Dating : Why I swipe right on every profile on Tinder

This insight was originally posted by Alban Duro on Plozee to the situation Men swipe right more often than women on dating apps.

I see a few of you talking about guys who swipe right all the time. I’ll bite. I’m one of these guys. I’ll share some insight into why I do this.

For one, it is time efficient. I can spend hours liking or rejecting profiles and I’ll be lucky to get a match after all that effort. When I like every profile, it is as if I have a premium service that is only showing me users who like me. I can get this list after 5 minutes of work. Sounds like a good deal to me.

I frequently hear the argument that what I do is inconsiderate. No one likes being ghosted or instantly unmatched. I understand and I feel bad sometimes. But my response to this is that online dating is inconsiderate and superficial in itself. Rejecting someone on the basis of a cursory glance is no more considerate than matching with someone and instantly unmatching.

Sometimes I am told I should care more about the feelings of users I unmatch. But this isn’t something I just do. I have experienced it myself. I get excited when I match with someone I like, only for them never to reply to my message or to unmatch me straight away.

Also as a guy it can truly be disheartening to go on online dating. How many times have I seen a woman’s profile dehumanizing someone who does not meet their height preferences? Too many to count.

But this also factors in to why I swipe right on everyone. There are few apps out there that can really destroy my self esteem like dating apps can. When I swipe right on everyone, I don’t have to read countless profiles putting me down for something I have no control over. It allows me to use dating apps without affecting my mental health.

So when I like every profile, I admit I am being a bit inconsiderate of other users’ feelings. But liking every profile is, for me, a protective strategy. I don’t have to SEE the profiles of users i swipe right on. Whenever I use online dating apps how they normally should be used, I always feel worse afterwards. Unfortunately I’m not perfect, and they let me know it. So it comes down to two alternatives. One is getting no matches and feeling horrible each time I use a dating app. Or the alternative is to like every profile, get a few matches and not have to read about how I don’t meet a number of unattainable standards.