Dating : Can we have it all ?

I always think about the importance of enjoying the time alone, experiencing life without someone on your side as an adult BUT we are humans and even if we do not want to be with anyone at the moment, we wouldn’t like to spend life in solo.

It was a really hard period when I learnt surrounding yourself with the right people is the key to survive anything. I learnt this in the long run and after a year in Denmark, I moved to England to live with my ex as I felt lonely. Since then I learnt choosing to be with someone because the world seems like a scary and mean place is the worst what you can do and it never works out.

After some time I felt the hunger for something completly different. And when I was wishing for it, an opportunity found me and I was moving to London for a few months. It was amazing, I was alone and had a chance to think about my life and what I want at terms of changes.

I eneded my relationship and moved to London, I had my ‘ride or die’ friend in the city and I never felt more alive in my entire life. I got a job and I was travelling every month, exploring the world without thinking about the future.

Then reality hit me and I had to realise short term goals are all fun and games but life is longer than it seems.
I thought I am happy with all my achievements but I realised I want to be with someone and after two years of ‘me time’ I started to date.
First, it seemed like fun and games, I enjoyed getting to know people but after a while, I got bored of never finding the right person. The lies I heard, the bullshit I listened to and the amount of ‘I am not looking for anything serious at the moment’ I’ve been told was shocking.

As one of the singles in my friend group, I have to have all the dating apps ready so during a chilled girls night with some wine we have a chance to check out who is on the “market” and if we get into it start a conversation. We only do it as a test and all my friends in a relationship realise, they do not want to be single ever again.
One night we discovered 99% of the guys just wanted to end up in my bed the right answer for ‘How are you?’ is your address.

I am not going to lie, I prefer the more human way of giving someone my phone number and go on date BUT nowadays I feel like we are living in a world where texting is more powerful than talking.
I truly want to believe in the theory of the cute guy sees you in the supermarket and ask you out but in London, it did not seem working like that and the first thing I would assume is that he is a serial killer.

I have been told my expectations are way to high and with that I will stay alone forever. One of my friends told me, I have to take under consideration the three main standpoints — personality, looks, carrier — during exploring but I need to know which one to let go as the guy with all from is only living in my dreams.
But can I give up my expectations? Is London really the city where people find love every day? How do you know you find the right person?