how do you know if your man is cheating on you?
Red on the collar of a shirt, phone that is nowhere to be found, sudden coquetry… There are many telltale signs of infidelity. It is still necessary to be attentive to it. In “Your husband (especially) doesn’t want you to read this book” *, Gary Neuman, psychotherapist and marriage counselor, helps us put ourselves in a man’s head. It deciphers the signals that should alert you, but also reminds you of the lessons to be learned from lasting couples.
1 – He spends a lot of time away from home
Many men report that spending a lot of time away from home is the prelude to infidelity or confirmation of an affair. What I would like to point out to you here is that all these men, before cheating on their wives, start by moving away from the matrimonial home. If you see that your husband isn’t home often, keep your eyes open and try to figure out what’s going on. Talk to him: find out what is wrong and what prompts him to venture far from home, or even into the arms of another woman.
Testimonials
“Paul told me that he saw his mistress every night before he came home. Since she lived a few hundred yards from his house, it couldn’t be easier. On weekends, he came to see her when he got home from football. He also intended to go shopping at the supermarket and stop by her house. His wife did not notice anything and knew nothing of his infidelities. «
“I felt like a thief. My wife didn’t care about my absences because we had very different schedules. She didn’t like soccer and was happy that I went shopping. Paul was not happy and regretted that his wife saw nothing. So he made up other excuses to get away from home. “In the end it had become ridiculous. It was like I wanted to be caught red-handed. I said I was going to play golf, but I didn’t take my clubs. But nothing – she saw nothing. «
2 – You rarely make love
34% of men told me that a decrease in sexual activity goes hand in hand with impending infidelity. When infidelity is already there the percentage jumps to 43%. It is interesting to note that the decline is already verified before infidelity. This can therefore be an alarm signal that would warn of imminent danger. 57% of unfaithful men continue to have sex with their wives, even if it is once every two or three months.
3 – He avoids you
Attention to your husband is essential, even if it is small, unimportant gestures. If he’s not answering your phone calls or texts, if he’s spending less and less time with you, ask yourself questions. Do not hesitate to send him messages like: « I love you », « How is your day going? » «
4 – He criticizes you more than before
« I am becoming more and more critical of her, » said 28% of husbands who are about to cheat on their wives – a percentage that drops to 19% during a proven infidelity. «
Testimony
“Stéphanie did not understand what was happening to her husband. “He had always liked my cooking. My mom is Italian and he loves Italian food. Then, one day, he told me that he was tired of always eating the same things and that he wanted to change. I cooked new dishes and he seemed happy. He then started to say that I was spending too much. It is I who take care of the management of the accounts. While he had never found anything to complain about, he was blaming me and looking for lice in my head. He was critical of the way I was managing our savings and we started arguing. «
5 – He seeks confrontation
20% of unfaithful husbands admit to arguing more often than before with their wives. Scathing criticism and frequent arguments are never misleading signs. If this is true in your relationship, there is a good chance that your partner will coo elsewhere.
And also
– Significant changes in the schedule
– A sudden coquetry
– Suspicious use of his phone
– “Material” signs: traces of make-up, hair on clothes, etc.
– The appearance of “gifts”: from his mother, his colleagues, etc.
– A new name that comes up often in the conversation
– A little voice that tells you … Listen to your instincts
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