Dating : 7 Questions We Should All Ask Ourselves After A Breakup

Personally, this is the most important question.

Our ex might have refused to commit, keeping things perpetually casual. Or perhaps at the beginning, they did seem eager to commit, yet as the relationship demanded more, they pulled back.

I believe that in many ways we attract a mirror of our deepest fears. Hence maybe, we were just as emotionally unavailable as them.

We may have wanted a relationship for all the wrong reasons. To get over someone else, avoid feeling lonely, strong initial infatuation, idealizing the other, boosting our self-esteem, or simply filling a void within.

Or maybe we’re just so scared of getting hurt that we keep the other at an arms-length, unable to genuinely connect emotionally and share our deepest vulnerabilities.

Thus, when one attempts to deepen the bond, the other party either unconsciously pulls away or begins to generate a range of issues, both options ultimately sabotaging the relationship.

In such cases, our connection isn’t based on genuine love and kinship, but rather on what the other has to offer that benefits us, clouded by our fear of real emotional investment.

If this resonates with you, then work on truly opening your heart to love, releasing expectations, fears, and ego-based needs.