Dating : 3 Flirting Tricks to Help You AVOID The Friend Zone with Your Crush

Is there someone that you wanna get closer to but you find it really difficult because they only see you as a friend?

You probably need to start flirting with them.

Flirting is something you should be doing with everyone: friends, crushes, and just about anyone you interact with. In fact, flirting is something you should just incorporate into your overall behavior. To flirt with someone is to create a little bit of tension in the conversation that draws them in more to really want to talk to you. If you can master that art of just flirting and creating tension with anyone, they’ll be way more apt to pay attention to that conversation, to share their opinions, and to hear what you have to say.

So how do you create that level of tension and get your crush more interested in talking to you romantically?

Whenever your crush expresses a really strong opinion about something, ask yourself: do I agree with this or do I disagree with this? Most of the time the reason why people get friend-zoned is that their response is usually more neutral and safe. Their crush might say something like “this is the best tv show ever!” and you’ll respond with “yeah, I think it’s pretty cool” and that just kind of kills the buzz of it all.

Try to have a much stronger opinion about things because that’s gonna help create tension because whether you choose to agree or disagree is going to work in your favor. Here’s a good example.

Agree

If your crush says that the Mandalorian is the best tv show ever, that they’re a huge Star Wars fan, by agreeing with them, you might just kind of dive into that and say “Oh my god, you are 100% correct. Listen, you and me, we see eye to eye here. Like, it’s us against the world because no one else likes The Mandalorian as much as we do.”

Disagree

Or if you disagree you might want to say something like “Oh my god, that’s it. We can no longer be friends. The Mandalorian is the most boring tv show ever! I don’t know how we’re going to recover from this”. By agreeing, you’re showing your crush that the two of you just get each other. That no one else understands things the way that you two do and by disagreeing, you’re creating a bit of tension there. You’re showing your crush that woah, we don’t see eye to eye on everything. How are we gonna make this work? And that might actually pull them in more to try to find more in common with you.

And once you can nail that down, the next big thing that a lot of people do that ends up making them get even more friend-zoned is they tend to compliment their crush and then leave it at that. You’re going to be the type of person that compliments them but also adds a funny joke along with it. Remember, the whole point here is to build that tension.

You can call this technique the cocky compliment and what makes it so much different from what the average friend-zoned person does is you’re not just complimenting them or waiting for a compliment or positive response back. Instead, you’re setting the tone for what you want to happen next. A normal friend-zoned person might complement their crush by saying something like “wow, you look really beautiful today” and then leave it there and then wait for their crush to respond with something pretty neutral like “aww thanks, it really means a lot”.

But a person giving a cocky compliment might say “Wow, you look good today. Have I asked you out yet, because I’m pretty sure I’m gonna ask you out? So where do you wanna go grab lunch?” Only for their crush to respond with “Aww thanks, how about we go grab food at the mall?”.

The difference between a regular compliment and a cocky compliment is your level of confidence and intention.

When a person is friend-zoned, they tend to lack the confidence to really make bold statements like that with their crush so, if you want to change things up you gotta be straight and shoot with them.

Tell them what you want, you want to date them.

You want to ask them out. Don’t hide away from it.

But don’t just read that as confessing your love for them. If you’re someone that has incredibly strong feelings about your crush, you might feel this deep desire within you to just lay it all out there on the table, to just confess how you feel and hope they feel the same way but by doing that, you’re really just making things awkward. You’re catching that person off-guard because you really haven’t worked towards seeing how they feel about you and giving them a reason to feel that same way.

I know what that’s like because I’ve done that before. I’ve befriended girls in the past that I secretly had deep feelings for only to, later on, reveal those feelings just to get friend-zoned. And what I should have been doing to build attraction is this. Every time I interact with them, every time I feel like we had a deep connection or there was a moment that we shared where the two of us are on that same page I should have said something like “Woah, this is really weird. I’m getting this real close vibe with you and I don’t know what to make of that. Do you feel that too?”. By saying something like that, you are subtly letting them know that there’s a bit of chemistry there. That you’re picking up on it and you want to see if they’re picking up on it too. If they’re not, they may say something like “I don’t know what you’re talking about, you’re just a friend of mine” and therefore you know not to continue to pursue them but by planting that seed you’re letting them see that there’s a potential that something might actually grow from this.

And that’s not just something you want to do once. It’s something you want to consistently do as you interact with them.

You might just want to drop more lines like that by saying “Woah, I don’t know why but I see you kind of differently now. I don’t know, there’s something about you that you just look really really cute today”. Saying things like that is going to help start to plant the idea that you view them in a romantic light. It’s way better to do it like than then to just kind of unload your feelings and say something like “I’ve always loved you. I’ve always wanted to be with you, will you be mine?”.

But take note, if you are going to do that you have to follow up by asking them out. This isn’t just a matter of flirting flirting flirting and hoping that they ask you out, you need to be confident enough to go after what you want which is pursuing an actual relationship with them. And it’s only going to happen, you’re only going to escape that friend zone if you’re willing to take that leap and try.