POF : Introverted guys, what stops you from messaging?
I’ve been online for a couple of days now, and the types of guys that message me arent at all what I’m looking for. Reading from their profile, it sounds like they’re quite extroverted, love to travel etc.
Don’t get me wrong, they’re probably great guys as well but based on my personality I don’t think we’d match at all. I asked a couple of friends why I might not be getting messages from guys who are introverted and they said maybe its because my pictures are too attractive and guys may think they have too much competition. Do guys think that way?
Also, before you ask, I have tried messaging guys before too..i just found that whenever I do, I don’t get the same level of interest coming from them compared to if a guy msgs. Most often the convos just fade out if i initiate contact first
By. Rly11
Personally, in terms of looks i would rate myself 7/10, which means that i will message any girl that i would consider 8/10 or lower, if i see a girl thats 9+ i dont message…at all. if i message someone its 10% reply rate thats 1 out of 10 people will message and usually they dont seem that interested or will ghost me after 2 days of quality conversation for no reason.
as a guy, online dating gets exhausting and kind of sad, i would sometimes have to send messages to people without and profile pictures to get a response and even then its usually 50% i only message about 2-3 people a day and sometimes i will not get a message at all.
so there you have it, why dont introverted guys message? cause we know better, we know it wont go anywhere but there will be a off day where we will say to ourselves « well its worth a shot i guess » and bam next thing we know it we finally have a date after 3 months of searching.
I have gone through so many accounts, so many, I end up being really careful who I message because once enough people block me, which is pretty much what women use when they aren’t interested will get you banned at x number, which is around 15-20.
Message 2 people a day and that number happens fast.
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the convo fades because you are using messages like « hey how are you? » and its scientifically impossible for that conversation to go anywhere. that or you are small talking the guys u try to talk to. I’m soooooo sick of the same damn questions. initiating the contact as a woman eases a lotttttt of pressure and tension that especially introverted and nice guys are under to prove first of all that they aren’t a douchebag, if you message the guy first he knows ur interested. it solves the whole dead-end job interview conversations. also, be a little flirtatious or even naughty with the things u say or talk about. the introverts are under too much pressure but will pound u out allll night and still make u breakfast in the AM. basically ur problems r ur fault though. ur not making a valid effort and POF is ALLLLL ABOUT HOW MUCH EFFORT AND TIME you want to put in in order to find the right guy. i dated one broad over a year from pof and another for 9 months. ask him if you can give him a blumpkin, or if you can use a fleshlight to jerk him off. then say ur joking. but the most important thing is YOU KNOWING WHAT A GOOD COMPATIBLE GUY LOOKS LIKE WHEN U SEE ONE AND THEN REELING HIM IN.
Because at this point, if you’re above a 5/10, I assume that youre a nigerian scammer.