POF : POF and responses. My profile sucks.
Yep I bet the answer to this is ‘My Profile Sucks’, but hear me out here. This isn’t no critique.
I’ve been on POF now and a few other dating sites for probably 3 or 4 years and the lack of responses is so utterly demoralising that I struggle to even bring myself to send messages anymore.
I’m someone who’s very happy to read through someone’s profile, in fact, I’ll read through nearly all I go to. What upsets me more than anything is spending 10 minutes reading through a profile, another 15 thinking over a few witty sentences to write… and then getting no responses whatsoever. Not to mention the fricking « Just ask » profiles. WHAT CAN I ASK IF YOU DON’T EVEN PUT ANYTHING….!? WHAT AM I MEANT TO DO GIRL!?
I’m a firm believer in never just putting ‘Hi’ or ‘Hey’, I always try to provoke conversation and am genuinely happy to sit down and chat, but to me, completely ignoring my message especially when I see that you have even VISITED MY PROFILE is just plain rude. If I send messages to 3 or 4 ladies, chance is that has taken me probably around an hour and a half, I’d always prefer people just say « No thanks » than plain blanking me.
I don’t even know, I’m one of those typical skinny nerdy PC gamers that’s also into tabletop gaming, maybe there’s just too many of us, who knows. I’ve had more luck on fricking Omegle than I ever have on POF.
Oh and Meet Me? Why is this so popular? What happened to talking to people to get to know them? I seem to get 5-10 emails a day that people want to ‘Meet Me’ but when you actually message said folks to take them up on the offer… as always, no response.
I don’t get it. Am I doing something wrong? Sigh.
By. CosmicThing2
25 minutes to send a first message when you have a low response rate? You’re going to need to be a lot more efficient than that! A minute looking through the profile, and another coming up with a single witty sentence.
So you have not yet realized that women reply based on the photos?
Get better photos, or better yet, show them to other girls and let them tell you which photos are good. Don’t put any bad photos because they will assume your looks matches with the worst one.
You have fallen into the same problem as the rest of us, 80% of women looking at 20% of men, rough numbers of course, it’s probably higher than 80%, my response isn’t calculator because I haven’t a clue of the ration, it’s like once in a good while I get a conversation going, they are few and far between.
Women would have us believe that the answer is long, well thought out and interesting messages, it’s isn’t, they were going to message you back or not regardless unless you are a penis profile or a sextalk 1st message.
In my experience, I get about twenty messages a week and that is with preferences set for a long message length and profile picture. I shudder to think how many I would get without it.
Try to have pictures of you doing stuff and outdoors. People look better outdoors. Sometimes other people help. Start building up general answers to simple questions like I am not impresssd with movies, watching sports, and TV as hobbies but have a fun hobby and I’m interested.
It’s the pictures. It all comes down to the pictures. Online dating is a meat market, and it is not in your favor as a man. I would go so far as to say stage your pictures. You don’t just want more pictures. You want good pictures. Get your friends involved, and pick a few nice days to go out and do some of the things you like, and get some good clear pictures.