How to recognize an interested man?
Initially, we were not convinced. We barely noticed it, to be quite frank. But a lot of texting, compliments, looks, smiles (and what a smile!) We have to admit, we completely fell for it! Here is one who seems to be an interested man!
We like it, see more.
But, here he is more and more distant. He decreases the ardor of his messages until he does not answer us at all. One-on-one coffee has long been forgotten. Receiving even the proof that he is still alive seems to be of the order of the fantasy.
What happened ? What have we done wrong? Yet he liked us !?
Thanks to this article, you will know how to concretely identify an interested man and calibrate your seduction according to his feelings.
Recognize an interested man: How does his feeling materialize?
Although we know that there are more dissimilarities between two people of the same sex than between the group of men and that of women, it is clear that the majority of boys function differently from the majority of girls.
Genetic or educational factor? This is another debate.
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Our interest – for many of us – operates in an ON / OFF mode.
We didn’t particularly notice it. Something (a compliment, an attitude, a look…) will change the way we see him. Suddenly, he beautifies himself. We imagine it as a potential partner. The chimera is sweet, we nestle in it. Each of our thoughts goes to him. We want it so much!
We pay attention to each of these deeds and gestures, giving them a particular elegance. Everything about him is PERFECT. We want it, more than anything. The other guys are just pale copies of the ideal that THIS man represents.
The projection ON button is lit. And, we’re screwed. Fucked up in love.
The interested man becomes interested, more often than not, gradually
The attraction of a man is more vacillating. It sometimes starts on a real heart stroke. And, until you share it, it will only increase.
But,the interested man does not plan. He can’t imagine a future. His desire is that of a possession. When he feels like he HAS you, his affection will drop like cheese soufflé. It can be :
- at the first signs of interest that you show
- to the first part of legs in the air
- to the evocation of your desire for commitments …
At each stage of the seduction, you can toast yourself completely. The key to maintaining this desire to experience something with you is to stimulate interest ONLY for the next step.
By wanting to go too fast (build something after the first date, for example), you will scare the interested man away. By being too careful (for fear of the rake, for example), his curiosity will diminish through weariness.
In the rest of the article, we will see:
- the signs showing interest step by step
- how to position oneself to help the interested man to take the next step.
1 / How to handle the situation when an interested man starts to discover you?
As we have said, when a man pleases us, even though we have never spoken to him, we tend to imagine romantic scenarios.
This is what paralyzes us to go further in seduction or which pushes us to make huge STRATEGIC MISTAKES (like the desperate email oscillating between reproaches and love that will undoubtedly make you pass for an obsessive hysteric).
The first signs of interest:
- He looks at you often.
- He is smiling at you.
- He’s blushing.
- He finds excuses to talk to you.
- He tries to cross you
- He teases you (on your outfit, for example).
But no, he is not in love! Building is irrelevant. Even carnal relationships appear to him as a distant goal. And, it is possible that he is already in a relationship.
He wants to know you. That’s all.
He doesn’t like you yet and that’s normal, he doesn’t know anything about you.
So let’s avoid these projections unnecessary, harmful, painful (and so on).
How to act?
- Be open to discussions start. Use humor.
- Smile at him, especially if he is afraid to approach you. (And, all men will be able to confirm it, a smile looks good on you.)
- Look at the in the eyes.
The strategy is to show him that you do not bite, that it is safe to come and talk to you.
2 / Manage the feelings of an interested man before the first meeting
The first stage begins to drag on. You know he likes you, but he still hasn’t offered you a drink.
Maybe there is someone? Maybe he is just trying to flatter his Ego? Maybe he’s playing the same game with all the women? Basically, does he really want to take the plunge?
Maybe not, no. That’s why at this point in the relationship, he’s no need to be exclusive. You can pick up several boys at the same time. It’s a good way to avoid making yourself sick with the ambiguity it leaves.
If the interested man does not show the signs below, you have two choices:
- continue the game of seduction, for fun, but without waiting
- stop flirting, because you have other men to whip
Signs of interest showing that he wants to have a drink with you
- He continue your conversations : you feel that he would like to know you better.
- He appreciate your humor : he laughs at your jokes, raises you, teases you.
- He inquires about the presence of a possible boyfriend (subtly or not).
- He takes your number or Facebook (favor the laptop)
- There you texting (regardless of their content)
- He suggests the idea of have a drink soon.
How to act?
- Keep the mysterye: in particular on your tastes, your desires… Kick in touch with humor. Use teasing by keeping things in your life quiet.
- Stop the insistent stares : so that he wonders about your interest. (Without making a mouth three meters long, eh)
- Send few texts : Because once in front of the cup of coffee, everyone’s shyness will be inversely proportional to the proximity that you had in virtual. So we forget the romanticism, the reproaches, the tests-to-know-if-he-wants-seriousness, sulks, conflicts …
- Keep your phone for its practicality : agree on a date in a good mood.
Note : Do not try, at this stage, to know if the interested man wants a long story. Even he doesn’t know.
In short, before the first dates, the biggest secret of seduction is to refrain from any projection. Seduce for fun, for fun. And not to get more. It would be the best way to scare him away and suffer.
3 / Manage the feelings of an interested man when you have not yet slept together
If there is ONE essential rule with men, this is it: don’t believe what a guy tells you until you have sex with him.
Some men lie for a kicking ass. Sensing that you must have some feelings to pass into the bedroom, they will tell you what you want to hear.
As my queutard mate explained to me – of whom I often speak here – there are key words to whisper in women’s ears to undress them: commitment-couple-serious-build.
Others are sincere in their efforts. They really aspire to life as a couple. They just know too little about you to know if it’s WITH YOU that they want. And even if it does now, that can change very quickly.
A lot of things crystallized around the first night together.
In either situation, crediting the reassuring words of men could end up disappointed.
And no, the waiting time, does not influence the rest of the relationship so much.
Just because you have waited for the three sacrosanct meetings proving your seriousness with the guy in question does not mean that he will want to engage with you. Ultimately, you will have given him more room to get to know you, that’s all.
What really influences an interested man:
- what you give after consuming : if you offer everything (love, tenderness, fidelity, promise), there will be nothing to conquer from you
- how you manage upstream and downstream seduction : the game of seduction for a woman really begins after the first night. Don’t think the battle is over.
- the feeling : sometimes we are simply incompatible. Of course, we liked each other and we liked seeing each other, but that ends there.
The only question you have to ask yourself to know if you are going to sleep with an interested man or not is: do you want to?
The rest is superfluous. Obtaining tangible proof of love upstream is often illusory. Many men are deluding themselves.
Signs that an interested man wants to sleep with you
- He makes you Kinos
- There you compliment.
- He makes you promises, seeks to show its « seriousness ».
- He sexualize his messages (text, emails, etc.)
- It can even talk to you about love.
- It offers you appointment in the evening.
How to act?
Follow these tips if you want him. Only, avoid showing him that you are sending yourself in the air because you are sentimentally conquered. It is – still – too early.
(Though)
- Reject his promises : without being aggressive, laugh at it. Say you don’t need this. That he shouldn’t make promises that he is unsure of keeping.
- Just accept his compliments : it will feel that you are used to hearing it. Even if it flatters your Ego, it takes more to move you.
- Sexualize the conversation : in particular by your tone of voice which can become warmer, and your Body Language which can gain in sensuality.
- Use Kino-escalation
- Play on the look : being elegantly dressed means forgetting your outfit in favor of your physique.
Whether or not to go to bed on the first night is up to you. SUH disclaims all responsibilities.
4 / Manage the feelings of an interested man after the first night
There, it gets complicated! If the interested man wanted to share only one night unlike us, our Ego is hurt.
You can get revenge if he has been dishonest in his approach (he makes big statements to you) AND he becomes unpleasant when he wakes up (distancing himself, coldness, invitation to go home). In this case, you have my blessing. Castrate this bad guy! (Metaphorically speaking, I mean, eh.)
- » It was nice this quick little blow «
- » It’s not against you, it was sooooooo good, but I’m not sure I’ll call you back « .
- » You know, it doesn’t matter. You were tired, that’s all. Don’t worry about it, eh? «
If the interested man has been clear about his expectations (or has not promised anything), you have no reason to take revenge. Just tell him you’re not going to hang on to his underpants, so he’s allowed to smile.
Signs that an interested man wants to see you again
- It is tender when waking up
- He says he want to see you again
- He worries about knowing if it’s reciprocal
- He take you back by car
- He sends you one or more texting within three days
- It offers you another date in the following week
How to act?
- No words of love, no worries, no message harassment, no blame
- When he calls you back, focus on your availability to see him again
- Sexualization
- Of humor and lightness
The idea is that he feels that things are simple with you. You do not take the lead ”.
5 / Manage the feelings of an interested man when the relationship is still unclear
Another step: you are seeing each other, but do not yet have the status « As a couple ».
Are you his girlfriend? On the way to becoming so? A regular sex plan …
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