Dating : 5 Sexy Things You Can Do For a Woman to Get Her To Like You

Whoever started the whole thing, “girls like jerks,” was a real jerk. There’s nothing sexy about being narcissistic and acting like you’re too cool for life. Yes, there are women out there who aren’t attracted to “nice” guys, but the majority of those women are probably not ready for a serious relationship.

A woman who is ready and knows her worth will never settle for a guy who constantly hurts her feelings or acts like he’s above everyone else.

The reason why most relationships fail is that people choose partners that are unhealthy for them and completely wrong for them, and that, my friend, is why being a jerk will never work for you.

Smart women don’t settle down with jerks. They settle down with the guys who are nice, loyal, and emotionally stable with no commitment issues because life is complicated enough, and adding an emotionally unstable partner on top of that is a recipe for disaster.

Kindness and being respectful is sexy.

Confidence is sexy — it’s mouthwatering, actually.

A genuinely confident guy is like ice-cold Fiji water on a hot summer day. You just can’t get enough. Confident men stand out from the rest of the crowd; they have a certain air about them that will almost always draw you to them.

Why is he so self-assured? Why so positive? What’s up with all the smiling? Did he win the lottery or something?

Confidence is intriguing, and oftentimes if you yourself lack confidence, you’ll be drawn to people with it because you want that in your own life.

In contrast, people who lack confidence are often extremely insecure. They’re anxious, apprehensive, and need constant reassurance, which takes a great deal of energy on your end.

I’m not saying there’s anything wrong with needing reassurance; I need it myself on occasion from my partner. Still, if you’re constantly negative and bringing up all of your flaws, it can be really draining on your partner and make the atmosphere feel negative all the time. Not very sexy.

When you approach a woman you’re interested in, approach her with confidence. Who said she’s out of your league? Who said she wouldn’t be interested in you? Stop the negative thinking that isn’t helping anyone and just say hi.

Confident guys know what they want and aren’t afraid to go for it, and that is one aspect that separates the insecure people from the confident ones.

There’s a certain art to humor; it can either make or break you. You don’t necessarily want her to view you as a clown, but making her giggle at something will put her at ease and make her feel more comfortable around you.

According to Time magazine, research shows women like men who make them laugh, and men like women who laugh at their jokes.

I’m sad to admit that I never had a partner who made me laugh throughout my previous relationships. Things always felt dull and overly serious; it was honestly miserable. Now, after dating my current partner for over two years, I would argue that having a sense of humor is an absolute must for every relationship.

It’s a form of connecting with one another, and there’s no better feeling than laughing until your belly aches with the person you’re doing life with.

Psychology Today states that assertive people “clearly and respectfully communicate their wants, needs, positions, and boundaries to others.” However, the line between assertive and aggressive has gotten blurred.

A guy who is assertive in the correct way will respectfully communicate his needs, which is sexy. Maybe I’m biased, but I find men who don’t know what they want not sexy. Sure, there’s a grace period for guys under 20, but once you start working, making your own money, living for yourself, it’s time to get your shit together and get a grip on what you want.

Taking initiative comes with that; there’s nothing less appealing about a guy who says, “oh well, I thought you were going to do it. I thought you were going to plan it. I thought, I thought, I thought…”

This is something that women can work on, too — share their preferences. Don’t be so shut down, and then expect your partner to magically know exactly what you wanted.

Men, take initiative. If you meet a girl you’re interested in, don’t expect her to call or text you, don’t expect her to pick a restaurant. Ask her what she likes, and take the initiative to make it happen.

Taking the lead on things is sexy.

Have you ever been on a date with someone who you end up learning their entire life story, meanwhile they don’t even know you have a dog? Or that your birthday is next week? Or what you like to do in your free time?

Just because you got the date doesn’t mean that the effort stops there. Women love when a guy asks questions or shows some sort of interest in our daily lives, it shows that you’re genuinely interested in us and not just what we have to offer.

My partner and I used to fight about this because I felt like his lack of interest in my day meant he didn’t care; meanwhile, he just didn’t realize that it mattered to me so much.

It does. We want you to ask what we worked on, what projects we’re starting, what we’re most excited about in the upcoming week, ask us what book we’re reading, or what we had for lunch that day. We like those little things; it makes us feel wanted and cared about.

So, next time you go on a date, ask questions. Be fully present, make your partner feel like you actually want to be there with them, and show that you’re genuinely interested in where things could potentially go.