Dating : Internet fairy tales.

This pandemic gave me to think — obviously. I thought about the struggle and difficulty of having new relationships with others, and more precisely dating. There’re reports on coronavirus and loneliness that says around 50 per cent of people had felt some level of loneliness so, we are not alone. My mind also thought about the new relationships we had thanks to the world wide web.

Are social media a flirting tool? Aren’t they always been?

Think about it. They connect people right? and who we are on, let’s say, Instagram? Who or what we represent? Fun? Comedy? Activism? Art? Work? Our existence in the net it’s already confirmed and we use it for too many reasons. Like I’m doing now! We exist in the both world even if one isn’t real, but the consequences could be. Be careful though, as everything that gives immediate approval and pleasure, scrolling can be addictive. But I don’t wanna talk about the cons now. There’s The Social Dilemma on Netflix for that. Would recommend? You have to know your enemies if you wanna be their friend, ah. But my true answer is no, I don’t wanna cause you a panic attack.

So, if internet platforms are a vehicle for communicate and stay close to sociality in a world that is living a global pandemic, our dating life really have to rely only on them? How can we find love in 2020?

There’s no concerts, no dance floors, no events and two meters away. Talking to my therapist turned out that nowadays it seems like a true rebellious gesture to just be outside and gather with people who are not close to your familiar circle… and maybe not wearing a mask! Can you imagine?! But is this a true feeling? Is it madness that what seemed normal to us, today is extraordinary? Just living life.

Since I have Mercury in Scorpio you should know I’m a complex thinker, that’s why so many questions — and I don’t necessary want an answer but mostly a multitude of possibilities or just a conversation, so if you want to keep the conversation on don’t be shy.

After months we suddenly are living our dating life like a Jane Austen novel with 5G. I know we are not used to it but the faster the url the slower the irl. We are rediscovering the importance of slowness but what about dating apps? I don’t know if these apps helps our discomfort. Maybe they works for hook ups (when we can escape to our comune di residenza), but in my humble opinion it’s fun until it gets cloying. Why? Listen to this.

We fantasize about that new haircut, that precise aesthetics, that picture and bio. We simp them by reacting their stories or like their posts and break up by ghosting each others. We are living our best internet fairy tale.

The www go fast in this wounded planet. In our fragile society, which may not be hospitable, stable and coherent, the web becomes the substitute. The virtual community appears more capable of ensuring contact, warmth and relationship with the other. After all, our desperate needs of true, meaningful and open relationships is real and it’s combined with the desire for freedom, coziness and warmth.

No matter how you found love* because if you did, you are the lucky ones.

G,

xx

*in any form.