POF : Women are far, far more superficial than men when it comes to online dating.
This is gonna sound like peak incel but what the hell.
I’m not the best looking guy. Pretty average. I don’t work out or have abs or whatever. But I’m hardly John Merrick either. I try to be a decent attentive guy and I am always interested in hearing other perspectives and conversation.
But MAN -the POF experience. I’ve never felt so worthless or unattractive in my entire life. Women either don’t reply, message a few times and then stop (to assuage their feelings over being superficial IDK?), or can be outright hostile. Quite often the ones that do this have ‘never judge a book by its cover’ as their profile headline.
Is this a case of unrealistic expectations? I think I’m intelligent, I have a good job, I have a lot to offer. I pay attention to profiles and try to find common ground. But hardly any worthwhile interactions at all. Equally are my expectations unfair – it is after all a woman’s prerogative to reply?
I just think that in the quest for a disney prince/millionaire/bodybuilder with a heart of gold there’s something being missed. Who knows how an attraction can develop?
I’ve had girlfriends in the past – some of them long-term. This is a recent phenomena I’ve noticed.
I think it’s the not even giving you a chance that’s the most galling. One look and they’re like ‘you’re not Ryan Gosling’ and it’s either the cold shoulder, utter indifference or hostility.
I give everyone who messages me a fair chance to see what could develop – if anything it could lead at least to a friendship which is great. I think perhaps if women would just give men a chance more then POF could be less dismal and soul-crushingly hollow than it is now.
Rant over. Happy to be proven wrong in comments.
By. canny_waistline
I met my partner on pof in march. He has said that getting responses was hard and a good conversation was harder. Personally as a woman, I found the sheer volume of messages overwhelming. I’d like to think I gave most people a shot but after a few days you get more selective which could be what you’re experiencing?
My experience has been very similar to yours, OP. I’ve been on there six months and the vast majority of messages I’ve sent have got no reply, if they’ve even been read. Like you, I’m average-looking and always make sure to read through profiles to find common ground before messaging. The sheer number of messages an average and above female gets on there must be staggering. I was reading a profile where the woman said she got 200 messages in the first 12 hours after joining. I log on day after day thinking to myself what a shitshow the whole thing is but something keeps me on there and I don’t know what.
Why do you assume it’s your looks that are the problem? It could be what you say in your profile and/or messages or how you say it.
OP, I think it’s less women being superficial and more just online dating. I met my partner on Tinder but was on all the free dating apps.
POF was by far the worse because anyone could message me and I got some nasty messages. The sheer volume was overwhelming and I ended up getting hacked and a message was sent out to my contacts as if I was a prostitute. I suspect it was a guy I was communicating with on there but who knows. I deleted POF and never looked back.
I’ve heard worse stories from my female friends but my male friends share your same sentiment. Dating sucks, online dating is the worse, and the pandemic makes it difficult to meet anyone with shared interests.
Try other apps? Don’t get discouraged maybe your next partner isn’t on POF right now. She’s knee deep in rewatching Star Trek the Next Generation on Netflix.
Don’t call the species on POF who don’t have penises women. They’re disgusting, fat, STD ridden, five bastard kid having, uneducated, trailer trash, crack smoking, welfare check receiving rat faced cunts.
Well the above Person sure is a woman obviously they get a sheer number of messages like she stated. I am with the OP that women on there are definitely the way he describes no responses one word replies and total blocking and viewing of profiles as what they do. I have been on plenty of fish since I’d say 2005 and it was really good how long ago October 2013 2014 it was pretty good knowledge sure trash women only want attention in only seek the like guy above posted muscle guy in the unattainable celebrity looking millionaire type a guy that is not out there is definitely on a dating app like scummy of fish. I deleted the app and I feel a hell of a lot better after deleting it I will never bother with it again. It’s too bad because like I said it used to be a really good app but now they put everything behind a pay wall like everything else in order to see if the woman actually read your message and deleted it or didn’t read it you have to pay pay for those pay for that POF is owned by the same company owns a majority of other dating apps. So I worn any man that tries to go on there trying to find a relationship if you’re not a woman that has a vagina between her legs forget it you definitely will not get anywhere except feeling less confident with your confidence and self-esteem destroyed by the sheer amount of women and their attention seeking is so appalling and sickening.