POF : This is what I have to deal with on here (conversation).
So when I finally get a conversation going this is how they tend to go (Little to no effort on her end):
ME: Hey!!!
Her: hello 🙂
Me: Doesn’t everyone treat their mother with respect and love her with all their heart? 🙂
Are you doing the salsa in that dancing picture?
(I commented on the fact that she said she wants a man that treats their mother with respect and a picture of her dancing).
Her: Ya I am and no they don’t.
Me: They don’t? Awful! What a terribly sad thought…
Interestingly, I just joined salsa dancing. I’m in my third class, I figured it’s time for me to learn some rhythm; not that I don’t already have some serious rhythm, but I just need a little bit more.
I quite enjoy it. How long have you done it?
Her: Couple years on and off 🙂
How am I suppose to work with these conversation ending responses? I rarely come across a girl who allows for natural flow of convo.
What do I even say to this? Does this mean she’s not interested?
By. nodate
Don’t use chat. They are likely not giving you their full attention.
Not necessarily commenting on that one in particular, but on any similar one that might happen in the future…
First, keep in mind that women can be as bad and clueless at this as we are.
And second, your questions were pretty straightforward. Almost yes/no questions. Either have more open questions, or take the answer and respond to it as you did (I think you had a decent train of thought there).
Also, something I’m personally watching when writing : never use negative language. I basically banned the words sad, awful, pity, etc. from my vocabulary. I try to always have positive thoughts on everything.
Hope that helps you somehow… 🙂
Women get overwhelmed with messages from dudes. So, you are against the stream here. Most women have 5 to 100 messages in their inbox and if they are on « chat » they are receiving many of them.
If she or any woman can’t respond with more than a few words, it’s not worth your time. Stop wasting it.
If you want to continue.. go for it, but I’ve warned you. Is she interested? she’s just chatting with you.. whenever she has time. Unless they give you more in a message, it’s hard to tell.
Go to more salsa lessons and salsa meetups. You crave conversation.
She is probably shy or doesn’t know how to keep the conversation going I end up giving short messages because I don’t know what to say or if I’m not interested it’s really short.
You are not alone. I’ve come across many girls who are just dead end conversations. Just gotta realize they don’t have much to say, probably won’t be a fun date, and move on. Doesn’t matter how « hot » they are. If the date is boring because you are the only one talking, you will eventually run out of topics, things will get awkwardly silent and you wont get any with her anyway cause in her mind the date is boring and its your fault. Don’t waste your time, move on.