h2>Dating : 3 Tips to Destroy Your Neediness Forever
The other day, I heard question from a woman, around my age, about how she could help her dad get over his oneitis.
If you don’t know, oneitis is having tunnel vision for a single woman. So much that you go to great lengths to try and make her you’re woman. You’re spending huge chunks of your paychecks on her, taking her to elaborate dinners, double-triple-quadruple texting her, stalking her social media, etc.
This kind of neediness is a kind of syndrome sweeping across the men of our nation. And there are a couple of reasons for it that I’ll go into at another time.
Sometimes, the feeling of neediness can creep up on a man undetected. This happens from time to time.
But, when a man is chronically romanticizing any woman who looks at him a certain way, and obsessing over her, that’s when it becomes a problem.
Going back to the girl’s dad I mentioned above, his oneitis for his ex-wife was so bad that he was taking her on cruises, pocket-draining trips to Vegas, and telling his ex-wife that she could “have a boyfriend on the side” as long as she got back with him.
That’s oneitis at it’s worst.
With all of this laid out, I want to share three tips to disintegrate your needinesss. Now, this isn’t a foolproof plan.
As I said above, if you’re not aware, that neediness can creep up on you and consume you.
Enough talk, let’s jump in here:
- Quit Porn
Porn is evil.
I’ve said it before, I’ll say it a hundred more times.
But you might be asking how it makes you needy. And if you ask me that, I’ll look at you like you have a penis growing out of your forehead.
Because porn is a neediness needle. It injects neediness into whoever watches it.
And that’s because when you watch porn, your brain associates women with recreational pleasure.
Watch porn enough times, and your brain starts to think women are the only source of pleasure.
So things like going on long hikes, playing sports, etc don’t give you the same “high” as watching porn does. And thus, you start to think women are the sole source of pleasure.
When one finally gives you the time of day, your brain starts flipping through all the ways you can land her in your bed.
And when she inevitably starts to pull away due to your aggressive chasing, you double down, and it gets ugly.
So point is, quit porn.
Is it easy?
No.
But, the value you receive from it is tremendous.
2. Disconnect From Soft Media
Look. I love music.
I love watching Netflix and movies to wind down at night.
However, if you feel the neediness bug coming on inside of you, disconnect from soft media. By soft media, I mean media that’s romantic, lovey-dovey, and ooey-gooey.
This type of music, movie, show, will mess with your mind.
It will make you do things you normally wouldn’t do “in the name of love”. And acting on these urges will make you look like a jackass in the long run.
3. Go Out
Lots of men pool women from their work place, and that’s it.
To avoid neediness, you need to get multiple poles in the water, with different bait on each.
That way, you ensure two things…
One, that you’re meeting a bunch of cute gals,
And two, you’re going to land you one.
So you can kick your feet up and relax while the women do the rough work of chasing you.
That means, you can avoid shitting where you eat, and pool women from dating apps (not recommended), clubs, bars, coffee shops, wherever.
Bonus tip: Develop Autonomous Confidence
Autonomous Confidence is confidence that you pull out of yourself. It doesn’t require a particular place, or people, or setting to come out.
It’s with you wherever you go.
