Dating : What Actually Makes a Man Attractive to the Opposite Sex?

Here’s what you have to do to get the attention of beautiful women.

When it comes to the attractiveness of men it’s all about masculinity and how women value it. We’ve conducted a bar experiment for this article and asked around fifty different women on how they perceive a man depending on their facial expressions, posture, speech and more. For this experiment the same man was chosen for all different aspects, because we didn’t want to consider DNA’s influences on attractiveness in this study.

Here are the results of that bar experiment:

Smile or not to smile?

83% of the women thought smiling is less “masculine” and 17% chose that a very subtle and minimal grin combined with “smiling eyes” is more “masculine”.

Smiling guys were perceived as “sweet” and women said that it would be great to share a giggle with these men, but for sexual relationships the majority chose the subtle grin.

One woman remarked: “I would fuck the guy with the grin, but I would probably be in a relationship with the smiling guy.”

Another woman said that the subtle grin conveyed the message of “Yeah, I’m gonna give it to you hard.”

Formal or informal style?

61% of women chose the formal presentation to be less “masculine” and 39% of women chose the casual presentation to be more “masculine”.

When it comes to style and posture women perceive men in sweatpants and with a more casual posture more manly than men sitting upright with the legs tight together.

As always, it is not really a black-and-white decision:

One woman in the study: “I can tell that he’s a little bit more feminine in his gestures, but I find that kinda sexy.”

To express or to not express?

46% of the women in the study perceived an expressive man as less “masculine” and 54% chose a stoic or thoughtful looking man to be more “masculine”.

Being expressive can often be a good thing when it comes to conveying your jokes and humor, but women will inevitably perceive you as a little bit less “masculine” than your thoughtful looking counterpart. That’s not necessarily bad as humor is very attractive, but it can be in certain situations were you want to be perceived as “masculine”.

Fast and high or slow and deep?

55% of women chose faster, higher pitched speech as less “masculine” and 45% chose slow and deep speech as more “masculine”.

Again, a faster and higher speech may be great depending on the situation. Especially, when you need that voice to crack a great joke, but when you want to appear more manly choose to go with your slower and deeper voice.

Attention, please?

86% of women chose that an attentive looking man is less “masculine” and 14% chose that an aloof looking man is more “masculine”.

This may depends on the situation, but to attract the opposite sex you want to look a little more aloof than like an attentive listener. That does not mean you actually shouldn’t pay attention, but rather that you should look like you don’t.

Aggressive or high EQ?

58% of women chose a high EQ and more passive behaviour as less “masculine” and 42% chose a low EQ and aggressive behaviour as more “masculine”.

While you may be influenced by the results, please don’t go overboard. This is not a result that says you should become a dick. Nobody likes those kind of men.

Committed or unavailable?

83% of women chose a committed looking man less “masculine” and 17% chose an unavailable man more “masculine”.

This does not mean that you should be unavailable and not committed, but rather that you should look like that when picking up women in a bar.