POF : Genuinly Curious about my profile
Hello all, I dont really make posts on reddit (let alone about dating sites), but when my curiosity gets the best of me then we get this. Basically I strive for self improvement and always ask for constructive criticism and what better place to ask for it than the internet. In summary Im not sure about my POF profile and would like to know what could increase my success.
[https://ca.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=50645608](https://ca.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=50645608)
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The messages I send to women vary but have been similar to as what follows: (Bold and Italicized portions relate to their interests)
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» Hey there! Don’t know if you’ll see this as there is no way your not getting hundreds of messages a day lol. In the moments you are not busy, what is the number one thing you like to do? »
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» Hi there! Gotta admit, something about your pink hair really stood out and now im caught trying to reach out to you lol. ***Whats your favorite horror movie?*** »
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« Hi, wanna chat, maybe get to know each other? »
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« Hi hows it going? ***Where is your favorite place you have been too?*** »
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and of course the typical « Hi, wanna chat, maybe get to know each other? »
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I welcome all input (Hopefully no trolls).
By. Cronius_Maximus
> In summary Im not sure about my POF profile and would like to know what could increase my success.
There is nothing that can increase your chances of success, mostly because, it is for the most part out of your control.
As these are personal preferences based on attraction. Which is why if you came across a profile of a female that you do not like, there would not be anything on her profile she could change to get you to change your mind.
So, therefor the rule « If at first you are not successful, then redefine success »
Define success on a dating site, as making attempts, not dates, as those are out of of your control.
Well supposedly we shouldn’t list video games and anime as our hobbies. That’s something someone told me about my profile. I think it’s stupid though. And awesome hair bro.
I have no freaking idea. Before visiting your POF profile, I was going to suggest focusing more on pictures. Show a lot of pictures of you smiling, dressed nicely, out in public places. I don’t do that myself, but I would imagine that pictures are probably the number one thing that grab womens’ attentions. But you already have nice pictures. So it seems that you are mostly focusing on initial messages. I prefer just being myself and typing whatever comes to mind. I don’t want to overthink it too much. Lately, I have decided to amend my messages though. By trying to keep it short, simple, direct, complimentary, and to the point as much as possible. It’s because women can’t be bothered with anything more than that. And at a glance, I don’t really like the messages you are sending. They seem corny. But also…. some other things. For instance « gotta admit, something about your pink hair really stood out. » Why do you have to « gotta admit » something? Just say « I am digging your pink hair ». It sounds like you are a coward beating around the bush. Also, you seem to always start off with a direct but general questions « what do you like to do? », « where is your favorite place you have been to », « want to chat? », « want to get to know each other? », « what’s your favorite horror movie? » I think that asking questions is a bit important, but you are putting too much stress on that. It’s not an application or a survey. You need to focus more on chemistry and less on a person’s interests. For instance, there are a handful of TV shows that I really like, I watch a ton of anime, and I have favorite movies. Do you think listing those things on my profile or telling a woman these things is going to improve my chances of meeting her? No. In the end, she doesn’t give a shit. The world revolves around her and she could care less about whatever your favorite tv show is. And when I say the world revolves around her, that doesn’t mean her favorite tv show matters either. It’s how you make her feel. And how you grab her attention. Asking lame duck questions like that probably isn’t going to cut it. Also, you seem a bit pathetic in the sense that you are stepping on tip toes around them, acting overly nice and overly cautious. You can be nice, but don’t overdo it. It makes you look like a doormat. I suck at conversing with people in person. And online, well that’s where all my relationships are… online. And I can’t say that I am any better at conversing online than other people, but my advice to you is maybe focus less on being overly nice, overly cautious, and asking general direct questions like that… and maybe just throw out something short and random but interesting. If she is interested, she will bite and contribute to the conversation. Then it can go from there. For instance, on Reddit there is a subreddit called ‘Shower Thoughts’ and you see people posting random thoughts that they had and they usually generate a lot of Likes and thumbs ups because they are interesting and unique. Don’t plagiarize them. But basically just share some of your own private shower thoughts with these girls. Something that you think they might be able to relate with based on what they write in their profiles. So in my opinion, I would just be direct about how attractive you find them, make it clear that you want to go on a date with them, type out a shower thought… and if they reply, then try to get the ball rolling and then plan a date activity and see if she’ll go. Sorry if I couldn’t be more helpful. None of these are things that I do myself. I never try to go out on dates. Dates aren’t my thing.