Tinder : Weekly story time thread
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I went on a tinder date I thought it went well we started chatting but odd thing happened today I sent him a message and I got a not delivered message. I know it isn’t on my end because I got messages from other guys and they went through. I message him again and it just says failed I kinda new to tinder I mostly do bumble so I’m not privy on the blocks or anything like that.
Matched with a girl, pretty much immediately talked about hooking up but then she asks me ‘do you wear protection?’. I say I do, since it’s not worth the risk for me. She responds with ‘well, that’s a bummer’. When I reply that I just don’t want to take the risk, so unless me and the other person both have been tested for STD’s, I don’t have sex without protection. Then she goes: so you just assume that every girl has an STD?
I fucking hate tinder.
Weird question, Ive been chatting with a girl earlier in the week and she responded to my messages but disappeared before I could read them.
Thought she’d unmatched (no big deal but she was nice).
Today she appeared again with her messages, 2 days later.
What happened? Why did Tinder hide her? (The app has 100% ruined my chances haha)
I’ve been texting almost every day with a guy from Tinder since the 1st of this month. I really want to meet him, but unfortunately I’m abroad until mid August.
Yesterday we had our first phone call and played some games together until 3am and it was so much fun. I’m just happy.
I’m not a very attractive dating option when I’m a virgin at home with my parents job searching at age 24, have a 20 year old car, and live in a house with security cameras and a smart doorbell. Girls might see me as a deadbeat when they ask the important questions. Im already a month into using Tinder, Bumble and Hinge and have gotten about a collective 40-45 matches over that time with thousands upon thousands of swipes and messages. Only about 10 of them had decent conversations with me. 4 have given me phone numbers. Three were texting me consistently. One is somewhat flakey, the other one I lost interest in, and the other one is out of town. I have had zero dates so far, and I have IRL friends that get dates all the time on these apps and one has an S/O from Hinge, and they haven’t said I’m ugly. I don’t know what I can do different—I pay for Tinder Platinum and Hinge premium.
I wish I could move out tomorrow but I need someone to hire me. All of this is in the back of my mind as I talk with my matches. My logistics and life situation is poor, even though I’m motivated to get out of it. I get matches and it’s like I have to settle for coffee dates or daytime things that I get flaked on. And my parents are retired, so I can’t bring anyone here if I wanted to.
On the flip side, I might just marry a girl who will be with me in spite of my challenges right now. I’m only in a temporary state of confusion. I have a degree and apply to jobs every day in my area. I want to eventually be an engineer and later start a business.
Had a guy start out saying just wanted casual fun.
Within the hour begging to breed me. Moo? Woof?
Alright, from the top.
Broke up with my girlfriend of 4.5 years a couple months ago. Figured I’d try out my luck on tinder. I matched with some people here and there. Mostly inane conversations or no real common ground. A few days ago a girl I superliked matched with me (cue me being hyped but also trying to remain calm in case it doesn’t work out). We’ve been texting a bit for a couple days now and I just asked her to get coffee. Excited to see where things go
Week 268 of a relationship that started on Tinder. Will probably order PF Changs, catch up on The Chi, and see if there are any new movies on-demand that look good and aren’t $29.99
Keep fighting the good fight out there boys, girls, and everything in between.
Feeling like anybody who called me attractive was lying. It’s cool though
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My girlfriend has a match on tinder from 4 weeks ago. We’ve been dating for 3 months is it possible it’s someone she swiped on back then? Or has she been on tinder while we’ve been together. She just deleted the app off her phone I think
about a month ago I posted in the weekly story thread how a girl ghosted me and failed to show up to a date even though the conversation was going really well. Well I matched with her on bumble the other day and she said she lost her phone so that’s why she didn’t text me or anything. Well I texted her and we meet up yesterday and had a great time together. I don’t really get a lot of matches so I am happy I at least got a good match. We will be hanging out today as well.
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So I’m Bi and have had tinder for about 2 weeks. So far, almost all of my matches were other guys, and I apparently have over 99 likes. As an experiment, I decided to change my settings so I only see women. It’s been about 5 days and I haven’t gotten a single match. This app must be hell for straight guys.
So while I was at work, I matched with two different people. They both sent me messages (one even sent two). I also had 3 other notifications from tinder, telling me not to keep my match waiting. Seemed a bit overkill of tinder, but I was at work.
I get home and check. No messages, no matches. ???
I get that people unmatch all the time, but like.. this happens all the time, with EVERY match I get, before I even get a chance to check it or reply back. I am matched, they message, then I check and there’s nothing showing any of it happened.
Is the app broken, or do I just suck? lol
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Saw a good friend’s wife’s profile. Profile was for both of them as a couple, says they’re opening their marriage. Did NOT need to know that, thank god I’m able to left swipe first, hopefully they’ll never see me.
I have never really dated before (only one reaaally ltr) but it would be nice to meet some people again. There’s been some weird people but I matched with this one cute guy (kinda out of my league tbh) and we have a first date planned! I’m excited but I also have no clue what to expect or to do. He said he’s « just seeing where things go » so very specific lol. I haven’t kissed or had sex in a long time – is that a first date thing these days? A second date thing? I feel so lost lol.
Girl I met on tinder came on to me really hard first date . Chick just wants to fuck every time she comes over and cuddle after. I enjoy it but at the same time enjoy a more mental connection and fucking gets tiring after a few times, I want to ask her what she wants . She asked me on tinder if I was looking for a ons or a connection and I said I was looking for someone to spend time with and have a connection with not just sex but I feel like that’s all it’s been .
So I was speaking to a girl I actually fancied for a change and our chat was starting to get going somewhere however I feel I don’t like being too eager and when she text me at 11pm last night I left it till the morning and text her. She followed me on Insta prior and she’s now not messaged back. So I think maybe me taking too long to reply was the problem or I wasn’t flirty enough? Damn I be flirty I get called a player or only wanting one thing.
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Got out of a bad relationship and decided to download tinder.
A lot of girls are messaging me first, but not saying much. Just like “hey” and shit.
But this one girl is really really cute and she just messaged me “wow” and that’s it
Idk how to respond. Her bio is something about having “small titties”
What should I say lol
Recently got back on the apps after deciding to focus on a girl who I had been on a few dates with. She was off with family for 3 weeks, and we had some tentative plans for when she got back. Come Sunday when she got back, she anti-ghosts me and says we should go our own ways. Would’;ve been nice if she told me that earlier but oh well.
Anyway though, I matched with a girl on hinge, and we talked a bit. I got some potential red flags about our conversation style not vibing but I was feeling forward and the conversation was sus so tried to skip to meeting ASAP to see if it was worth it. This got a date scheduled for yesterday. We got coffee, walked a bit, and then got drinks + food.
She was good-looking and we talked a lot. The catch was that we talked almost exclusively about the mechanics of dating and relationships. This was her first date post relationship, so I really got the vibe she wasn’t over her ex and/or wasn’t ready for something else. No judgement there, but that’s not exactly baggage I want to deal with.
If she wants to do something casual, I’m down though.
I have zero matches, the end.
I know being ghosted and getting dry responses is a part of the game, but I wish it was more socially acceptable/not so lame to just be straight up with people.
Connected really well with a girl online, our 1st date went well but she doesn’t kiss on the first date and said she’d give me a « proper one next time ». Anyway, she ends up getting a boob reduction (lol) and over the next week is super dry. I ask if i’m wasting my time (I wanted to know cos I had just ended good banter with another match who turned out to be her close friend lmao) but she says no, she’s just tired from her operation and is still keen. She continues to be a shit replier, but is enthusiastic enough that it doesn’t seem like she’s tryna distance herself. We organise a 2nd date (on my bday no less lol), and I give her a couple of chances to cancel saying another day could work cos she has uni stuff to do, but she still commits to seeing me. Again, dry as fuck, no affection at all… we talk for a couple of days and now i’ve decided not to message her for a few days to see if she initiates chat (she never does) … 2 days and nothing.
How is all that effort and BS better than just telling me you’re not keen? I LITERALLY asked **and** I ended shit with her friend rather than being some fuckboy who tried to play both. I dunno what to do, should I like… speak to her about it?
On my most recent match I truly realized something about myself. I’ve always thought one night stands or very short term relationships would be great but it’s not. I hate it, and I hate the fact I become too attached to women so fast because of intimate (cuddling especially) acts and just the want of wanting to be with someone. I just end up really hurting myself in the end. I know this isn’t a typical story, I just wanted to vent.
Boy do I have a story from a while back that’s worth telling:
So I took a 6 month break off Tinder because I simply was not getting any matches, the ones I did went nowhere and I was at a pretty big lowpoint in my dating life. But it was NYE and I was at an apartment in the city with a friend so decide to DL Tinder again. I do so, and match with this 33yo divorced chick that seemed to be pretty fun and out there. I cbf seeing her that night, so we plan something a couple weeks later. But i’m stoked something positive came from the app.
Turns out she had lost her license for speeding (sends me pics of her driving record like it’s cool to speed???) and so I’m tasked with the job of picking her up from 45 mins away. Fast forward and she’s a pretty intense party-animal (starts raving in my car almost immediately, wants to get GHB for wild sex) and she stays the night at mine.
After a decent night she tells me she’s freezing even though it’s summer in Australia (she’s super skinny, guess she gets cold easily) and asks if she can buy my heater. I say yea sure, a weird request but it makes sense and I never use it. Long story short-ish, **she never pays me for it and stole it.** I ask for the transfer 5 times and she always gives a BS response like « sorry just woke up ». ALSO, SHE OPENED THE LAST MSG I SENT REQUESTING THE $$$ **7 MONTHS** LATER (no reply of course).
What’s more, **she tried to get me to transfer her $3,000** cos she needed money for a settlement with her divorce lawyer or something. I am a dumbass for thinking anything positive could come from this app lol.
tl;dr: a grown-ass adult stole my $250 heater and tried to scam me out of $3k. Sex was good though.
I got two for you this one is long so ill reply the other one to this. I met up with a smokeshow recently and absolutely charmed the shit out of her. No idea I had it in me. She was absurdly attractive. Not even playing the same sport let alone being in my league and she was all over me grabbing my jingus and kissing me and stuff. Its hard to overstate how hot she was and how weird I am. This was a true anomaly. She was on vacation btw.
Towards the end of the night she asks me if I cheated on my ex, actually not even asks just outright assumes I did. Idfk how that comes up but I was like “nah actually, I didnt and I think thats a super shitty thing to do to someone.” She says “Oh I respect that!” Didnt do anything with her because shes staying at a hotel with her friend’s family. I guess the fam arent into letting their daughter’s friend fuck a stranger in their hotel room. Their rules, not mine.
Next day were texting for a bit cause shes supposed to come over for lunch and then completely ghosts me, which sucked because she is gorgeous and I felt like I hit it off. Also I was supposed to cook lunch for her and I spent money on nice food and cheap champaigne cuz fuck it, when in Rome eh. Spend the day pretty upset but mostly confused. I know I killed it and Im pretty certain I didnt say anything super stupid or weird. Also she was touching my wiener through my shorts which is supposed to be a good sign.
Next day she removes me from snap. Immediate lightbulb moment. Flashback to her assuming I cheated on my ex in college, I see it clear as day. Check insta and shes gotta mans. Adds up because she didnt link her insta, she assumed Im a cheater, and she had no personal info whatsoever on her tinder. I figured her insta out through snap and it wasnt hard to find because shes got a ton of followers. Guess she didn’t appreciate my philosophy on adultery. Fucking bitch all around i suppose lol.