Tinder : Story Time – Week of July 15, 2019
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ok so my crush/guy i was seeing casually/guy i finally met up again after moving to his city (who is temporarily in another state!! rip) who doesn’t use social media following some cute girl on instagram is making me nutty but … i also had 3 dates this week … like stfu brain?
ethical non-monogamy is all fun n games until you accidentally catch feels huh!
Met the cutest guy off Tinder. I could kiss him for hours damn I never thought just making out could be so fun before him. Makes me kind of wish we were looking for something serious because I really like this guy, he’s easy to talk to, we listen to the same music. But he’s still a good fwb. I know a relationship would be a bad idea for both of us. Sadly. Gotta guard my feelings so I don’t fall for him. I hope we’ll end up actually being friends
I thought the front door to my apartment was soundproof. When my date knocked on the door I let out a huge wet fart right next to the door and texted her « I’ll be there in a sec ». Few moments later I opened the door and didn’t see anyone.
I have tinder gold, so every day I try to use my 5 superlikes. Granted, I save these for extra-attractive or very interesting profiles, but I haven’t had that much success with it proportionally. Now I know, it could mean that I’m not as attractive and I’m shooting out of my league. But is it possible that superlikes are just not received as well as I imagine? What do the ladies here think? Are superlikes off-putting?
trip boy came over and my 2 besties from back home facetimed me when i was with him and i picked up (hes met them) and i helped one of the besties pick out an outfit for a date. i hope he wasnt too annoyed but i hope he understands that i live 8+ hours away from them so our conversations are few and far between lol. he hasn’t opened my snaps all day which is sooo not normal and has never happened before so its slightly stressing me out. my birthday is coming up and hes coming out to dinner with my friends but he said he doesn’t wanna come to the pre game bc he won’t know anyone and its all girls speaking a language he can’t understand (so i’m not that mad tbh). aaahhfasdlfjas;ldfkj this is my monthly *i need to talk to him about how i feel so he knows* rant
after a few months of no new dates it looks like im going on a date next week in the city i work in. so lets see how this goes
I stopped getting matches on Bumble a while back, i used to get a lot and I got a lot of tinder matches but no more bumble. I think its cause I ignored too many woman when I was in my post breakup stage and basically wanted any female interaction. I dont have it linked to my FB, will I be fucked if I delete it and reinstal again later on since my phone # is saved or will i generally get matches again?
i haven’t had much success on hinge. after few limited swipes, i start getting profiles that I’m really not into. at least tinder keeps it fair and shows all kinds of girls (mainly attractive)
I hooked up with two new girls on Tuesday and Wednesday. I had plans to meet with a 3rd new one today at a hotel room, but I had to cancel. I fucked for about 2 hours on Tuesday and about 4 yesterday and today I’m just physically drained.
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I had 3 dates with a girl over the span of a month (we both had busy schedules so it was hard to setup), the two last being 6+ hours where I feel we really connected. We kissed on the third date which was also my first ever kiss (I am shy and new to dating). We agreed to see each other again after I come back from a one week travel. I thought all was going very well, including when texting after the date and the day after that.
After a few days she began taking a day to answer texts. Before coming back, I tried to set up a date on Sunday, she said she wasn’t available but we should see each other during the week. I then suggested Tuesday (with two days notice), to which she never answered. Tuesday evening I sent her a text saying that I hope she was okay and some probable future days where I’m free, leaving the ball in her court. No response after two days, five days since her last message. It is becoming clear I am being ghosted.
I feel truly awful.
At work we’ve been going through excel training because we need to start using it and we all suck at it. I matched with an accountant on Tinder who said he loves spreadsheets, told him I needed assistance with VLookup, and he told me he would V look me up. I replied that if he helps me maybe we can concatinate.
I am so glad my excel training is helping me in my love life.
So many awkward ass stories about bad dates and ghosting. Can someone post a fun story please
Got a couple matches this week, one was SO cute 10/10 and had lots in common. I messaged her and had a short but good convo. Then it fell off as she was really boring and short so I just stopped messaging her.
Then I downloaded hinge at 3am and woke up to a match. We talked for a while and eventually started texting/snapping and have been doing so non stop. We have tentative plans for Sunday. I’m feeling good about this one! Definitely the most natural conversations I’ve ever had with someone I’ve met online.
Drove 2 hours to hang with a girl i matched with. I thought things were going alright. We hooked up and all that, but as I’m getting clothes and stuff back on I feel a few things on my leg. Look down and there are 4 fleas moving around in my leg hair. (She did have a cat but it was across the room) I’ve dealt with fleas before so it didn’t really freak me out, but she just didn’t act bothered by it at all.
Fast forward not 12 hours and I’m having to swat these things off me in my car on my way to work. I go to tease her about it but before I get the chance she blocks me on everything….
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I’m a Hispanic Male and matched with a Hispanic female and we went out for drinks. It was going pretty well for 45 minutes and then I messed it up somehow when it came time to ask where our families were from.
I mentioned how my mom came from Mexico City « Legally » and she got super offended.
She said « what is that supposed to mean? » and I had to respond how my mom came to the US going through the whole legal procedure.
Then she pulled me into a whole political debate which I don’t like discussing because political talks can get messy.
After 30 minutes of trying to get out of the conversation and her keeping me in the conversation, it got awkwardly silent and I mentioned how I had to wake up early for work the next day… It was 9 pm on a Friday and i don’t work weekends.
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Moral: Don’t mention anything that can be seen as politically related on first dates.
I find it may be better off to try to hook up the first date. I’ve had girls I hooked up with on the first date say how they are interested in a relationship with me after hooking up only to bail or be flaky afterwards.
Then there are dates you take it slow and things seem good and they still bail on dates afterwards. I do want a girlfriend but if I hook up, its better than nothing.
currently dealing with a girl who was so responsive and mushy after hooking up but now is replying much MUCH slower than before.
I’m annoyed because I went on a date with a guy last week and I thought it went REALLY well.
He didn’t text me after and I texted him this weekend and he was all charming again saying how much fun he had on the date. He asked me out for this week (today) saying “I won’t take no for an answer :)”
Well he stopped responding to our texts and never followed up about today.
Like, if you’re gonna ghost me, why be nice and schedule a date? I don’t wanna push it because he doesn’t really matter also I don’t want to seem clingy but damn. Back to messaging the worlds most boring guys until I die.
Met the perfect dude now he’s otw back to the other side of the country. I knew it beforehand but I’m used to not liking people. lol my life.
I saw this cute girl with the bio “roast me” so naturally I super liked. she liked me back, and I asked “how mean can I be?” and she said “don’t hold back”.
I went pretty hard and gave her 2 roasts, and she surprisingly said LMAO and thanked me for not being a pussy haha.
after some great roasts back and forth, and some funny conversation.. she told me to add her on snap.
we’ve been talking a bit more, and she seems really cool so I’m gonna ask her out this week.
After a week of radio silence, I can officially say I’ve been ghosted yet another time. Usually it doesn’t even bother me that much but I really liked this guy. I thought he liked me too, mainly because he said « i really like you ». Plus he gave me a whole speech about honesty and that he felt the need to tell me he’s also seeing other people, which I totally respected. Aaand then he stopped answering my texts. Last time I heard of him, he told me he’d broken his phone. A week ago. While posting instagram stories. So much for honesty lol
In the past month I have been on dates with a lesbian?, a 10/10, and a normal girl.
I was the lesbian’s? first guy she dated, so bi but preference for girls. The 10/10 was really cool at first but holy moly was she just so…boring. Apparently she really did like me but was I’m not dealing with lacking communication skills and personality. The third girl was a “type” I never really dated but she just had no confidence/self esteem and blew up on me after I said we should stop seeing each other. I genuinely thought she was a good person but she got really aggressive and her friends are now harassing me since then.
All in all, had sex and real good stories/experiences to learn from. I am most likely gonna delete the app though and hit more bars with some friends, easier and much more reliable.
Had a super creepy experience yesterday legit horror movie material
There was someone I matched with on tinder
Sent her a « Hello! Nice to meet you! »
>This woman is older than me, profile fully filled
>After a while I get a reply « lol <my real name> get the fck away from me »
> Scariest shit is my real name is nowhere on tinder, I use a nickname there
So I came to LA about a week ago and decided to download tinder (M20). I got a few matches with women, like 3 a day, and I was getting tired of it (nonresponsive and stuff), but at the same time, curious about what other guys profiles and bios looked like (who are getting all the right swipes?), so I decided to activate men as well as women so I could check out their profiles too. Within 3 hours I had over 100 likes all presumably from guys. I’m mad, seriously, like wtf? Is this LA?
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F19 here.
Been talking to M22 for a few days now, quite boring conversation until today where it started to pick up the pace but no flirting. Tonight he suggested I come over so I snuck out of my family home and walked to his place 10 min away.
This was my 3rd one night stand ever.
He tried to persuade me to let him take off the condom, TWICE, and I said fuck no. He was also really rough, like yanking my hair if I said something he didn’t like and I had to correct myself. For example, I said I wasn’t gonna swallow his cum, he pulled my head up by holding my hair so that our faces were level, and I agreed to swallow his cum so he could let go of my hair. Also his parents were asleep next doors so instead of spanking me he punched my ass really hard. He also kept biting my tummy even when I told him to stop. And he kept my head down on his cock even when I was gagging and trying to push my head back up. Also he was choking me during prone bone and I was banging the floor with my hands (we were on the floor for this position) to signal for him to stop because I couldn’t talk. I hated it. He kept fingering me when I told him to stop too because he was doing it so hard that it got painful and unsexy real quick.
I agreed to see him again on Thursday just to please him because I was scared he was gonna pull my hair again or something, but I’m definitely cutting ties. Do I need to give him an explanation before I unmatch him?
I feel so stupid for even going to his and for not leaving at the first red flag, and I feel used and hurt for the way he had such rough sex with me. Am I overreacting?
**Edit**: this is what i’m going to message him “Too rough. You didn’t stop at times I told you to and you’re an idiot for trying to fuck raw and cum inside me. You sexually assaulted me and made me fear for my safety. Learn to respect people’s boundaries. It suffices to say I’m not seeing you again.”
(Thank you u/TheTruthIsGood i used bits of your sample message)
**Edit 2**: I sent the message and he replied straight away saying
« What?
Sorry I didn’t realise
What?
I don’t understand
We even cuddled after?
I’m so sorry for making you feel that way »
Should I bother replying to him?
Also I’ve decided not to tell the police.