POF : I’m just separated
Just for advice, if you are in a failing marriage/separated, respect someone’s wishes ro not consider dating you till the divorce is final.
I don’t date people who are still legally married for several reasons. Sometimes they get back together during the divorce process (was ghosted due to this but guy said he wasn’t married anymore). It is stressful and expensive process. It can drag out a long time. Sometimes guys who are separated are looking for rebounds/revenge dates.
This guy comes off as a revenge dater. I don’t have confidence he is in a good place to look for a relationship from how he described the relationship and refers to her as “wife” still. He brings up that she is dating his cousin and he is alone which doesn’t really inspire confidence. He then apologizes for bothering me twice in a row when I said I don’t date someone married still and then said it was okay but reiterated not dating while married. Then he went back to the wife dating cousin thing when I said good luck.
I get that in some states they have archiac laws that you need to wait X amount of time after being separated before getting a divorce and a divorce is expensive, but I don’t want to get pulled into drama.
By. K1gC
I’m the same way. Learned the hard way a few times to get involved with someone who is « separated. » If they are not legally divorced for a minimum of 6 months, I want nothing to do with them. Too much drama for me
I’ve been separated 8 years, but I understand if someone doesn’t want to get involved until the paperwork is completed. This was actually done 5 years ago but the lawyer abandoned their practice before filing, so it took me about a year to get the original documents back (and our money) via the law society.
Hasn’t been redone yet with a new lawyer. Neither of us are seeing anyone, so it hasn’t been a big priority.
I figure I’ve been separated so long, it’s pretty obvious there’s no reconciliation on the table, but I still understand if someone doesn’t want to get involved.