POF : SUPERHUMAN PERSISTENCE.
How the flying fuck, wait, why the flying fuck, are men supposed to be superhuman in the face of being constantly ignored on this stupid website and try again, and again, and again, and try to keep messages interesting and unique to each woman, who will majority of the time ignore them.
And if we even complain, if we call out women for being ignorant and selfish, and not giving the average guy so much as a bit of conversation to see if personalities attract, we are suddenly entitled?
Here’s what I go through on this STUPID website, every time i login I see a sea of faces that I recognize right away, i know exactly what each one’s reaction to me messaging has been in the past, I know all of them, off by heart, rarely a new one pops up and most of the time that one won’t talk, I’ve met some but overall, the vast, vast majority of them won’t give me the time of day, i have tried everything from friendly greetings to well thought out messages and they do not give a fuck, and the only thing people say is « Stop being so entitled, it#s obviously your fault nobody will talk »
Well fuck off to those kind of twats, I honestly think that most of the women on here are selfish, stuck up, bitches.
« Maybe you just need to treat women like people »
Maybe they should treat men like people too, fucking anti-social bints
By. Obtuseone
When I joined POF as a 29f, in one day I get 84 messages, replying to all 84 of them is a hassle.
And since I have 84 messages, I can pretty much click and choose who I like to reply to. It also doesn’t mean I will open all messages, since I select the decent looking guys.
Oh plus, I look average. So good looking girls will get way more messages than me.
Yeah, I hear you. Women on PoF could, for their part, come up with a long list of complaints: dick pics, lies, pervs, etc. But two wrongs don’t make a right, I guess.
Me, I stopped using PoF not long ago.
I’ve filed it under « wise decisions I’ve made in my life ».
Try to look at it from her perspective. A decent looking woman in great shape is going to be hit on 50-100 times an hour. You try keeping up with that volume of writing. I can understand their pickiness.
I’m lucky. I’m a reasonably attractive 61 year old male in great condition so I can pick and choose who I respond to. Some days I get zero new messages, some days I get 30-40. It roams in cycles. I try to be polite and answer EVERY message, whether I’m attracted or not, just because it’s the right thing to do.
But I’ve found that most women on POF, attractive or not, are very kind and gracious and will always answer my message if I’m polite and don’t call them “anti-social bints”. Whatever a bint is.
Yes, they don’t have the time to respond because they are so overwhelmed. Please lol If I or we have the time to read his profile and look, I or we have the time to say HI or politely decline. Sorry ladies (yes I’m F and rather cute lol), you are just rude and unnecessarily because it makes you feel good about yourself. Manners matter. I feel sorry for the nice guys.
In my experience, (and maybe it’s just my area) the women I see are either trailer trash, morbidly obese with multiple children 3+, a bot, a premium Snapchat, or just a flat out hoe lmao. I don’t typically find a lot of women that I find attractive on there except maybe 1 in 1000. I’m convinced that not many women honestly use it or actively check it. The best results I’ve encountered was on Facebook with their dating app. It may also be your profile/pictures… Currently deleted mine to make way for newer ones later this week. But boy howdy does it make a difference when you have photos that look great vs ones that make you look like a serial killer lmao.
I hear ya man….I remember taking a year off from POF just to come back to see the SAME faces of the single spinsters that I had already emailed in the past. Prior to that I was an avid user through the site…and these ladies wind up being permanent fixtures of the online dating world…no man is ever good enough…so that’s why they are still there.
I live in a small town or series of back water towns, and it is surprising how picky they can be as I figured that’d their limited options would kind of force them to be less picky and more open to actually meeting for a bite. But NO ONE is ever good enough, note even for a quick meet n greet. And some are pushing 50…which is sad.
You can see them aging through the years as their profile evolves.
Sometimes I’d email them…again…only because there’s a FINITE amount of women in my area that don’t look like someone that’d qualify for the JERRY SPRINGER SHOW. LOL
u/obtuseone Dude, dating is rough. OLD is a special kind of rough.
I’m 6′ and 195lbs of lean mass, I dress well, have good hygiene, direction in life, goals, a job, my own car, I’m pretty funny and women hit on my at work.
In OLD, my experience isn’t all too much different from yours.
Maybe try looking up a dating coach?
Wish you the best.