Dating : A Love Letter to My Future Beau

I need monogamy to feel safe. I need to know that you’re healthy before we become intimate and that you want to know that I’m healthy, too. I need to know I can trust that you will respect my needs and my body.

I like all kinds of things in the bedroom, but mostly, I want to feel valued. Like I matter to you.

Let me feel beautiful by the way you touch and observe me. No matter where you touch me, let your fingers and tongue linger. Talk to me. Ask me what I like. Show me that my pleasure is important to you.

Let me believe we have all the time in the world.

Tell me everything you like. Whisper it to me. One statement at a time. Guide me with your words.

Take the time to look at me. Look in my eyes. Hold my face in your hand, palm under my jaw. Pull me in for a kiss. Then look at me.

Do this again and again. Take my face in your hands and make me stop and look at you. Touch my nose with your nose. Share a breath with me. Look at me. See me. And remind me to see you.

Say yes to me. Say you want me to let go, drop all my socially acceptable masks. Say I can lose myself with you. That you will accept this wildness in me without judgment.

No. Say that you love it. You love my wildness. You need it.

I need yours, too.