Dating : I asked out my crush of 2 years who left my school and she said yes. Today she asked if we could be friends
This is (basically) a throwaway account.
I used to be good friends with this girl and we laughed and talked a lot in class and eventually I grew to have a crush on her. I was going to ask her to the dance but she was asked by another person.
After she left my school, I was sad but I just lived with it because what are you going to do. Last month I talked to her and said I had a crush on her. She then asked me if I wanted to go on a date. She was on vacation for a few weeks before the date but I accepted and even though that date didn’t go according to plan and I just went to her house, we still talked a lot and I really liked her.
I recently got a job and she showed up randomly which made my day. On the job (yeah I know) we talked for an hour and it seemed like that time flew by. After about a week, I asked if we could go on another date, she said sure but said it would have to be a few weeks in the future because she was going and doing stuff.
I said that’s alright but today, I got a text from her and she asked if I could talk. I said “Yo, what’s up.” My heart was beating at this point. She said that she didn’t want to sugar coat it and said we should stay friends. My heart sunk at this point and I said something along the lines of not forcing her to do anything but said we didn’t really give it a chance because I’ve only seen her 2 times since I first asked her 4 weeks ago. She said that we vibed better as friends and she didn’t want to string me along because she cares about me.
This came as a surprise to me because she came up with a nickname she called me (like a stereotypical boyfriend nickname) and I came up with one as well and she said it sounded cute. She also said how she wanted to watch a bunch of movies with me which I was really looking forward to.
I’m not sure what I did wrong or what was wrong. Was I too nonchalant or did I take too much of a friend role and not a dating role? I’m just bummed out at this point. I’m writing this as soon as it just happened so I haven’t had time to fully process it yet. My rant is over.
Really hard to tell what other people are thinking. But it sounds like she might be playing games. Some girls do that. Honestly. Be her friend if you want but don’t be her lap dog. Don’t run when she snaps her fingers. Don’t cancel plans for her. Set your boundaries and keep them. Gaurd your heart with her.
U did nothing wrong. Sometime u can play all the right cards and she just wont be into u. And tbh, she is most likely talking to somewhere else which could be why she lost interest later on. It happens, move on and find someone better
Most likely nothing. This probably has more to do with her than you. People change their minds about dating, especially when they’re young. You get older, this will happen less and less often. But it’ll still happen, it happens to everyone. It sucks, but eventually you’ll find some great matches who will stay interested in you.