POF : Im getting short answers, and no questions in our conversation
I get the feeling that the person doesnt really care, and is either not comfortable just stating that she isnt interested, or is just new to this (as am i, but im putting my all). Sometimes she answers, sometimes she doesnt. Ill ask a question, and shell answer with a short answer, or shell ignore it all together, and it just says « read ». Ill ask something else later, like the next day, and she will answer that, but like i said it doesnt feel like she cares and is only answering for the sake of humoring me.
What can i do to stop this?
Can i bring up how I feel about her not really interacting?
What are good questions to use to get a better conversation started?
Also, is my profile good?
https://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=178746513
Tips are welcome
By. all-day-tay-tay
I’m no expert but don’t call her out for her lack of activity. That’s more likely going to turn her off. Maybe try to set up a time for you two to get out there and meet each other. She may very well be someone who is better in person. Not everyone is keen with writing big responses, especially if they use the phone app.
I would take the things about the dates out of your bio personally. I would hope that you are joking about the 2nd date. It is hard to tell on the internet. I like video games but I would pass on that being a wild 2nd date
Here’s my honest advice Tay Tay: Don’t chase someone that’s doesn’t value you. Judging from past experience and your post: She’s not interested; if she was interested she would make sure you know. She’s giving short answers hoping you’ll just eventually stop msging; which you should and move on the the next girl.
The worst thing you can do is “tell her how you feel” because to her you’ll either come off as a psycho or so pathetic for allowing her to have such an effect on your emotions in a short period of time.
Why bother asking her. If a girl doesn’t answer your question in a timely manner or with a longer answer, does that make you feel she is super interested or the exact opposite? I know you’re smarter than this. Move on and talk to someone who shows more interest.
On POF it is like having a conversation with the Hulk a lot of times. Limited vocabulary
Pretty sure these are plants. They’re all too common to be coincidence.
My best advice is – if she doesn’t respond or you feel the conversation is becoming one-sided, don’t chase up. You’re just expending your energies and time on someone who is quite clearly not interested but doesn’t want to say, or maybe just bored? Still not got that part down myself.
I find this happens quite a lot (well at least to me) and that’s after I take an interest in her and our mutual interests. I try to make good conversation… As soon as I notice the replies begin to dwindle it becomes obvious and if it continues for a while I just break it off. In my experience, the first signs is she asks you nothing in return. Then the messages get shorter, until finally she just doesn’t respond to you at all or with one to two word answers. It sucks, but it happens.
I usually just let say at the end of my last one to her « Anyways I think you may be looking for something different than what I can offer, and honestly it feels like it’s becoming one-sided. It’s cool – I wish you the best of luck on here and I hope you find what you’re looking for. 🙂 »
95% of the replies I get from my initiating emails are 5 word answers answering the question I asked. I don’t bother replying.
There was one woman I asked where she lived in Europe. She replied « Right outside Amsterdam ».. Ok. Thanks. That’s not how you have a conversation.
As a joke I replied: Roses are red, Amsterdam has tulips, You didn’t ask me anything, So I won’t continue this.
She didn’t reply. lol. I’m willing to wait to find someone that is excited to engage me in conversation.
Ghost her