h2>Dating : Why Tinder Is The Worst Social-Media Platform In The World!
As one who has spent a great deal of time studying both psychology and technology (and their intersection around well-being), IMO Tinder is the WORST SOCIAL MEDIA PLATFORM on the planet (psychologically and socially). It quite literally and 100% by design, captures and exploits the lowest, most primitive and ego-driven sexual and superficial drives of human psychology and then through (also intentional and by design) basic psychological “tricks” feeds those primitive and egoic drives to keep you coming back for more. In other words, platforms like Tinder emphasize and exploit the SUPERFICIAL ASPECTS about human nature and take us further away from the deep, authentic and self-transcendent states and values which not only foster individual happiness and well-being, but community welfare and cohesion. By over-emphasizing external, superficial, inauthentic, physical sexual attributes and needs which are ego-driven, the platform de-emphasizes the more meaningful, deep, authentic, psychological and self-transcendent (egoless) values which make us human and provide long-lasting happiness and well-being.
I intend to write something more in depth and with more supporting research, but for now here are a few articles to help better understand how Tinder works and what it means if you are “seeking love”. Short answer, don’t bother. Those who value deep, intimate, authentic (non-material), self-transcending and conscious relationships will not use a platform intended and designed for superficial, physical, material and sexual/ego needs — PERIOD. If you use Tinder (and similar apps), you will get (no surprise) exactly what the platform was designed for and who it appeals to most — those who seek superficial, physical/sexual short-term conquests and who’s personal values and ego rest solidly in the external/physical realms rather than the non-material, internal, authentic and soulful or self-transcendent realms of the sacred. In other words you are very unlikely to find anyone genuinely spiritually or psychologically “awakened” on the platform since it’s designed around the EXACT OPPOSITE TRAITS (those which diminish) for person’s who have had an “awakening experience” (Taylor, 2012) or have authentic, heart/soul-based and non-material value systems.
Tinder even openly supports/provides tips on how to use various psychological “tricks” to manipulate potential “hookups”. In other words, rather than honestly acknowledging the dangers of social-media and bringing healthy, morally responsible suggestions to its members on how to avoid being controlled by the platform or manipulated/deceived by others, they OPENLY EMBRACE using “Sneaky Psychological Tricks” to manipulate/deceive others and to be more successful on your sleazy, inauthentic, superficial and sexually/physically-motivated quest to “hook-up”.
On a personal note, along with my “what do you think of my plan to wear skirts” as a litmus test for potential dates. I think I will now be asking potential dates if they ever used Tinder.
Note: These are my PERSONAL views of Tinder and do not represent the views of Medium or anyone else.
(1) The Science Behind What Tinder Is Doing to Your Brain
(2) 4 Sneaky Psychological Tricks for Tinder Domination
https://www.tinderseduction.com/4-sneaky-psychological-tricks-for-tinder-domination/
(3) How Tinder Accidentally Exposed Society’s Inherent Racism
https://www.inverse.com/article/36379-tinder-black-women-asian-men-racism
(4) What Statistics Tells About Tinder
https://.com/yulyas-blog/what-real-statistics-tells-about-tinder-and-how-to-get-more-matches-according-to-it-8e984b822813
(5) This is Tinder On Your Brain
https://www.refinery29.com/en-us/2018/09/210347/tinder-psychology-dating-apps-brain
(6) Taylor, S. (2012). SPONTANEOUS AWAKENING EXPERIENCES: BEYOND RELIGION AND SPIRITUAL PRACTICE. Journal of Transpersonal Psychology. 44(1). 73–91.
