Dating : The Feminine Imperative

And not just any dating, since a generation of online articles covers the often humorous range of opinions that mostly women like to consume. The market for dating advice is over-saturated and in my opinion, shallow, while the stark reality of dating is exerting it’s stranglehold on culture.

I will cover a niche aimed towards a particular kind of woman, with an emphasis on long term dating strategies that a woman might employ to work in the favor of long term success with the most high value male that they can lock down. I will also write in general hyperbole.

There is much to uncover. The mainstream dating narrative not only cannot delve into certain sensitive subjects without derision, but also, very few people even have the correct insights informed by the best of social and psychological analysis, but also hands on dating experience that i bring to the table.

My book will be written as a dating manual for women. This is for a reason. I find women to be at a significant dating deficit today. The thrust of dating and social dynamics has shifted significantly in the last two decades.

As far as i know, i am the only soon-to-be author who is claiming that in the last decade, women have come to a significant deficit in regard to sexual dynamics. Men with their rational inquiry and methodical approach to dating have significantly turned the tables on under-informed women, who have enjoyed a sexual primacy over men for the last few decades prior to now.

With the advent of social media, and a political climate of increasing tension among the genders, coupled with a growing population and a general erosion of traditional values, romance and dating has never looked more perplexing, and the ramifications of gender wars on culture never more worrisome.

Granted; the world has many, more significant problems, like climate change, nuclear threats, even the possible advent of runaway AI that might completely change the fabric of society in the coming decades.

But i can only tackle what i can. And one of the most concerning issues of contemporary life to me is the growing discontent and misunderstanding between the genders, such that birth rates are plummeting, divorce rates are rising, and a general distrust among the genders is at an all time high. And i do not refer to simple Metoo narrative; but a deep, ever growing rift between men and women that i have observed only rising in the past decade or so.

Such that it is a rarity today to find ANY functioning couple, who have been together for a few years at least, and who have a healthy relationship that is set to last for decades, as was the norm for most of human history.

I invite you to think to yourself, or tell me if you can think of any one functioning couple that you know of. A typical response i would get is something like ‘ Oh oh… i know one functioning, perfect couple’

And that’s precisely the point… you know one such couple. They stand out because today, it is an exception, and not a rule.

Indeed, this gender conflict is something i have felt on my skin. I had numerous entanglements with women, long lived, short lived, passionate, superficial, friendly;

I have had hundreds of hours of in-depth conversations with all stripes of women who often revealed their deepest concerns to me. I have also spent hundreds of hours consuming the best material available on the subjects of dating and sexual dynamics.

I wanted to resolve my own issues with regard to dating, once and for all, after the second long term relationship i had with a near-perfect girl ended catastrophically.

I decided i will not make the same mistakes again, and that i will untangle the subject of relationships in all it’s depth, once and for all.

I have learned only from the greatest minds of ‘the game of sexes’ available in the world today. And i often find within their rhetoric flaws, inconsistencies, and an unintended promulgation of problems, rather than solutions.

It is time for me to distill the best of my knowledge into a book that can be methodically studied by women who want to proactively improve their dating outcome in life. Although many men would benefit even more from immersing themselves in my conclusions.

Some recent occurrences in my life had spurred me towards the compilation of this book. But this is years in the making. Hundreds of hours of dating, relationships, learning about social nuances, getting feedback, rejections, successes, coupled with my philosophically trained mind which tends towards holistic solutions.

So most recently, what inspired me to write about this is that i met a girl who i would describe as 99% my type. A ‘10’ as is sometimes referred to in the red pill circles (I will explore the red pill in great depth in the book).

Mind you a 10 is somewhat specific to preference of course, but this girl was MY kind of ten. So what happened?

Well, as per usual, i ran into the same set of issues i almost always do. I always go through the same process of determining her values, her priorities, and i always naturally, smoothly ‘qualify’ myself by revealing myself in subtle, calibrated ways meant to make her see who it is that i really am.

And what i came to realize with this one girl in particular, is that basically, she has no idea how to effectively seduce me, even though she has all the attributes necessary to completely obscure other women in my eyes.

In fact, in a matter of days, i could count a dozen of critical blunders which she indicated, that seriously detracted my initial attraction towards her. So i realized, like many times before, that she is a rough diamond, and that i need to be quite careful with her and maybe give her some time, and some insight on how she can improve her outcome with guys that she actually wants, beyond just defaulting to her sex appeal.

Women have it hard these days. I would love to give men dating advice as well, but my primary focus of intellectual compassion goes out to women, who i feel are at a particular disadvantage in regard to dating the guys they REALLY want. I am talking about the upper few percent of the most high value men. Guys that she cannot get. Guys that seem to always hurt her in the end, regardless of what she does or how amazing she is.

So i had to friend zone this girl, let’s call her Ten. We agreed to a friend zone, but i have a slight problem with this. You see, it is a well established dogma within the red pill community that a man should never get friend zoned by girls, thus loosing self respect and being made an emotional tampon for her to dispose of as she is out there dating and sexing other guys.

I get all that; for many years i was white knighting, being friends with hot girls for whom i wasn’t good enough because i wasn’t bad-boyish enough for her to become excited for me. I went through and over such inhibitions, and began to see the dreaded friend zone in a different way to the usual red pill logic.

How friend zoning women, especially very beautiful, desirable ones, has benefited me, is in that i got to hear their confessions to me, often in vivid detail of what the bad boys they were dating did with them, and most often in the format of me giving them advice on their messed up situations.

I learned a great deal from women in real life situations. But i learned even more from masters of seduction and great social scientists. So about Ten and my friend zone with her;

As much as i benefited from a mutual exchange of ideas, time and energy with many a girl who friend zoned me in the past, in recent times, this has become less optimal, as i already find myself with a good number of female friends that are already maxing out my capacity to be there for them.

I have a good ecosystem of friends, women with whom i have built a solid, true friendship that goes both ways. Most of them with boyfriends and insight into the red pill which is way above the average girls’ awareness.

So it is redundant that i should add even more women to my friend zone, as much as i would like to. Ten really deserved to be in the zone… we had a mostly positive back and forth before we discovered critical incompatibilities.

See the problem with me giving my time and advise too hastily is in a simple ROI. Return on interest. I have probably written over 500.000 words to various women over the years, in topics ranging from simple deductive reasoning, to high level poetic flurries that will stand the test of time. And eye to eye interactions have also been numerous, and enlightening.

I cannot afford to miss-allocate my time any longer. I cannot limit my time and knowledge to any one girl, however stunning she is. I will instead write a book that all women can refer to, that gathers the best of my insights.

To my current readers (and i like to be under the radar until i formulate a marketing strategy) it is no surprise that i come at the game of romance from a ‘Dominant’ paradigm. And for sure, no girl can reach a 99% compatibility rate with me if she is inhibited about her submissive tendencies.

So i wanted to provide value to Ten, i wanted to help her out like it is in my nature to do. I hate the idea of girls like her being left alone to the poor design of society; i hate the thought of letting her get picked apart by inferior men who she always seems to end up falling for.

But i could not drop my standards of time management and interest that are critical for any level of success in life, in any area. So i came up with a plan for her;

It was that i openly invited her to become my apprentice, a platonic submissive who can captivate me enough to provide value to her personally, simply by offering me strong feminine signals in return, which i can ‘feed’ on. (more on energetic vampirism in the book)

Since i would not cross the sexual boundaries with her, on any random girl for that matter, i let her know that the ONLY way she can keep me engaged with her, while i meet and focus on other girls, is if she plays out the submissive role of a ‘good girl’ with an emphasis on virtual communication as my apprentice.

You might think this was a dick move on my part, and i don’t mind you seeing me as such… but you should learn from me still, because i am willing to reveal masculine secrets that are otherwise closely guarded by man-codex.

See the way that i, ‘dick’, like to do dating these days, is that i will choose the best girl out of a pool of up to 5 girls at any given time. It’s called choosing from abundance, rather than desperation. For the most part, girls would have it no other way. Girls hate it when they are the primary and ONLY choice of a guy. But it is a paradox because in another sense, they love being the only one. And they love to know that the high level guy chose her, and only her, over all the other girls that he could be seeing. Of course girls will not admit to this easily, but it is not my job to cater to your expectations, but to tell you truths that will significantly aid you in dating and life.

So i gave the proposal for a teacher/ apprentice dynamic to the girl called Ten. She basically refused in confusion… she was quite unprepared for a guy as intense as me, right from the start.

So i could not continue by abstracting crucial concepts of dating, men, and life to her personally. I cannot, yet again become the white night for some girl who does not value my time like i deserve and expect.

As a little glimpse into what you will find in my book, i reveal my partial secret of how a girl could keep my interest and investment to her, even while she has been disqualified from my top pick. This is only me off course, the book will cover broad ranges. But i know men.. much much better than you ladies know men.

She could hold my interest by treating me with far more respect than other girls that i might be dating or otherwise engaging with at any time. You will often hear a vanilla dating advice in the tune of ‘Just like a woman wants caring attentiveness, a man wants respect.’

But the problem women would usually encounter is that, it is not congruent that she should forcibly respect a man that… she does not respect. He must command respect; he should deserve it; otherwise it is just lip service and she knows it.

Ten told me something similar as her response to my naughty proposition. She said something like ‘Who do you think you are to teach me anything? I don’t need another online guru. There are people trained for this… who the hell are you?.’

And while being difficult and bitchy is sexy on a girl, and something i often advise meek girls to adopt more of, this kind of response was again, a blunder on her part that disqualified her even further.

Especially since she should already be well aware of my literary mastermind, at the very least.

Especially since i am trying to tie together things unspoken by the academia, the mainstream, or any of her friends… i KNOW how valuable my knowledge of sexual dynamics and seduction is.

I know how vast the issue is today. Even Ten, she told me that all she wants, all she ever wanted, is ‘a stable, loving relationship’

And even such a modest requirement (while in reality she has a giant list of expectations from men) seems so hard to achieve, and finding consensus and common ground with men seems like a daunting, impossible task for her.

I get the Tens of this world, girls in their sexual prime, stunningly beautiful, who are essentially telling me that they have given up on love (in their prime!!) and that they are now just focusing on themselves, their own life pursuits, not hoping for anything anymore.

This is a travesty to me. A girl like that should be dating at least a guy per month, she should be getting around 5 offers for a date per WEEK though. Yet she is inhibited and disillusioned by dating altogether. And the ‘right guy’ is nowhere to be found for her, even in the midst of all the attention she is getting. What is the problem here? Is it men, or her? We will look at many variables in the book.

Well in any case, this girl’s rejection of my proposition to her, coupled with another female friends’ admonition to finally write a book already, has somewhat culminated in my writing of this material. But my main theme is to provide practical solutions that might ameliorate the degradation of cultural and social disarray brought about by sexual confusion.

I simply cannot afford to waste my precious time, and knowledge distilled from hundreds of hours of learning and experience, on any one girl who is ill-deserving of such attention. The world needs me to expand, and provide my service to an ailing generation of longing hearts.

The material is too important. All modern women, especially single, and young, should look inside the mind of a confessing ‘player’, especially one who is philosophically inclined to embrace an ecumenical amount of variables in the breakdown of a social polemic.

It is a birthright of all women to be in a fulfilling, secure relationship with a man. And not only a ‘man’, but her evolutionary thrust commands her that she should have the most high value man that she can possibly find.

I do not want women to lower their standards of men and embrace masculine folly. I want women to RAISE their standards, and be equipped with tools to choose the best of men who will get to serve as a social signal of what kind of man gets the girl.

I am operating with nearly all of the nuances of romance available to humanity at this day and age. This is not a hard thing to claim; it only takes about a decade of learning and experience for an inquisitive mind to learn just about everything in regard to dating and romance.

And what is a book, if not a distillation of decades of experience that the writer has amalgamated for your convenience? A flashlight in a world of confusing shades of grey?

I will not go too deep into the material itself in this blog post, this is only an announcement that many women have been waiting for.

I will unveil closely guarded secrets of men, to align the dating power imbalance slightly back into the favor of women. I feel like men have again, with the power of internet and rational inquiry, transcended female sexual prowess.

It has never been harder for a woman to marry a high value man; as there has never been a more pressing lack of high value men in society. Women are becoming more and more cut-throat in order to secure the few high value men that get all the attention, from numerous other women, younger, sexier than they are.

I know how it drives women mad to even think of this. How she is walking on eggshells, especially after about age 30, especially after he got kind of bored with her, and is travelling on his business trips looking all cool in his prime.

There is so much to discuss, and my book will answer actual pain points of women, as my gift to womankind for everything that i’ve learned from women over the years.

I am enormously grateful to women that were a big driving force of my personal evolution, and i love women not merely in a sexual sense, but almost in a pro-feminist sense. This might sound outlandish for some red-pill oriented people to read, especially coming from me who is often perceived as machistic and hyper masculine.

You can thank Ten for pushing me over the edge with this. I finally realized with her that it’s not just her… and that it is not fair to other women that i should coach only her. I am literally compelled to write this book because there is a huge need for it in our current social climate.

That is why i know it will be successful; i know it, because there is almost no one out there i can find who would talk to women straight, without political correctness, and with the best of derivations from decades of man-o-sphere experience that men are often unwilling to share.

Welcome to my mind; and allow me to enter into your mind ONLY if my words and concepts captivate you. I am inviting you to consider my work seriously not because i want it so, but because you find actual value and relevance of it glaringly apparent.

I have had it with the increasing degradation of the social fabric. I will take it upon myself to resolve many a rift between the sexes, such that it may serve as a net positive for both.