Dating : What Do I Think About Feminism?

As a woman this is a question I hear a lot. I always respond stating, “I’m a humanist.” And I get dirty looks and more degrading questions, “You’re not a feminist? Are you even a woman?”

It shocks me how many women put down other women for their beliefs and practices. It’s like me being vegetarian and wanting the whole world to stop eating meat. It’s very unrealistic. I only can control what I put in my body, nobody else’s, except maybe my child. Feminism is the same way. You can only feed into your own beliefs. However it seems to me that feminists and the entire movement has lost its way. Not only do feminists seem to hate men, they seem to hate women too. The right to have women equality is beautiful and rightfully ours, but not by putting others down. The purpose of balance is to lift everyone to a higher state of understanding. What I see from most feminists is the idea that all men are bad.

Men are incredible, and frankly don’t get enough credit. I only mean this in the context that they have always had to be the strong ones, the ones who fight, the ones who have to “man up”. Most men wish that women could be in their position but society has trained us to stay in our roles as men and women so we forget that we are all actually one. Every woman has masculinity and every man has femininity. It’s a matter of being in touch with that energy. Have you ever heard of kundalini? The Coiled Serpent of femine and masculine life. It’s what fuels us to wake up every morning. What gives your heart purpose to continue beating. It’s the balance of yin and yang energy flowing inside every life force.

So when people ask me if I’m a feminist, yes of course I am, but I’m also a masculinist. I believe in a humanity that sees the man and the woman in everyone. We are all born from the woman, but without the man the woman could not birth life. The man and the woman are partners, one cannot continue without the other. We have been given each other to thrive and succeed in life, in purpose, in love.

Life is love, the children of the universe come from love. Sex is love. However you choose to identify yourself is how you feel love. There’s no one in this world who can know you better than you know yourself.

Feminists, if there is going to be a change, a balance between men and women. We need to come together. The only way to see the woman as an equal is to show our masculine side. Many women who have started this movement have gotten in touch with their masculine sides, but what I’ve seen is that they are still trying to criminalize men. Masculinity is to be light, be glorious, be strong, a fighter who leads out of love. Femininity is to be graceful, vibrant, magnetic, the hope that leads out of love. If we are to seek equality, we cannot deprive men of the true feminine, and we cannot deprive ourselves of the true masculine. Being a feminist does not mena that you must hate men. Being a feminist means that you must also be a masculinist.

Men and women have both lost their way because we’ve spent so much time working against each other instead of with each other. To find a balance we must tip the scales in the favor of life. We cannot live without the women, we cannot live without the man.

We have created this illusion that men are greater or that women are greater. The great “Battle of the sexes” the battle will never be won or lost until all genders speak out for each other. The women who will change the world will be the women who see themselves as the man and woman within everyone. The men who will change the world will be the men who speak out for the men who see the women in themselves.

To release this ego facade that there must be equality will actually bring about it. “Women need equality!” “Men need dominance” these illusions are exactly what’s keeping us from moving forward. We are already equals, our material world, our history, the present are binding us into believing that we are so different from each other. Really we are one of the same. To be human is to be man is to be woman. To be love is to be man is to be woman.

We want a change?

Women and men who don’t speak up about abuse should never be insulted. Feminists, stop depowering women who don’t tell their story. It doesn’t make them any weaker or stronger by telling their story. In fact just living through that abuse shows immense strength. Instead of pushing women to speak up and showcasing it to the entire world through the Me Too movement. We need to focus on the why? Women and Men don’t come forward for a reason. It’s actually textbook behavior. Instead of crying out to the world for not seeing the signs, teach the signs! Masculinists, to treat a man like his emotions can’t be surfaced, is like telling someone they need to hold in their stool. You may have just laughed there, but I’m serious. That toxic build up is poison for the mind, body, and spirit. Holding onto negative emotions is unsustainable. It’s like shaking a coca cola bottle and trying to keep the soda contained in the bottle, it never works. Emotions are valid. Having emotions be heard is what keeps us going, keeps us in light. The darkness only takes over when we have no outlet. We need to teach the practices of healthy communication and understanding. When we can lead a life of compassion and love towards one another, only then will we feel equality.

“And this has been my observation, that if one partner starts moving along the right lines, the other follows sooner or later. Because they are both hungry for love, but they don’t know how to approach it.” ~ Osho