POF : people with kids
i love kids and have nothing against them i just dont want to date anyone who has kids for personal reasons and no im not trying to be a prude or anything but it just seems like 95 percent of the people on there have kids. its hard older you get to find people who dont have kids. and some of them say like im not looking for you to be a part of there life or to take care of them financially but if you got serious with someone who has a kid wouldnt you have to be apart of there life and all that other stuff how can you avoid that lol?
By. xRoseColoredBoyx
It’s no different than any relationship at this age. People guard their kids. It’s the natural instinct. If you are in a relationship with someone don’t you want to share all the aspects of their life with them and what is the most important? You can put in your profile that you are only interested in women with no children and who don’t want children or accept that most women (and men) come with some accessories. You have to be accepting of their families if you hope for it to succeed in the long run and at this point in life their family usually involves children. Best of luck to you.
There used to be a huge joke going around pof forums back in the day that it was plenty of whales or plenty of moms and people would get banned for saying it.
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I once went out on a date with a woman who hid the fact that she had a kid, and when we went to her house she lived in this tiny apartment with her pyscho crazy grandmother and mother and her 1 year old son. When we were about to have sex she told me she had a very random and serious favor to ask of me » I don’t want you to use a condom, you look like you have really good European genes and my son could use a friend while he is still young to grow up together with. You don’t even have to pay child support or anything, just be there for me emotionally during my pregnancy » I actually still considered fucking her because I was horny as hell but fear started kicking in midway through and I left. We got into a huge argument and I called child services on her household. Don’t know if they ever visited or anything came of it.
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If that kid is forced to grow up in a house with those 3 abusive women the rest of his life, he is going to be the next Charles Manson.
I used to be someone who would not date a guy who had a kid or kids, but then I met a bunch of them that did and realized it was no longer an issue for me.
I had a date with a guy who I had just started talking to on the dating sites and we met the same day we started talking. Mid date he told me he had a kid and it was ok. He said he didn’t mention it on the dating sites because a lot of the women he encountered would just immediately shut him down knowing he had a kid. He never posted him on the site because he didn’t want to put him out there like that. I totally understood that.
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Another guy I met was all about his kid and had him on the site and I still went on a date with him. Although it didn’t work out I realized that guys who have kids are not bad people
I agree. I don’t want any kids either. Especially if I have to take care of someone ele’s. It’s definitely worth mentioning in the BIOS.
I feel the same way! I write on my profile I’m looking for someone who also doesn’t have kids like me.
You’re not only part of the kid’s life but you’ll be sucked into the Father’s life too vicariously. Frankly, online dating is the bottom of the barrel. It’s mostly losers and fakes so you must understand YOU are there too so YOU are also in the same category. Keep that in mind while perusing profiles. That’s the one thing everybody has in common…major flaws, baggage or hangups.
The biggest problem with someone with kids is… limited time for you.