POF : Why do many guys want my cell number?
I dont understand. Im very reluctant to post my cell online ANYWHERE, much less give it out to some POF stranger. What to do? I just tell the guy I prefer to txt via the POF app & dont share my private cell number online ANYWHERE.
Are they trying to scam me? Whats wrong with txting on POF? HELP Im new and very apprehensive. My bullshit antenna is pinging big time. Lol help out a scared shitless beginner. Thx friends.
By. valerie4838
I think why they do it is irrelevant. You’re allowed to have boundaries and aren’t required to explain why. How the other reacts will tell you more about them and whether they would actually respect you.
I always tell guys I don’t give my number out until after we’ve met in person once and I want to meet again. If they can’t work with that then we are done. No skin off either of our backs because you can’t really get invested in someone through digital means anyways. You need that real world experience to get a full feel for the person to get invested.
There’s no legit reason to go off of the app in my opinion because chatting on the app is exactly the same as texting. You get notifications just like texting. And some apps even offer video or voice calls now if that’s your thing. Plus it keeps *both sides* respectable because you can report each other if they become gross.
I know the advice below goes out the window now that Covid’s here, but this is what I normally do and it works great for me. I will add I am not on apps at the moment because I won’t meet up with strangers and don’t want a pen pal. I’ll just wait this out.
Just chat long enough to make sure there are no dealbreakers and set up a casual, quick, super public meet up (and don’t go straight home after). Assuming you feel safe to do so. People can tell you whatever they think you want to hear online so it’s best to get offline and truly evaluate them that way (through multiple meetings if you’re feeling it). Less time is wasted on chatting back and forth and the upkeep texts for some stranger you’ve never really met.
Depending on how comfortable you are, there’s the option first to video chat with them, so you can tell they are at least the face of their profile. I have a Google phone# I give in certain situations. I’m glad that I have used it before, because one marketer got a hold of it, and I was receiving a ton of calls on that number. I’m guessing depending on your carrier, you can block phone numbers on your cell, but I don’t know if it you could stop someone sending you spam from fake email addresses if they hide their number (if that’s a thing).
If I’m talking to guy online and he can’t wait until I’m comfortable giving out my number then I just pass on that gentleman
Get a google voice number and give that out instead, lots of scammers getting phone numbers for robocallers/spammers…
I’m the same way, i tell them i have kik and Skype if they want to chat.
Try the Wikr app it’s an chat app with tough encryption
if you want, if you have a gmail account you can get a google voice number. its considered a voip number (online) and isnt tied to you as a person. you can have them go there and if they are scamming or whatever they cant gather your info based on that voip number.
Can I have your cell number too?