POF : Is this common for other women of color or is it just me?

POF : Is this common for other women of color or is it just me?

My friend (white/female/21) had some amazing luck on POF so I decided to give it a try. I am Indian/female/20. I had a great experience with Tinder, but because of a verification issue (I use a private facebook account for Tinder – long story), I couldn’t continue using the app.

I decided to try POF and I was shocked by the overtly racial element involved. I got over 20 messages in my first 2 days. The majority of those who contacted me were black and Hispanic people. There were a few Indian and Middle-Eastern guys, too. But not one white guy!

It seemed like a lot of white guys were viewing my profile and « matching » with me, but then not messaging me. I decided to message some white men myself just to try to get to the bottom of it, but all of them messaged me back! Quite cordially, too, so I’m just confused. There was some amount of hesitance on their part in messaging me first. I just can’t help wondering why.

It’s weird because on Tinder, I had the most luck with white guys! Is it because on Tinder, things are much more hookup-oriented rather than driven by trying to find a long-term relationship? It makes sense to me that most people try to look for people who are more similar to them culturally and racially for a long-term relationship.

Does it have anything to do with the fact that I actually listed my ethnicity as « Indian » whereas on Tinder I didn’t put my ethnicity anywhere?

Just as a disclaimer: I do not find any one race more attractive than the other. I find that I have the most cultural overlap with Indian/Pakistani American and Middle-Eastern American guys, though, so I do tend to have a soft spot for them. I do think this is an interesting phenomenon, so if you all have experienced something similar, I’d love to hear about it!

By. PickyGirlThrowaway