Tinder : Story Time – Week of June 17, 2019
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Started dating few people on Tinder around 4/5 months back but soon realised I’m not ready for anything serious and ended all but one. This guy was super easy to talk to and we had a lot in common but he lived in a different city. None of us could come through with plans of visiting each other up till now.
I wasn’t active on social media and haven’t added each other yet even though he kept on insisting. A friend of mine recently saw his anniversary picture with a girl on one of the platforms. I’ve had the discussion about dating/relationship status from the beginning and he explicitly stated that he’s not seeing anyone. There were few red flags that I might have missed: he stopped texting during travels or deleted texts during the same.
I’m reconsidering planning a date (he’s visiting friends in my city) as I feel really uncomfortable coming in between a relationship. What should I do?
What are people doing on their profiles to get matches / dates / hookups?
I have good quality photos of me smiling, « action shots », natural photos. A bio detailing my passions / interests. I’m not the Elephant Man.
Nothing. This is across five apps and relatively new accounts.
Very frustrating and wondering what I do wrong.
Hey guys!
Been talking to this guy from tinder everyday for weeks now. Just last night he posted a girl on his Snapchat ( one of those add me on snapchat post that people do all the time). It could really just be a friend of his, but after I saw that he posted her, I didn’t bother responding to him anymore because I don’t know how to feel about it. I hadn’t flat out asked him if was in a relationship or dealing with anyone, I just assumed that he wasn’t because of how our conversations have been going. I see now that if I had asked earlier I wouldn’t be so bothered by the post. I know that he doesn’t owe me an explanation, but would it be okay if I asked who she was?
Not sure if this belongs here or in profile review- but I haven’t had a match in like 4 weeks and I use tinder a decent amount pretty much every day. I think I completely destroyed my tinder ELO by not messaging many of the girls I have a match with and I’m thinking the best way to fix my pooched ELO is to just delete tinder and make a new one, but I hear that’s how you get banned or it doesn’t reset your rating or anything. Any ideas on what I can do here?
in the same city as a guy i hung out w/ and also had a crush on for a bit last year before he moved, i want to text him to see if he wants to meet up but noticed that he had unmatched me on bumble, i’m thinking relatively recently
is this a sign he probably isn’t interested??
23M, decided to enlist for the war, but with a spicy twist. So I created my account as a 35 yo with abs. (I work out alot) and I’ve been getting alot of matches from milfs saying I look good for my age. If I find a sexy ass 40 yo I’m definitely going pull this trigger. 😉
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Bang. Bang.
Went hiking with this girl. And made plans to meet again at the end of the date, then got ghosted. Guess it didnt go as well as I thought it did
What do you guys do to keep interest when you won’t be able to go out with someone for a few weeks? I don’t want to over do it with the texting but don’t want them to think I lost interest. Thanks!
So i just had a wonderful date 2 days ago, we had a great experience went drinking some beers at a bar played darts and finally kissed a lot. I felt quite a connection yet since yesterday she did not respond.
I really do not know why, on the other hand I dont want to annoy her by sending a lot of texts so is this the part where i am getting ghosted or is there still hope?
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I’M BEING COCKBLOCKED BY TINDER!
So I frequently go through cycles where I install tinder, remember how depressing it is, then uninstall. But over the last 6 months I’ve kinda improved my life and gotten some good pics that I think I’d have a pretty good profile and I’m lonely so I give it another shot.
And this time I appear to be a lot more successful. At the moment it’s saying 36 people have liked me which is a lot more than I’m used to, normally I’d have been lucky to go over ten. The problem is that number isn’t going down as I swipe, it just goes up and I haven’t gotten too many matches. Over the last ±4 days of having the app I’ve gotten 6 matches. And now I’m swiping to the point where it says there’s no one new in my area (An issue I’m used to despite living in one of the most populated cities in my country). And today I swiped to the max distance setting till I got that page.
So now I’m swiping on girls a couple years older than me just to pass time but the number of people that liked me still isn’t going down. So unless there’s a load of cougars that wanna make me there boy toy Tinder isn’t showing me the people that have swiped right on me, probably in an effort to get me to buy tinder gold.
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I haven’t been able to find anyway of reporting this issue so if anyone could offer advice that’d be great.
Went out with a guy for a third date, he had paid for the last two times (drink date and then arcade date) so I wanted to pay for our dinner this time. It was one of those places that you order food first and then they bring it to you, so I made sure to hand the cashier my card before he could. But then he also gave the cashier his card, and the cashier handed mine back and used his… Even though I made it super clear I wanted to pay. It was nice of him, I just feel guilty always being paid for lol. Trying to get him to go to a show that I just « happen » to have two tickets for though, so hopefully he can come!
Went on a first date with another guy, we got along *super* well together and I feel like we’re very compatible. The only thing is, he has a potential dealbreaker I’m still not sure how I feel about. I avoid people with kids in their bios, but found out he has a kid every other week. He said he doesn’t go on dates at all when he’s watching him so he doesn’t expect me to help with him or even meet him, and neither of us are sure we want a serious relationship so I wouldn’t have to worry about the far future with him and the kid growing older. Something about it doesn’t quite sit right with me for some reason, but I still want to see him again sooooo who knows.
K fuck it here’s the whole write-up since some people said they wanted to hear.
– **Monday** – (*Stood Up*): There’s a date in my calendar with « Anna » for Monday, but I honestly can’t remember if I went or not. Obviously wasn’t very eventful if it occurred. Checked my apps, can’t find an Anna. Checked my numbers, can’t find an Anna. This is gonna bug me.
(Nvm I know who it is. She ghosted me).
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– **Tuesday** – (*Valley Girl*): Planned a date with this girl a while back, was not great a texting. Obscenely cute photos, but I was quite turned off because she seemed so, well, dumb over text. I texted her day of to make sure we were on and she responded with « Well I won’t know until I finish dinner and drinks with my friends ». Kinda rude since we had plans, so I just ignore that text. Ended up getting drunk with some friends, saw a corgi, shot the photo to the girls I had been texting (Turns out, [if woman are ignoring you the best way to get a response is with a dog](https://imgur.com/a/LTvCOL7)). She responds, we chat. I invite her out to where I’m at, and she agrees. I run to the corner store, grab some solo cups and wine, and come back. She shows up and she’s drop dead gorgeous. 11/10. We chat, drink in the park, and at some point I tell her she’s cute and ask to kiss her. She says « You can try », so I give her a quick but deep kiss, and then I pull back to see her eyes welling up. Turns out she’s just out of a 2 year long relationship. So we spend the rest of the night drinking, chatting, etc. I invite her back to my place but she declines, stating she has to be up early tomorrow. She’s only here for a couple months, so I really hope I see her again.
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– **Wednesday** – (*Stood Up*): Made a date to drink beer and then VR. Got stood up. Jokes on her I played VR alone.
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– **Thursday** – (*Freaky Girl*): Went to a museum with this girl. Meet her, she’s cute. Go around through the exhibits. We end up in a tight space and I use the opportunity to make a move. Seems well received. The museum closed up about an hour after getting there, so I mentioned that we can go finish a bottle of rosé at my place. She counters by saying there’s are some bars just over the top of that hill, and we take off. We get half way up the hill, we’re both panting and I tell her that we can go up this hill, try and find this bar, and then go to my place, or we can skip all that and I can just call an Uber now. We opt for the latter, and BOY did this evening pickup. Turns out this girl is an [absolute FREAK](https://www.reddit.com/r/Tinder/comments/bz3bdd/story_time_week_of_june_10_2019/erakle8/?context=3). Told me after hooking up that she was kinda disappointed she didn’t get to blow me in the bathroom of the bar we were going to. I told her there’s always next time.
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– **Friday** – (*Fashionista*): This girl is a flake too. I text her around noon asking if we were still on, nothing and it’s now 5PM. I’m about to leave work when she asks if we can delay until 8:30, cause she has to take a call for work. I say fuck it, go to my friends happy hour and get drunk. While I’m there, end up chatting with this cute french girl who is only in town for the weekend. JUST as I’m about to bail on the original girl, she texts me again and says she’s on her way to the bar. Fuck. I grab this girls number, and we make plans to hangout on Sunday. Uber over to the bar, end up having drinks with this girl who is super short, asian, gorgeous. We hit it off, I invite her back to my place, and then we get there and I try and take her coat off. Nope. Okay, weird. I let her play with my lizard ([Not a euphemism](https://imgur.com/a/axvZHTc)) and then we put him back cause he’s getting cold. Chatting, making out, getting handsy. Asked her if she felt a little more comfortable taking her coat off, which she replied sure. I help her take it off, and then we make out for a while. I try and go for the bra and she stops me. Mentions she wants to take it slow, and is looking for a relationship. After leaving, I get a text almost immediately saying she had a great time and that she wants to see me again. I told her that I wasn’t at this point ready for a serious relationship, and that I think we wouldn’t be a good fit ATM. She seemed sad but understanding. Ugh, what a shame.
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– **Saturday** – (*Teacher Girl*): I received an order of [BlueChew](https://bluechew.com/) (generic Viagra) and have been meaning to test it out. Spoiler: This shit is INSANE. Me and Freaky Girl have been sexting almost the entire day. She’s going to a show later tonight, but after that she wants to come over. Only problem is, I have another date tonight. I tell her to aim for 1AM and hopefully it’ll work out. I head to the comedy bar where I’m meeting my date this evening, and I meet up with her. At first, the conversation is rocky but after about ten minutes it gets some steam. We watch the show, talk about it after, and share some wine. Surprisingly, this girl is REALLY cool. Very interesting, quick witted, and just a general joy to talk to. We talk about space, life, dating, even Tinder. Go through each others profiles. She seems very approachable and open, this girl really rocks. When things are good and heavy, I invite her over, and she refuses. But then, almost immediately after, she asks me what my preferred method of contraception is. I tell her condoms are fine at first but I’m not partial to them if we’re going to be in FWB scenario. She leans in, stares right into my eyes, and whispers « Well it’s a good thing I’m on birth control ». Between that and the generic Viagra, I almost tore a hole in my jeans. We leave, I ask her if she’s sure she doesn’t want to come over, and again she says no. I walk her to her train station and kiss her good night. Take out my phone to text her that I had a really good time and… read a text that Freaky Girl is at a club near my place. I walk over, meet her there, head back to my place. In the heat of the moment she’s whispering obscenities in my ear and…. we hookup without a condom. She’s got an IUD but FUCK, guess I’m getting tested. Kicker: I woke up the next morning, and I guess I didn’t smell it last night cause I was drunk but this girl REEKED of BO. Had to clean my entire room, aerate everything, and wash my sheets. Don’t think I’m gonna see her again.
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– **Sunday** – (*French Girl*): Woke up to a text from Teacher Girl. She had a really good time and wants to meet again for wine and trivia on Wedneday. I’m glowing, went for brunch, ended up texting the French Girl from Friday. She says she’s just back from Napa and down for a drink since she leaves tomorrow. I think this is a slam dunk, so I suggest a beer place near mine. She says we should grab wine near her hostel. I mentioned that it would be more convenient if we decided to move « Chez moi ». Told me immediately that wasn’t on the table, so I told her we were looking for different things. I felt bad until she messaged back saying that she appreciated the honesty and that we shouldn’t waste either of our times. FeelsBad goes from an 8/10 to a 6/10. Finish the evening by watching 21 Jumpstreet with some friends.
This represents 10 dates in two weeks. Which is WAY too many. I’ve always believed that Tinder was a numbers game. I
I’m excited to see how tomorrow goes with Teacher Girl, since I really enjoyed hanging out with her and she seems to be down for something between a relationship and a hookup. I’ve invited Valley Girl to comedy on Thursday, but I’m betting she doesn’t show.
Wish me luck!
Just got banned off Tinder for making an account for Napoleon the Third. I feel like I accomplished something.
I really wish I could find someone on Tinder to do some wholesome cuddling with. And maybe it could lead to more, but to just be in a safe environment where we could cuddle and not feel any pressure around it would be great right now. Sigh. Ok, rant over.
Man I’m so bad at being sexy through text. Girl asked what porn i watched on tinder and im like nothing weird. Still got her number now i said something about approving of her being in bed at this early of an hour and saying id prefer to.be invited she said yes please (she knows im out of state atm) Asked if she likes beards or if should shave before i go down on her and she left me on read.
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Girls cancelled our first date the night before, citing work concerns. I left the ball in her court for when we can reschedule. Should I be reading in between the lines here?
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This girl invited me over to her house and had the smallest bikini when I got there. We talked for quite a while and after we got naked, then I attempt to go down there and damn, her pussy smelled SO BAD. Like rotting dog food. We didn’t finish. and I’m a huge asshole so I told her in the nicest way possible that it smelled bad down there. I swear to god I wanted to be nice and if I have a smelly penis, please tell me. That was a bad idea and she kicked me out, lmao. It sucks because she was new to the city and wanted me to show her around the city and show the best places to eat (no pun intended) and it would have been fun to do that with her even if we didn’t hook up. I need friends lol. I definitely shouldn’t have told her but ehh I’ll never see her again and we have no friends in common so whatever
So this is un-saveable i think….
Edit: also she seemed mad that I had a big box of condoms and like I’m using her for sex. Bruh I buy in bulk to save money. And you’re sending me a bunch of sexual texts and have a tiny bikini so maybe you’re sending the message you want to fuck.
Went on a date over the weekend where we had lots of chemistry. Our convo flowed easily on the app and she was the one who suggested we grab a drink so I agreed.
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She was really good at coming up with topics to talk about and I had fun.
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BUT she really wasn’t my type physically. She’s had a nice body but her face just wasn’t what I look for. She’s not ugly at all but I just didn’t find her cute. For some reason I just couldn’t make a move. I feel like I liked her too much to try to hook up with her.
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So we exchanged numbers but now I’m friendzoning her and I feel bad.
I’ve (25m) been seeing this girl (25f) for the past month. I think it’s going well.
I want a relationship.
We’ve had about six dates (movies, dinners, sex, etc.). We talk often enough, but there are days where we don’t talk. I’m ok with this. But it’s different from all my past relationships where we texted all day. I think I like this way more.
I couldn’t resist so I talked to her about how I felt towards her. She asked if I was seeing anyone else which I’m not. I asked the question back. I was surprised to hear she isn’t seeing anyone else either. And she also said she deleted her apps. But she is looking for something casual because her future is unsure right now. However she also said she would think about it (being more serious). Which is nice because I never pressured her or told her to. It was a real casual conversation, but also serious. I wish I asked why she deleted her apps.
I don’t know what to think or how to feel. I think I’m happy because this means we can continue dating as we were, which has been AMAZING! She makes me feel so happy and comfortable. But I still want more from her. I’d like to be more exclusive and serious. Hopefully we get there!
I’m seeing her again later this week.
Thoughts?
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Okay guys… some backstory: so I actually just got out of a 6 month relationship about a week ago. We met on tinder. It was fun, respectful and just overall a nice relationship. But I always knew something was off. I ignored this little thought in the back of my head because my family loved him. Because his family loved me. I saw the potential so I told myself I was just being really paranoid and that he’s a great guy for me. Flash forward I was on vacation and during that time It really made me realize how much I actually didn’t miss him. And that something was truly wrong. I guess he got that feeling too or something? He ended up breaking up with me the day I came back from vacation. But he was heartbroken. I wasn’t. I was fine. We’ve stayed in contact. He has posted on his Instagram some things about relationships, being broken, being sad and having his heart broke. I feel nothing. I’m not sad. If anything I’m a little relieved. But I do feel guilty for moving on so fast.
A day later I end up going on tinder and I match with some people. But I end up matching with this guy. We chat and I love our conversation. It’s different and I find myself laughing. We meet up the next day, we chat, eat some popcorn. He’s silly and we end up throwing popcorn at each other. Then he pulls a move on me. The most we did was make out. Now I’m not the type of girl to just sleep around anymore. So I did not let it go any further. He wanted to but I asked him if that was the only reason he invited me over. He said no. He’s just going with the flow and that he liked our conversation and that we connected over text. He’s told me that he sucks at texting and hates it and prefers in person conversations. We had some cool conversations during that 3 hour period that we hung out. He’s a very busy person as am I. We’re both young and running our own businesses. I like his ambition and strive to become successful. He intrigues me because I barely talk to him. We barely text even though I want to talk more. He’s almost like a mystery. I feel oddly “obsessed” with this stranger. I really want to get to know him more and I haven’t really felt this way about wanting to get to know someone so much. Because of our schedules we won’t be able see each other again until July. So when he walked me back to my car he said “I’ll see you in a couple of weeks”. That got me so excited but also very anxious to know what else is going to happen in the future.
This guy has no idea that I just got out of a relationship. He did not really ask. Basically- I’ve felt a type of connection with this man than I did with my ex. Am I a bad person for moving on so quickly and enjoying my time with another individual? I feel a lot more excited with this stranger than I ever did with my ex. Should I keep trying with this stranger. Should I still go on other dates on tinder or should I really just take a break and just wait what happens with this guy first.
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Made tinder yesterday and started swiping no matches as expected I suppose and I see someone superliked me
Was actually quite happy since she was super pretty and really my type so I liked her not ten minutes later before I could send any messages I get unmatched
That was a downer I guess