Dating : Romance?

What is Romance?

Everyone has a different definition of romance. For me, unexpected gestures, affection, quality time and ‘I love you’ is what I call romance. it’s the little things that your partner does to show you they care. I asked some of my friends what romance means to them and these are the answers I got:

• Good sex
• Affection
• Dinner dates
• When it makes your heart happy
• The little things they do to show you they care
• holding hands
• cuddling
• trips away
• being with each other
• doing stuff together
• buying cute things/gifts
• surprises

How lovely are those answers! Romantic gestures such as cuddling, unexpected kisses, holding hands are all ways to show love. Sure, some people might be affectionate with their family members and friends but romantic affection is different and it’s specially reserved for your lover. I believe romance is very important and knowing how the other person views romance is even more important. It keeps the spark alive, it fans the flames of red, hot passion.

How important is romance?

If you want the passion to last between you and your partner then I would say it’s very important to have at least some romance in your love life or won’t they just be considered a friend instead of a lover? How can you keep the passion alive if you don’t bring at least some romance to the table? It’s such a lovely thing and I don’t know why people put it to the side in their lives. But what’s more important is knowing how important romance really is in a relationship and if there is a middle ground the two of you can agree on.

Different views on romance can affect a relationship.

If you’re like me then you thrive on daily romantic gestures every day. Does that sound like too much? I’m not saying huge romantic gestures is what I want all the time, but a random kiss or ‘I love you’ or even just an expression of appreciation for our relationship is my ideal romantic gesture. Is that really too much to ask? Well, it depends on how the other person feels about expressing their love.

I was once in a relationship where our views on romance were so different that we got into arguments over it. I wanted more affection and loving words, but his version of romance was the two of us doing activities together more often, which is completely fine but he wouldn’t compromise because showing affection made him uncomfortable. So obviously that relationship came crashing down. The good thing about failed relationships is that you figure out what you want and don’t want, and you learn to start putting your wants and needs first once in a while when it comes to love.

So, enjoy the romance that life has to offer because nothing in this world is permanent. Enjoy life, love deeply, be free with your love and have fun.