POF : I need relationship advice, I have been dating a woman for 5years now, but I discovered that she has been cheating on me with my best friend, I was emotionally drained when I found out about this, she has apologized but I feel betrayed and disappointed, should I forgive her and take her back??
I need relationship advice, I have been dating a woman for 5years now, but I discovered that she has been cheating on me with my best friend, I was emotionally drained when I found out about this, she has apologized but I feel betrayed and disappointed, should I forgive her and take her back??
By. Adams_gangi
# HELL NO.
No.
Edit: Also, dude isn’t your « best friend » if he slept with your girlfriend of 5 years. You need to ditch both her and your « friend. »
Also also, NO!
Girlfriend, needs to be someone that does not cheat on you with your best friend. Need to get rid of both and move forward . You will always have doubt, and if you have to ask us then you already know the answer. Stay strong , make room for somebody that will treasure you
« Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice shame on me. » Sometimes these old sayings are as wise now as when they were first said.
5 years is a long time. No person on reddit is going to be able to make that decision better than you.
I would say though, that if you do take her back, you will never quite be able to trust her. Those doubts are always going to niggle at you.
Ultimately, it boils down to sunken costs; do you want to throw away those 5 years you spent with her? All those memories? Or will the jealousy get the better of you, because believe me, you will get incredibly jealous. So will she, as in her mind, if she has the capacity to cheat, so do you.
I’m sitting on the fence here, but it’s your decision.
Why not try counselling? After 5 years, I think that’s a perfectly valid option. Just remember that not getting back together could also be seen as a successful outcome. Talking your issues through with someone (both as a couple and on your own) will help you decide.
That guy is not your friend. Get him out of your life. That I can advise you on. A true friend would never do anything like that.
If you take her back she won’t respect you deep down, and you shouldn’t respect her for betraying your trust.
The damage has been done, like a sinking ship it’s not if it’s when, get off now while you can before any emotional hurt is added.
Hey man if you wanna talk I can give you my discord. I’m sorry to hear that.
Nope. It’s done. I’m sorry.
I think you should work it out if everything else is good.