Dating : How to Glue Yourself Together When Things Break Apart

Ah, break ups. No matter how they end, they suck. There’s no way to sugarcoat it. And most of the time, boys suck too.

Through my own experiences, I’ve felt it can be hard to get back on your feet and “glue” yourself together again after a breakup. With that being said, I thought I would share a few words of wisdom that helped me regain confidence and get back to being me.

I put this first because it’s SO important. Step away from social media!!! Stalking his page or going through your pictures together will only make things worse. You can’t dwell on what was, you have to focus on what’s to come. Depending on the breakup, I would consider muting your ex or taking a break from social media all together. Or block him. Do you girl.

Coming from experience, it always stings viewing his “I’m so drunk and happy and loving my life” Snapchat at 1:30am in a frat basement (he’s probably faking it) and trying to convince yourself you’re just as fine. In order to focus on yourself and your future, it’s best to click that mute (or block) button and keep moving.

The only exception is if you’re logging on to post a cute selfie. Then it’s okay.

I realize everyone is different, but I personally find the busier I am, the better I am. I recommend diving into your job, schoolwork, sport, hobby, or whatever you can to keep yourself moving and focused on something else. I’m not telling you to swallow your emotions and avoid how you’re feeling, but the more time you spend doing nothing, the more time you have to think about him.

After a breakup, you can feel like you’ve lost a part of yourself. I recommend doing something for you and you alone. It can be as simple as going for a run, starting a really good book or buying that shirt you’ve been eying online. This is the time to remind yourself you’re in control of your life. You have passions and strengths and deserve to feel good about the life you’re living again.

Now more than ever, it’s time to embrace time with your girls and confide in people you trust. There’s nothing better than a girls’ night out (or in) to remind yourself you’re not alone! Getting through a breakup is hard but getting through it alone is even harder. Grace got me chicken nuggets and let cry on her floor for 10 hours. It’s called friendship.

Share how you feel with those you trust so they can check up on you and get you going. I’m beyond thankful for the girls in my life who brought me back to myself many… many times.

Alright this one is cheesy, but I swear it helps.

I’m a huge fan of quotes. We know this. But I’m also a huge fan of daily affirmations.

Every morning when I took a shower, I would repeat affirmations to myself as a reminder. You can say what you think you need that day… but I would usually try to hype myself up, say what I’m thankful for, or list things I was looking forward to that day. Any positivity you can instill in your mind before conquering the day will make a difference in how you view yourself and your life.

Here are some examples to get you started:

I also recommend finding a really good quote and making it your lock screen. A few of my favorites…