Dating : Open Letter to All Who Feel Their Spouse Settled for Them

Dear reader,

You’re not alone. A lot of modern marriages are not as we intended them to be, or envisioned.

There is a fear of being alone, also not being able to stop the urge for wanting more beyond reality; always looking for the next best thing, instead of what’s right in front of you.

That gnawing want drives many people kind of insane, and apart from what’s real and what’s fantasy?

I too am, (for a lack of a better term), a victim of this same sentiment.

You see, over a decade ago, I madly fell in love, and interpreted that “love” for years, and years, as just that, love, “true” love….

But, after some therapy, meditation sessions, and some deep soul searching. After close observation, of my ex-husband, and how our marriage was constructed… I realized, had an epiphany, if you will. My “love” for the person I chose to marry, really was more of an infatuation.

You are not alone. From what I have observed and heard from various people of trust, in the field of counseling and therapeutics… This is a very common trend many broken marriages have faced.

This is a sad reality, where our modern society chooses to marry someone they believe they truly love, only in the end realize, (after the raging hormones of “love” die down), it was truly just infatuation.

Take care, dear reader and fellow writers. Allow your heart to heal and be open.

Remember, you are loved, unconditionally, if not by a man, by at least others in your life, by those you have touched with your heart, your words, your writing, your sentiment.

A fellow reader, writer, and sister,

-HKB