h2>Dating : 4 Steps to Become Dead Honest
Post №7
This is a post of a series of articles. It’s important to start from the beginning.
If you’ve read my previous post you probably know that becoming truly honest, can improve your life and personality in so many positive ways.
I talked about some extreme, inconvenient measure I’ve had to take in order to alter my bad habits.
But now, I want to be more practical.
What things you should do in order to become honest, changing the way you communicate, improving you self confidence, you social satisfaction and love your self in ways you’ve never before?
- Think about all the things your’e ashamed of, some examples may be: Your body, your acne, your relationships inexperience, your financial issues, your penis size, your work etc.
- Think what you’ve done until now regarding these issues, I you never took your shirt off at the beach, bought too many expensive shoes to hide your financial status, uploaded to many stories to instagram just to make people think your’e having fun, refraining from getting dressed in the gym’s wardrobes so people won’t see your penis/ass/belly/shoulder/breast or whatever.
- Go public! Do the opposite! Get dressed in this gym’s wardrobe, stop posting stories on instagram, take of your shirt on the beach, talk about you deepest secrets with some of your friends. Keep doing this, it will be super hard and confusing in the beginning but as time will pass, things that felt impossible before, will feel less and less disturbing and unnatural.
- Don’t think about what people will think because of the bizzare topics you’re talking about right now or the fact that nobody has ever seen your 400lbs (180 Kg) body but now they are. Keep doing it, in the sake of making yourself feel better about yourself. This process is about you remember?
- Keep going for at least two months.
It is going to be hard. You are going to feel uncomfortable, you’ll doubt yourself and me and say to yourself how you’re all fine and none of this garbage is needed. But if you’ve read until here, you have a problem, which is no easy to solve, and don’t tell yourself otherwise. Don’t let excuses hold you stuck. Keep going, big discoveries are made only when taking risks and conducting dangerous experiments.
It will be weird, and disturbing, and people will think you’re odd and have lack of awareness, but deep inside, you’re in the midst of a process, which cannot be terminated before it is fully completed.
And after few weeks, you’ll start see the light in the end of the tunnel. You’ll be less stressful, less ashamed, anxiety will jump out the window and you’ll be able to discuss every topic with everyone.
You’ll start to feel like you finally accept yourself. That’s the way it works.
When you go public, knowing that everybody knows your deepest secrets, you have no choice but to accept them.
Go public, stop the shame, be different, it will pay off eventually.
See you on the next post,
David.
