep your word.
If he didn’t file for a divorce and left his wife before the deadline, break up with him. He broke his word, he’s still in the marriage and he’s not going anywhere. It’s time for you to say goodbye to him. Also think about the bullet you dodged, because if he cheats on his wife now, chances are he will do the same to you!
The best recipe for a quick and easy break? Remove her number and social media presence from all aspects of your life, return all of her things to her, and stop all contact. Tell yourself (lie) it’s temporary if it has to. Cut off all contact with him for at least a few months, and watch how you start to feel good! You will soon forget about it.
Let your feelings speak
If you are dating a married man who is not going to leave his wife for you, now is the time to let it all out! Cry well or use up your favorite punching bag. Have a period of honest discovery with yourself; realize that the end of the relationship is not your fault!
No one appreciates the end of a relationship and the hurt that comes with it, but if the signs are there, it’s time to pay attention! There is no need to stay in a doomed affair because there are a lot of single men.
Talk to people in your support group. Tell them about the man and his marriage; explain your heartache to them. Let them comfort you during this time and give yourself time to heal your wounds so you can move on to the next man lucky enough to find you!
Think about the future
It is time to move forward thinking about the future rather than the past. Have you ever practiced mindfulness? It’s a sure-fire way to reduce anxiety and focus on what’s in front of you; being attentive can help in the event of a break-up.
Find a holistic therapist who specializes in home remedies like mindfulness. It could change your life. Another way to focus on the future and put your grief behind is by reading great self-help books on relationships or healing.
Watch fantastic movies that will make you feel better about your situation, movies where the woman doesn’t get her man in the end but rather looks to the future. Find movies where the woman focuses on independence!
Make you happy
Take care of yourself for once by focusing on your mind and body; go to the gym and get some physical activity because exercise releases endorphins and makes us happy! Watch a funny movie or a comedian; laughter is often the best medicine, so find a way to “reverse your frown”.
Go out and have fun! Get out of your comfort zone a bit and meet someone else! As the saying goes, “there are many fish in the sea”. You don’t have to settle for someone who doesn’t show you love and respect; if he did these things, he would leave his wife!
Take care of yourself, indulge yourself with a spa day. I know it is hard to let the time you spent with him pass by, but it is a sunk cost that you cannot get over; so take control and strive to make yourself happy!
Faqs
Do affairs that break up a marriage last?
It is unlikely, but not impossible. Usually, when a man leaves his wife, he has a lot of baggage, and the woman in the bond may not be the one he chooses as his next partner. Also, second marriages are much more likely to divorce than first ones.
What should a woman do when her husband is cheating on her?
The wife should have an honest conversation and ask the husband …
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