Dating : Fate

Love at first sight, is that possible? Does the universe or God pick your soulmate? And how do you know that this is your person, the one you are destined to share your life with? These questions are as old as love itself.

It was a cold New Years Eve in 1989. Excitement filled the air with the anticipation of a new year and a new decade. That was the night the universe or God, sent me my person. Our worlds so vastly different, yet our paths crossed, a path that has led to 31 years of an inseparable bond and one hell of a trip. When I walked into that party my heart was racing with anticipation. I had never been to a party before. Sweet 16 and not a clue what my night had in store. I found myself sitting at a table in a strangers basement with a crowd of kids high on weed and drunk on cheap beer when I saw him walk down the stairs. And just like in every 80’s movie of teenaged angst, our eyes locked. In that moment, the deal was sealed.

Does this happen for everyone? Does it happen but then we stop listening to our hearts and start listening to the chatter around us? Love is not always kind, it is not always honest, sometimes its too honest, it is not always respectful, and it is not always a scene from a John Hughes film. We are human beings. We fail, we struggle, we question, we make mistakes, we are easy to anger, and we often pack up when things get tough and move on. So what makes love different for everyone?

For us, its the bond. You cannot explain it or understand it. You just know its there. This loyalty that goes beyond vows or worldly ideas of love. Having unconditional love for a person who may not always deserve it. I certainly do not always deserve it but it is always given. Love can only be described as a roller coaster with no brakes. The ride never stops but sometimes its terrifying and you really feel like you will fall off the track and die. And other times you are elated with joy and excitement about what the next turn will bring. There are a few people that hold on tightly for both the fear and the joy.

When you know a person loves you more than themselves and would risk it all just to keep you safe, that is your person. When your drives comes from not what you want for your future but “our” future, that is your person. When you want to punch someone in the face because they are so annoying you can’t stand it, that just might be your person. Sometimes the dishes do not get done, occasionally the garbage can is too full or the trash in the bathroom never gets taken out. But is love trash cans and dishes or is it the ability to see over the mess and find the blessing?

The blessing is that oneness you share with another human being. That person being the missing piece to your jigsaw heart. When that final piece clicks, it makes you complete. One day your heart may break because your missing piece becomes worn, its edges fraying and is losing grip. You can feel them slipping away and you begin to feel like you lost a piece of your puzzle, the puzzle you call your heart. At the beginning it was like “16 Candles” or “Pretty in Pink” and now its become the “Noteboook”. Fate brought two people together for this very moment. He could not do this without me. A higher power knew that. Fate did that.