POF : Everyone has kids, not just one usually three!
9/10 guys that contact me have kids already, I’m sure the women are just as bad. I could understand if they were like 30+ and had one, but I’m talking 20-29-year-olds with 3 kids usually as old as 13!
I even say in my bio that I do not wish to be with anyone that has kids since I’m focused on me and doing new things. Hell, I am always camping, hiking, working, and going to the gym. I don’t have time to try to date someone and work around their schedule with their kids, I also don’t really like kids…
I probably wouldn’t be ranting about this but in the last week, I’ve had guys contact me and their profile says they don’t have children. When I suggest we go to a coffee shop or walk around the park to get to know each other, they then spring it on me like ‘well jimmy jr wouldn’t like that’.
No disrespect if you are in your early 20s with children, but don’t lie on your profile, and talk with someone who doesn’t want to deal with kids and waste their time…
Sorry for the long post but, I’m really mad at them contacting me because I once wasted 6 months talking to a guy. Never mentioned kids once, then when we met for the third time he informed me I would have to quit doing so much of my activities because my life would need to revolve around his sons too, excuse me!?
By. TheDankestCatEver
It’s just as bad on the guys side. There are a ton of single moms using online dating presumably since they don’t have time to go out.
A lot of them try to hide it. They won’t put they have kids and instead you have to infer it from their pics. Or they’ll write it subtly in their profile like, “I have a mini me.” Or my favorite is “[dog emoji] [baby emoji] mom.”
I could rant a lot about single moms since I’ve tried it three times now. It’s been the same every time. The kids are cock blocks. They’re (rightfully) protective of their moms. You end up being a baby sitter when mom has errands, work or school. When the dad is still around, the kids throw tantrums because they want to be with dad. You’re food and fun bills will double or triple since you’ll now be paying for the mom and her kids.
If you don’t have kids, don’t date single parents. Even if they’re hot, it’s not worth it. Let the single parents date each other. They don’t like dating each other though because they know dealing with other people’s kids is difficult. You have to put in more work for less reward with people with kids. Their kids are more important to them than you will ever be.
Sounds like you dodged a wrong’un there. But yes, people should be honest at the start. Suppose the best thing to do is ask them directly about children regardless of what they put in their profile. Hope you find someone soon.
Funny, I actually went in a couple of dates a couple of years back with a woman who had 3 kids. Our dates went like this:
She gets her mom to watch kids.
We go for dinner by my place
She wants to come back to my place and have sex
She’s leave because she has to go get her kids
Repeat
It was fun but once I realized we’d never be able to go on a real date it got stale pretty quick. In dating a woman with one kid now and it is better, but still lots of logistical challenges in the romance department.
You talk to a guy for 6 months and only met 3 times?
I aim to meet within a week of first messaging, just a few messages to figure out if they are psycho and then a quick meeting in public.
I’m not looking for a penpal.
Same. As someone with no kids, I prefer to date guys without them as well and had come across many without it listed on their dating profiles. Shouldn’t all parents be proud of their children? Scummy parents hide the fact they have them in a heartbeat. It’s like pulling teeth to get them to admit they exist.
Most people don’t read your actual profile but they’ll read your headline. If this is super important to you, put it in your headline
Having been a single father, and having dated for quite a few years, until I found the « one », I’d always found that even the slightest dishonesty at the outset of a relationship, eventually dooms the relationship. I’ve also found that when I’ve dated women who were « suspicious » of me, for no reason, usually were the ones who were cheating, or eventually did cheat in the relationship.
I’ve been a rare, single father, and the entire town knew of my being a single dad, as I was often my kid’s coach in a variety of sports. I ran the town soccer league, was a little league and hockey coach, both for my daughter’s and son’s teams. I’ve lost relationships with very attractive women, as I’d often bring up my being a single father in the first 10 minutes of the conversation, but it’s impossibe to expect to spring that surprise on someone, and they’d be OK wit6 it, no matter how much they like, or don’t like kids. But, having lost relationships with these kinds of women, invariably ended up with just being friends, and finding out that they were not the person I’d want to be with, long term. I’m sure the same could be said about men, so this isn’t an attack on women.
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Be patient, and be honest, it’ll pay long-term dividends, though it can seem sometimes like you’re going to die single. People who despise children, in my mind, have deeper issues that I don’t want to be involved with.
That will seriously make so mad I would just say it not working out and block them I don’t like when ppl lie on their profiles like that espy even when I say I don’t like or want kids on my profile as well
A lot of this is on you. Why didn’t you ask? They don’t have to disclose any information about their family to an online stranger. Try reversing the roles here and see if it still sounds alright.
What’s with the hate towards young fathers?
Same. I no longer have the app but when I did, I had “I am sterilized, cannot have kids. I don’t kind kids but I don’t want any of my own”
TIL some people lie, wow, who would have thunk it.
From a guys perspective Almost every woman has kids but my biggest gripe is 99% of the women who say they have ‘average’ body type are definitely overweight/obese.
> I once wasted 6 months talking to a guy. Never mentioned kids once, then when we met for the third time
LOL… SIX months and he asked you out 3 times? In any case, you sound like a self-centered cunt and you’ll fit in perfectly on POF.