Why is my man distant? Response from an expert
When we try to decipher the gestures of men in love, we must first understand and accept the fact that there are differences, I am not talking here about the physical but indeed the behavior, and therefore several ways of conceiving love and the couple. It is essential to start with this principle and not to expect the one you want to seduce today to do the same thing as the man you knew two or three years ago. Many women are demanding and you are right to be, you must not give the first comer a chance, but you must also know how to play down and not put too much pressure on your partner, at the risk of scaring him away.
For a while you have been around a man who corresponds to you and you love him deeply. However, not everything is as idyllic as it seems, you would like a trait of his character to be less prominent. He is on the reserve or at least he does not necessarily invest fully in the relationship. So when we say to ourselves « my man is distant » we automatically ask ourselves questions at the same time and we wonder if he has always been like that or if it appeared recently. We are therefore afraid that it is a lack of feelings and that the relationship is weakened.
Is it a reality? Is his love gone? How to proceed so that he is more present both emotionally and physically? Many women are in this situation, you are not alone. So it’s time to put a process in place, to understand it first and then be able to act to change the situation and make efforts. But don’t worry, I’ll explain everything to you here!
Why is my man distant?
After years together or even just a few passionate weeks, it is often difficult to understand this sudden desire and even this need for distance that emanates from your man. Everything was going well but overnight he decided not to behave as before and to take a step back. He can act without saying anything but many are not afraid to assert themselves is to clearly say that they want the distance.
I’m not talking about a break, you have to distinguish between the desire to break and the desire to breathe a little, these are two very different things.
When a man puts distance with his partner or with his girlfriend it is often because the routine has become too important. In the longest stories, feelings are taken for granted and therefore no more effort is put into it. Be careful, I am not saying that you are the one and only responsible because in reality the two members of the couple can be « guilty ». However he decided to take the lead by changing his habits in order to perhaps make you react before it’s too late.
When it comes to shorter stories, it’s often wanting to spend too much time together, always being on top of each other and wanting to plan too quickly without taking the time to get to know each other. promotes his desire to step back. Everything is beautiful and rosy at the beginning of the relationship but very quickly we come down from our cloud. We no longer see our family, our friends, we talk to each other for hours on the phone, we do not let ourselves breathe and even if the passion is there and love seems to be there, we are afraid of the future and we says to himself that spending all his life with a woman who sticks to us, who wants to accompany us everywhere and who in addition is jealous can be difficult to bear.
Let us not forget either the social circle which can play an important role in the behavior of the one who shares your life. Indeed, many women who say to themselves » my man is distant »Also criticizes him for spending too much time with his friends. It is therefore not a problem of feelings but more dating that explains his behavior and his decline. Reconciling love and friendship is not always easy, especially in emerging stories during which we do not necessarily want to invest fully from the start.
How to make him more involved in the couple
It is first of all important to give an essential reminder so as not to aggravate the situation or provoke your man. You have to take a step back and not immediately see the harm. If he has decided not to spend the evening with you because there is a soccer game and he wants to go to his best friend’s house to watch him, there is no fire in the lake and he should not assume that he doesn’t love you, that he doesn’t care about you. In these conditions, avoid seizures because a man also needs to feel free.
For the couple to be very strong it is important to have a secret garden, not to always do things as a couple but also to have those moments during which you can spend time with your loved ones, your friends. So do not be too demanding and do not assume that he must always do everything with you, it is not good for your relationship and for you personally.
Nevertheless, some of you know a real lack of commitment from their men and do not know how to react to make him change and invest a little more in the relationship. In this situation it will therefore be necessary to change these habits.
I take the examples of the short relationship that starts off with a bang but which has difficulty in lasting over time and of the long relationship in which feelings give the impression of being acquired. Quite simply because it is often in this type of relationship that we find distance, that the man wants to temporize and that he tends to move away little by little.
In order for the relationship to run smoothly and stabilize, it is important not to immediately put pressure on it and assume that everything is done according to him. It is essential not to quickly fall into a routine and spend all your time on the phone for hours without telling you anything in particular. You have to offer new things, fun activities for example, in order to promote feelings. same if a man is on reserve because it’s the beginning of the relationship, don’t hesitate to be enterprising.
When it comes to longer relationships, you don’t necessarily have all these questions that come to your mind and that bothers you. For example, you don’t ask yourself if you like him or if he will engage quite simply because it is already the case! But that does not mean that you have to stay at home doing nothing and no longer take actions to continue to seduce him. Some men are afraid of women and don’t want to get involved, but if you’ve been together for years there’s no reason to think he doesn’t want to go further and for thathe is on the reserve. Therefore, you must take actions to bring renewal, whether it is on a physical, sexual or psychological level. To go further in the behavior to adopt, I recommend reading my book in ebook format accessible immediately and which is entitled 35 rules to save your marriage.
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The coach when my man is distant
Alexandre CORMONT
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Alexandre Cormont
Love Coach, author and lecturer in the fields of seduction, the life of a couple and the reconquest. Since 2007, thousands of men and women have used its services.
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