Dating : 7 Things You Should Know Before Getting Married

Relationships and marriage are just like everything else in life — if you force it or rush it, you’re probably going to lose it. Take it slow and make sure you’re ready to dive into something serious. Marriage should never be an impulsive decision. Do not succumb to the pressures of society.

Before committing to something, make sure you’ve lived the life you want to. Make a list of all the things you want to do before you say goodbye to singlehood. Fulfill your dreams and desires before you step into something serious. You see, once you get in, it’s not easy to come out.

Get that degree, travel all over the world, meet new people, build a career, then say yes to the person of your dreams. Do not let society get you, ever. This is your life, make sure you don’t regret anything a few years down the line.

Communicate constantly and communicate about everything. Take about everything that makes you happy and about everything that pisses you to the bone. Tell them about your boss, your colleagues, your work, and your day. Do not keep any secrets. In case you begin to hide things from one another, it’s going to lead your marriage to a dead end.

Get it all out of your system. Tell them everything. Build a beautiful relationship with honesty. Talk about money, career, sex, kids, family, friends, and also about that girl you hate!

He is your prince charming and she is your queen. You both complete each other, I agree. But it’s also very important to focus on yourself too. You need to make the name of your own. You need to be recognized by your first name too.

In a relationship, you need to find a balance between togetherness and a much-needed alone-time. You need to give yourself some love and care just the way you expect your partner to give you. Focus on your career, your health, and your peace whenever necessary.

You are not always going to be dancing hand in hand in your honeymoon period. You will come out of it and the reality will smack you right in the face. And that’s only natural. There is not a happy couple in the world who haven’t had fights.

But make a promise to yourself — make sure to make up to each other right after that ugly quarrel. Never go to sleep with anxiety and hatred brewing inside your chest. Let go of the negativity and love one another a little more. These fights should only pull you closer.

Money can bring in a lot of tension even in the healthiest relationship. It’s never easy to solve and neither is it going to dissolve soon. Most people are of the opinion that it’s important to disclose your entire financial condition to your partner before committing to anything serious. It is very vital, trust me. It is one concern where mistrust and problems can arise.

There is absolutely no need to bring in insecurity into these discussions because it is what it is. The right person will stick by you no matter what.

Here is a link to an article that can help you realize the damage finances can do and how to resolve them.

Respect is as important as love. Sometimes, maybe more. Some couples choose to live with one another even after they stop loving each other. This can be because of social pressures, for the kids, for financial reasons, but most importantly this is because they respect each other. If you are tolerating someone living with you, it’s solely because you respect them.

Lost love can be reborn but disrespect is irreparable. Never disrespect each other even when situations seem fiery and out of hand.

Change is inevitable. It’s the only thing that will never stop happening. Situations change, places change, and yes, people change over time too. But that necessarily doesn’t mean in a way you want them to. Some people change into a person you will loathe for the rest of your life.

If you think you will marry someone who is different and expect them to morph into a person that you will like and adore, then I’m sorry, dear, you’re fooling yourself. If something bothers you when you guys are dating, it’ll probably kill you once you get married. So make a choice or make peace with it.