Tinder : Once she loses interest, it makes no sense to keep going.
I just want to know if you guys agree or disagree.
When she gets bored and starts giving those single word replies, I usually unmatch.
Sure, there might be a chance to get her interested again if I manage to quickly change my approach in the conversation.
But here is the thing: Once she loses interest, you are no longer equals. You’re not two people trying to know each other better. You’re one guy concerned about proving that you’re worthy of her attention.
And well, you gotta respect and value yourself.
By. Maleoppressor
Yes same…but also maybe you’re boring *her!* Dun dun dunnnn.
I don’t engage with Tinder dudes who ask how I’m doing all day long and who make no effort to get to know me. I might hit them with a few polite one-liners just to suss it out.
But mostly I just un-match when I’m bored.
No one is *that* cute to sit through dry ass convos, so yeah. Keep on swiping!
I’d agree with that for the most part. I’d suggest trying a Hail Mary, not like a get laid one, like a serious attempt at being intriguing. I’ve asked a girl to help me solve a real strange problem at work before.
Face it, people use Tinder for a variety of reasons. A good portion are just passively getting their egos stroked. If you are being breadcrumbed, move along. Next!
Female here. I have been on and off of tinder for years but I am a binge user (I probably need treatment). So for me I’m not intentionally breadcrumbing anyone and I don’t want texting buddies. I go on lots of tinder dates, have had plenty of tinder hookup, even some long term relationships and made some good friends. Since I am a tinger (binge on tinder) I sometimes go months without even opening the app then when I do the fucking floodgates open lol. I have had over 60 matches in the past two weeks and I only swipe on people I am actually interested in meeting. If a man asks me for my number I usually give it to him but even then sometimes I’ll have 8 guys texting and it’s hard to keep up and stay “fun”. Once the flood stops I’ll often go back through old matches and reach out to men that I either didn’t reply to or never messaged me in the first place.
I don’t expect anyone to put their life on hold for me and sit around twiddling their thumbs waiting for my reply but if you’re not the type of guy who can come up with a great date I can’t say no to immediately or keep me super interested with your wit and rock hard abs then sometimes patience can work in your favor. I have also had men do the same thing to me and I honestly never ask them why they’re back after three months maybe they met someone and now it’s over maybe they forgot about tinder or were busy with work.
One of my best fwbs ever actually messaged me 3 months after we had matched and we went on to have great sex and a lot of fun for months. I also never unmatch someone unless I decide I really don’t like them. Sometimes I’ll actually go back to start a conversation with someone three days later and they’ve unmatched me I totally get it and waiting for a reply sucks but for me I just have to put it out of my head and hope for the best if I do send a message and they don’t reply immediately.
I wrote a paper on the topic of caring for others more than yourself for a psychology class once. I can confirm that this is a good a mind set. If you’re the only one trying in a relationship, you end of neglecting yourself in the process. Things should be a ‘two way street’ not a ‘one way street.’ It should be equal amounts of trying from both partners.
Hope this is helpful.