Dating : This Girl “Rejected” Me

I was talking with my Dad and a friend last night while walking to this bar about self-esteem and attracting the right people into our life.

We’re never going to get everyone to like us and the very “pull” we feel toward making this a reality is built on the premise of low self-worth — which is the complete opposite of what we actually are: infinite love & light.

I caught myself swept up in this unconscious pattern last night when I saw an attractive girl standing alone texting on her phone.

I approached her and told her I thought she was beautiful and wanted to meet her. I introduced myself.

She was texting her boyfriend. It didn’t go well (according to my Ego) and she left to her group of friends while I stood alone, scrolling on Instagram to cover the fact I was deeply in my head thinking:

“Is she telling them about me?”

“Was I weird?”

“What if they all laugh at me?”

You know, playing out the worst scenarios and then running with them as our minds tend to get us to do.

Then I stopped and realized…

These people don’t know me or who I am. She and (if that worst case scenario played out) her friends only experienced a small snippet of Dante.

So, I’m going to take that feedback and feel like garbage and let my night be ruined?

Because I draw all my self-esteem from what other people think of me?

Because I need their approval?

And if they don’t okay every move or expression I make then I can’t make it?

Or I should feel terrible about making it?

Inner healing is so important because it allows us to not be attached to the outcome or in reaction to our environment and the people in it.

It instead allows us to draw “state” and good emotions from within and then share them with others.

You essentially become this lighthouse of positivity that attracts people rather than the desperate boat trying to find a safe harbor in the storm of negativity.

This external need for approval and acceptance is a reflection of our own inner need for approval and self-acceptance that we’re ignoring consciously or unconsciously.

The key is to love ourselves more and tap into the infinite being that we actually are.

You’re worthy.

You’re enough.

You’re amazing.