Dating : The Undateable

I’ve read a lot recently, that the key to maintaining a successful relationship is knowing what you want and need out of the relationship. On the surface, this seems like an easy question. I believe most people go wrong with this and think they know what they want. — Marriage, kids… Whilst a lot of people may well want marriage, kids and what society tells us we should want to achieve by the age of 30. What about what you need in a relationship?

My dating history is mostly a blank page. But, at the age of 29, I now know what I want/need/require out of a relationship;
– I don’t want kids.
– Marriage is not the end goal. (I’d be happy in a relationship without marrying. I’m not anti-marriage, but I don’t require it.)
– I don’t need constant reminders that you love me. (If you truly love me, I’ll know.)
– Space is a good thing, being joined at the hip isn’t. (Let’s have fun together, but let’s also let each other breathe, hang out with friends.)
– I’m independent and love to travel, if you don’t want to travel (it might not work), I’ll go alone.

I realise to some that I may come across as selfish. Maybe I am. But, it has taken me this long to realise I cannot be what society wants for me, to be truly happy in love and life.