POF : Why do men on POF care how long a woman has been using online dating?
Why do men on POF care how long a woman has been using online dating?
By. todsitfornow
Why do men on POF care how long a woman has been using online dating?
By. todsitfornow
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I think the longer she’s been using it, the pickier she is and the more difficult she is to satisfy.
Plot twist: we don’t
Because the site is filled to the brim with a large number of women who never seem to leave the site and are online every day?
I’ve been asked by women, it’s really a legit question because it determines a lot of things of whom you’re talking to.
So say the man your talking to is 38 and you’re 35, no kids, never married, no experience with relationship, it should heighten your mind, what’s wrong with him? He sounds like a great catch.
It is curious to me when a woman is really attractive and has a profile that’s great, but they’re still around for a couple of years.
It doesn’t affect my decision to talk to them though.
One of these women gave me her number and told me she already has a bf, so maybe some of them are fooling. Maybe they have high standards. Who knows?
Its a topic for discussion.
Like some of the other posters have said, It may indicate how picky you are. It may indicate how desperate you are.
Its a dicey question to answer, because there isnt really any good answer.
I imagine newer users are more likely to ask. I would recommend an artful dodge of the question, something like, « I’d rather talk about something more interesting », or « longer than I’d like ».
As a guy I’ve been asked this by a couple women. I think they look at it as a sign of damaged goods…
we don’t. we only care about the photos.
I’ve never specifically been asked how long I’ve been on here, but have been asked how long I’ve been single, and the more disturbing question of « how’s the online dating going? » Or something along the lines of « how successful is it? »… Obviously it’s not been successful or else I wouldn’t be on here still, right?? I usually tell them I’m still weeding out the weirdos and creeps. A few guys have wanted to know more about what I find creepy, which I hesitate to share, because then they may sensor themselves of their creepiness. My other thought is if I share what I find creepy, maybe they won’t be creepy to other women, so maybe it works out. (FYI: the worst creeper was one who told me I make him happy and were meant for each other after a few short conversations spread out over a few weeks.)
I think the question should just be « Why do people care how long [..] » because I’ve been asked that by lots of women. I think it’s a legit question, it tells you a bit about someone. I’m not sure if I’ve asked it, but I wouldn’t feel weird asking it.
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I’ve been divorced for almost 20 years b/c I didn’t want to bring a boyfriend or a new stepdad into my home while I was raising my boys. Simple as that. Now I’m ready.
I was asked this a LOT. I think, most of the time, it is just something to talk about. I’ve asked people, too, but for no reason other than we are getting to know each other and it seems like a relatively safe topic. Kind of like if you are introduced by a mutual friend, you might talk about how you each met that friend and how long you’ve known each other.
I’ve had a couple guys ask me and, when I answered « off and on for a year, » they would use my response as fuel for criticism. They’d tell me I must be picky, that I can’t get along with people, or there had to be something wrong with me. But I appreciated when they reacted like that – it gave me an opportunity to see how quick they were to assume and criticize…that is something I don’t want in my life.
Prospect hunting. They ask to determin how much effort maybe required and can then assess the likelyhood of having something warm and fleshy to use -as most of the time that is the only intention.
…… I’m tired and I have had a very bad day.
I ask that quite often. One, I’m genuinely interested. I have learned a lot about online dating and about people from the answers.
Two, I’m looking for a relationship. I’ve learned that it’s just a waste of time to spend along time chatting with someone and finding within 15 minutes that nothing clicks. People can also get their feelings hurt if they have spent along time getting to know each other.
I also remember when I first started dating it freaked me out when a couple of women asked to meet after a few messages, but in hindsight they were smart.
It’s always a balance between asking someone to meet to early and you scaring them off, or too late and they think your a time waster. The idea of meeting a stranger for someone who just started is scary.