5 reasons that can explain why he suddenly distances himself
Scenario 1
Until then, everything was going for the best. You were in love and happy. Everything seemed perfect in the best of all possible worlds.
All of your friends were jealous of how lucky you were to have found each other and the harmony that reigned between you.
He was gentle, caring and respectful. Every now and then he would give you little gifts to show you how much he cared for you.
He accepted you for who you are and did not seek to change you or force you out of your comfort zone.
He was aware of your good qualities and your faults, but he loved you unconditionally. Besides, he seemed to see you as his future wife.
He had never behaved in an aggressive or violent manner. He had never yelled at you or showed signs of hostility.
You seemed on the way to pure and perfect happiness. As if you were living a real fairy tale.
Scenario 2
You dated a couple of times and, despite how little time passed, you felt like you were meant for each other.
He didn’t hesitate to call you just to ask how your day was going or to send you adorable little messages.
He started the conversation and seemed perfectly honest and sincere. Besides, you were starting to create a strong emotional bond based on trust and respect.
You were already talking about the potential for developing a lasting and happy romantic relationship. You were on cloud nine!
A sudden change
Whatever your relationship situation (scenario 1 or scenario 2), all of a sudden, you noticed that his behavior had changed.
You now feel like you have a complete stranger in front of you. And, the man you knew no longer exists.
Your partner is no longer paying you any attention. He no longer gives you gifts and he no longer calls you to simply say “I love you” or “I am thinking of you”.
Your man no longer even answers your calls or your messages. He seems cold, lost and inaccessible. He turned into someone unrecognizable.
As if everything you had shared so far didn’t exist and as if you were just acquaintances who didn’t feel anything for each other.
Your partner has become distant in every sense of the word. So you start to question yourself because you think you are the cause of this drastic change.
What did I do wrong? Is he mad at me? Did I say something wrong?, etc …
Dozens of questions are jostling in your head and you can’t seem to think rationally and logically.
You’re afraid that this abrupt change may mean that he doesn’t love you anymore or that he wants to end your romantic relationship.
You are afraid to sit down with him for a chat because you think he will ignore you. And, you don’t know where to look for advice.
You are convinced that even if you manage to get him to talk, he is not going to be sincere with you. As if he was hiding something terrible.
You jump to conclusions without really being aware of what is going on. Besides, you have absolutely no idea what’s going on.
The reasons for distancing
Before you panic and dig deep into the situation, you need to understand that sometimes this distancing has nothing to do with feelings.
Just because he’s cold towards you doesn’t necessarily mean that he doesn’t love you anymore or that he wants to leave you.
Sometimes the reasons for such behavior are much more complex and completely isolated from your romantic relationship.
After all, you are not just a couple. You are individual people who have separate lives outside of your marriage.
Friendship, family, or work relationships can have such a negative impact on a person that they cannot help but transfer these emotions to their partner.
So, before jumping into the conclusions, let’s take a look at the five most common reasons men have that may explain your partner’s estrangement.
Only, once you have eliminated with certainty the other possible reasons, you can begin to doubt the sincerity of your romantic relationship.
Don’t question her feelings or your relationship without trying to figure out what is really going on in her personal life.
Before acting, take the time to analyze his behavior and ask him the questions essential to your understanding of his state of mind.
1. He has a deep need to isolate himself.
Even if you are madly in love with each other, you still feel the need to spend time on your own.
In any case, it is his case. So if you don’t feel like he enjoys your company as much, it may be because he needs to isolate himself.
He certainly wants to find himself a little alone to recharge his batteries. He just needs a little space for himself.
It has nothing to do with his feelings for you. This is a very normal need that shouldn’t be of concern to you.
So let him breathe a little and let him know that you are happy to accept his urge.
Give him the opportunity to recharge his batteries because he will come back even more in love and aware of how lucky he is to have you.
2. He is going through a period of extreme stress and does not really want to talk about it.
Many men feel that they are not allowed to talk about stressful situations they are going through. As the stronger sex, they would be said to be immune (!). Well let’s see …
They are convinced that they have to deal with their problems on their own, without anyone’s help, like real men. Yes I know…
In 90% of cases, a man who distances himself from his partner is because he is crumbling under stress.
It could be related to his job, his family, or any other situation that has nothing to do with you. He is losing control of his life and he can’t stand the idea.
This is why he chooses to hide and isolate himself in order to find the solution to his problem. And, whatever you do, it won’t let you penetrate its tough shell.
So, if you know his distancing is related to some concern like this, or if you are successful in getting him to talk about it, you have to understand that you can’t help him.
You must let him find the solution on his own and let him know that you understand that he is going through a difficult time.
3. Would he be jealous?
Does he seem to have doubts every time you go out on your side? Does he go to great lengths to impress you?
Does he behave strangely when you talk to other men or when you mention a friend? If the answer is yes, his distancing may be caused by jealousy.
If you haven’t done anything to feel guilty about causing him to behave like this, have a frank discussion.
Ask him directly if the fact that he has distanced himself is related to his tendencies to be jealous. If his answer is yes, ask him for an explanation.
Without forcing him too much, try to get him to speak on this subject in order to understand the causes of his jealousy.
Then reassure him that he has no reason to worry or doubt you. Tell her that you love her and that you don’t intend to break the trust that binds you.
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4. Engagement scares him.
Do you have the feeling that he is sending you mixed messages? One day he behaves like a real gentleman and a man madly in love.
But, another day, he goes out of his way to avoid you and shows no sign of tenderness. Men who are afraid of commitment tend to behave like this.
They are in love and they would really like to spend the rest of their life with their partner, but that doesn’t stop them from being afraid of the seriousness of the romantic relationship.
Why does he adopt this attitude? In their minds, to engage means to give up their freedom. So, before they take that big step, they want to be 100% sure of their choice.
If they are not completely convinced that they can be happy with their partner, they will question their romantic relationship.
The only thing left for you to do in this kind of case is to make sure you don’t push it away. Then give her enough space to make her own decision.
5. Does he want to break up with you?
How often do you argue? Do you have trouble remembering your last meaningful conversation?
Is he cheating on you? Is he on purpose to neglect you and disregard your wishes? Is he lying to you?
If you are asking yourself these questions, you may have come to a point of no return in your romantic relationship.
Either the passion that once united you has disappeared and he does not know how to rekindle it or he wants to break up with you permanently. Ouch!
Maybe he is unfaithful to you and by ignoring you he is hoping to push you to leave because he knows he has made a serious mistake. He feels guilty.
In this kind of case, you don’t have thirty-six solutions: you have to be direct with him. Just ask him what’s going on.
As you can see, there are many reasons that can cause a man to distance himself.
Some have nothing to do with you, so there is no reason to panic or question your relationship.
On the other hand, if you have the sincere impression that his cold behavior is related to the fact that he no longer loves you or that he no longer wants to be with you, talk frankly.
Either way, you have nothing more to lose. This will prevent you from wasting more time and ending up with a broken heart.
How to make react a man who distances himself?
If your partner has moved away because their feelings for you have changed, you need to come to terms with yourself and come to terms with the situation.
Sit down and have a sincere discussion. Say what’s on your mind and move on. You cannot change his feelings or his desire to be alone.
On the other hand, what can you do if his distancing has nothing to do with you. Even if he chose to take a step back because of personal issues, that doesn’t mean his behavior didn’t have an impact on your romantic relationship.
So how do you fix this broken link? How do you feel close again? What can be done to once again establish a climate of trust and serenity? How to make him react?
1. Relativize
Men and women do not behave the same when they are under the weight of stress. Besides, when they are in love either.
Yes, most women don’t hesitate to talk about how they feel. Men, on the other hand, prefer to be more discreet.
They distance themselves to better manage their problems. And, you have to accept the idea that you don’t function the same way.
Besides, maybe the fact of taking his distances is for him a way of protecting you. Indeed, he may not want you to see him in this state.
He doesn’t try to worry you so he withdraws and tries to solve his problems on his own. Of course, this is the opposite of what you would do.
But, this distancing is the ideal time for you to learn to relativize. Try to see it from his point of view.
By showing him that you are supporting him in his …
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