Tinder : Is it desperate for a girl to text first ?
So had this chat with my friend today, she said it is desperate for a women to message first and it took me by surprise. I have messaged guys sometimes if I feel like I have to make the first move and have always got a reply straight away so never seemed like a problem for me. But she kinda made me feel embarrassed about doing it. What are your thoughts on a girl making the first move ?
By. ashmcbash16
I wish more girls did it frankly, nothing wrong with it
Nope. Live your best life. Some guys appreciate the initiative and are tired of having to be the only one initiating everything. Do you.
I messaged my bf on Tinder first. He said he was more inclined to talk to me as I showed interest in his bio and getting to know him rather than matching and radio-silence till he finds something fun to say. It is a fine line because if you spam / double text often as the conversation is warming up the girl might look a little too keen.
We have been together 10 months now and so in love, the first guy I’d consider (and open to discussing) a future with! 🙂
It’s a good thing to message first. It will send some signals though. It will signal that you actually are interested. Men will be generally more forward with you if you message first. Those are both good things though, but I’ve heard people talk about them like they are bad, so.
That is definitely some antiquated thinking.
Your friend is a fool. But if you message first, don’t just say Hey as you may as well have said nothing.
She’s probably envious of your confidence. I’m always pretty impressed when a girl messages me first
It’s like a godsend when a girl messages first. Super rare but much appreciated. Unless it’s some boring ass message that’s like “what’s your favorite food”. Would much rather take a “hey what’s up” over that.
Nope, confident
The girl ALWAYS waiting for the guy to message first can come off as snobby
hell no, they usually appreciate the confidence boost, although beta males may feel intimidated and they aren’t worth ur time anyway
No it’s perfectly fine. If anything it’s better since tinder favors women, it’s easy for a guy to assume that they’re not interested and so a message first would make them more engaged