Tinder : I have a no ghosting rule and I really appreciate when guys respond in a chill way, makes it a lot easier.
I have a no ghosting rule and I really appreciate when guys respond in a chill way, makes it a lot easier.
By. claire303
in Tinder
Tinder : I have a no ghosting rule and I really appreciate when guys respond in a chill way, makes it a lot easier.
I recently had a first date where the girl and I sort of “mutually ghosted” where we half-heartedly said we’d like to see each other again but never followed up.
She ended up sending a message similar to yours and offered to hangout as friends if i was up for it, and invited me to go for a hike with her and a group of friends. It ended up being a really fun day! I think I’ll try that type of thing in the future
Maybe: nick
For anyone who thinks the “don’t let it get you down” sounds preachy (it kind of does), he had talked about how he was pretty much over the app dating and how shitty it all was at some point during our date so that’s why I mentioned it.
THANK YOU! I retry Tinder and OKC every few months, and then delete after five ghostings (and I’m talking prior to meeting in person. We’re having a good conversation, set a date to meet, and suddenly they go silent). What’s so hard about, » Thinking about it, and just not jiving with you »?
/Rant
Good caspering!
Back when I was dating getting a message like this would have meant a ton to me, it’s definitely hard to message you are not interested rather than just ghost, but it is easily the most considerate thing to do. Glad he took it well and wasn’t a dick about it either!
Poor homie never even got saved in the contacts
Do you have a Yes/No/Maybe system in your phone for guys you talk to from apps? Please give us a rundown.
Some people aren’t mature enough to say they aren’t interested or to just say ”no” if more people were like this it would be easier to date people
Now this is how it should be
You are a queen amongst women and a truly kind person. If everyone was as considerate as this, the world would be a much much much better place.
I don’t know why but I just want to thank you. I know it’s weird but just take it.
I know not every guy responds well to this sowlrt of thing, but I really appreciate it when people can just communicate like this. There’s no reason to ghost someone, unless they’re rude.
That’s pretty cool. Thankfully he also took it like a champ.
He did kinda passive agressively try to make you say « oh in that case let’s try it one more time so you can bring your A game » though..
I wish more people did this. Ghosting is a bitch. But if I had to nitpick, what made you think that you were the one who had to let him know that there wasn’t a connection between you two. Did he continue to show interest in you post-date?
I love this, creds to you OP and the Datee*
Maybe I talk to immature people. But they have always gotten upset when I say something. I don’t know what to do anymore
That gets a decent to strong « aww » from me.
Maybe Nick kek
Annoys me, IMHO, you should always have two dates unless the first is a car crash.