Dating : Tinder Got Video Chat And Online Dating Just Got Much Easier

I am not a very social person. I prefer to not interact with people in social settings at all. Especially new people! And if I have to, I prefer to meet people virtually before meeting them in real life if that is even necessary.

Communication and interaction is a vital part of human interactions for both social or economic purposes.

Advances in technology have made communication and interactions much easier, faster, flexible and more efficient. You can buy something without even meeting or communicating in-depth or at all with the seller in online purchases nowadays.

You can have meaningful conversations with someone you have never physically met or one that you meet irregularly with the technology available in our era.

Dating is kinda problematic for a person like me who still has physical and emotional needs but prefers to limit interactions with others particularly new people. And that is where online dating swoops in and saves the day!

Online dating is a rabbit hole in itself. You have no idea what you are going to find down there if you decided to jump in.

When you first meet someone, you are meeting their representatives and not themselves they say. Online dating takes this further. The lies in there I swear! The embellishments and the catfishing can drive anyone crazy.

Tinder is the most popular dating app right now. I love tinder. It is easy to find someone in your locality depending on what you are looking for.

Unlike other dating apps where you have to fill pages of questionnaires for the logarithm to match you with potentials, tinder makes it easier and more flexible. You just swipe left to a profile you don’t like or right to a profile you like and take it from there. You can even super like someone if you fancy them too much.

I like chatting online with potentials for weeks or longer to ascertain whether they are worth a meet. While chatting with them, I am able to learn more about them and I can find out whether they tick my checklist.

Are they patient? Are they violent or do they have a temper? Are they cute and are they tall? Do we have the same values? What are their opinions on certain issues? What are they looking for? Do our needs align? Will they give me what I am looking for?

I understand that people prefer to meet others in their own ways, some sooner than others and in different settings or locations. Some want to meet in their homes, some in bars or restaurants, some in parks etc.

People are also looking for different things on online platforms.

Some are looking for escapes, to meet new people, to pass time, some are in there out of sheer curiosity or to experience it, some are looking for love, hookups or even clients for their love and sex-related business. I appreciate and respect the diversity that such platforms provide and the different characters, wants and needs of the profiles there.

Impatient people can never get far with me. A person that wants to meet like tomorrow is a red flag for me. I want to have a good idea of the person before I go out and meet a stranger. Rude, annoying, poor communicators or entitled people are also a complete no.

When I feel I am ready to meet them in person after getting to know someone online for a while, I lay out my ultimatums to ascertain whether they are worth a meet, my time and efforts and a further pursue.

If our needs, wants or objectives do not align for several reasons, I end things; the friendship (if any) and the communication immediately. Chatting with someone while getting to know them can be draining. I do not like to go on a back and forth and I also see no need in keeping on wasting my time and efforts on something that from my estimation won’t end my way or won’t give me what I am looking for. I’d rather spare that energy for the next one or for one where I am getting something, most preferably what I am looking for.

If they do meet my expectations from the chats and our objectives align moving forward, then I go through the whole crazy process of preparing to meet someone new. Woah! Sometimes it works out, sometimes it doesn’t.

I do maintain friendships with those that I feel drawn to in some way though. Also with those that we connect on certain levels even though we may not want to pursue anything sexual or romantic. As long as they are respectful, not annoying and they positively impact my life even if it’s just simple laughter, I retain them as friends. I have met and maintained very wonderful, fulfilling and healthy platonic friendships with a few guys I met on Tinder and on other online platforms. Some have become great great friends.

With face to face chat on Tinder, you can now tell what someone looks and sounds like live and you can also be able to better judge their demeanour or personality before deciding on whether to invest your time in getting to know them or meeting them.

Face to face on tinder will help to weed out the fakes right from the get-go and will save seekers a lot of time and prevent them from wasting their energies on something that they’d rather just not.

It also makes it more efficient as users don’t have to give their personal numbers or other personal details to a complete stranger to get to know them further. It can all remain on the platform before they trust them enough to take it further. This also helps protect the privacy and overall safety of users on the platform.

People that date online and on tinder, in particular, must be rejoicing! I know I am.

Goodbye catfishes and time wasters. As for me, I will be on tinder video chatting with potentials. I already did a few over the holidays and I am loving it!